Men: "All dating apps are shit"

I am writing this post to understand the pros and cons of different dating apps from the customer side point of view.

I have been using the prominent dating apps since quite some time, they work well initially but slowly the experience feels like a drag. It’s just a bunch of connections you talk to and it mostly ends up being a dead conversation. I realised when you engage with users who are genuinely looking to date it’s much easier to meet up since everyone is aligned. My hypothesis is that adding more friction on onboarding (not blindly adding this ofcourse) could weed out the users with low intent and leave you with a high quality user base. What do you guys think is the problem with dating apps in general? P.S: this is a random 5am thought and I had to post it since I can’t stop thinking about it and wanted to hear other, and probably smarter, people out haha 🙌

The good, the bad and the ugly. What has been your experience with online dating apps?

the purpose of dating apps is not to find you a partner, but to ensure you keep using it and pay for their products as long as possible that's how they are engineered, intentionally. why would they let their paying customers go away ?

Which dating app works in Bengaluru? I am an average looking guy and single. Honestly just wanna like company of someone. I tried bumble and tinder but not getting matches (both premium). I don't know why. Feeling a lot lonely nowadays.

Saw an acquaintance using bumble. The men in profiles literally look highly successful, From IIT, IIM, NIFT , Founder and what not. It was really raining overqualified guys on the platform. Felt like real waste for the first time and thought that hot shot guys like them couldnt land a date, a commoner is out of question. What do you all say guys ???? That platform instantly makes me introspect where I failed in life.

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings? P.S: don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

I’m an smart looking guy working as a software professional. I've tried Tinder, Bumble, Happen, and Aisle, and even subscribed to two of them for a month, but I haven’t had any luck. I just keep swiping and swiping. Are the women on these apps actually interested in dating, or are many of them just looking to increase their Instagram followers? It seems like the standards are incredibly high, and many people aren’t clear about what they actually want. 😝