Mom cried

Posted this in Deloitte private group, sharing for everyone to see the reality of Deloitte: Last year, I worked the hardest I had every worked. I had the most toxic environement with my client and my team. I still stayed extremely quiet and silent, continued to work through some of the darkest days in my life. I thought of offing myself atleast 2 times in the last year. I was given a 16% hike which was the highest in my entire team. I was not happy. The reason was that my mom was extremely sick last year. I sent my sisters money to take care of her but she had severe upper respiratory distress that had made it's way to her lungs. I could only meet her last Diwali. I was completely torn when she left us forever last February. I had to man up and act in accordance with what society expects from me. I did not cry at all, I finished her rites and came back to Gurgaon. My girlfriend has been a solid support to me. She has been my rock through all of this pain. But my only regret is that I didn't see my mom more often. I have gotten my hike for the hard work. Was my mom really worth 16% hike? FUCK YOU DELOITTE. I AM LEAVING SOON.

I am 33M, started working at 20. Earned 87LPA when I was dropped off in June 23. I am a very responsible person who had taken care of everything in the family for quite some time. My parents and relatives and everyone else who know me well, know this and kost have appreciated this at some point. My sister separated from her husband 6 months after my marriage and had been living with me and my wife since then till COVID hit. My mother has anger issues and my father is very obedient to her. I love my parents and they loved me I think. Post COVID I moved to my hometown (because family) and things started going downhill. My mother will almost entire day find every faults in my wife and share it with everyone with an angry tone. I just listened to her initially for 2 years but at times I told her that it's enough. Now she has started fighting me. After the fight I would go and apologize to her knowing that it's not my fault just to make things right. This time when my mother fought with me she taunted me that you will come back and apologize. This hurted me even more than the fight. Now I am not going back to apologize and she's escalating it every day. Convinced my father and my eldest sister(happily married) that I am a bad son. Shares messages like "maa bap ko pareshan krne vale bachho ko kya fal milta hai" in WhatsApp groups. She has even asked me to vacate home. I am unemployed at the moment and I told her I will when I have a job. I don't know how to deal with it. I can't convince people in the family that she has anger issues.

I've been trying to login to the NPS portal via both web and mobile app to contribute to save taxes, but this is really the most pathetic portal I've ever seen. On the web app it says 'Entered and Computed Captcha incorrect' god-damn everytime. On the mobile app, the payment screen doesn't load. How are you guys contributing to NPS? Is there any other way apart from the portal? One of my friends does contribute to it via ET Money. But I'm not sure if it's safe to do via a private company. What if ET Money dissolves? Does my money get affected too? Interested to know what you guys are doing.

I worked as a SWE for 2.5 years at an Indian MNC, I honestly didn't like the project as my daily work used to on a legacy technology, My manager never approved me (or anyone for that matter) to move to a different project with good tech stack and challenging workspace. So, resignation was my only choice without any backup offer, which I chose and later I unfortunately had to undergo a surgery, My doctor had advised me to take 3 months break from everything and stay home. It's been 6 monts since I left my job, currently I am revising the concepts of Java (Core & Advanced), SQL, HTML, CSS, Bootstrap along with Spring Boot. My problem is do recruiters consider my profile, even if I get an opportunity, do recruiters consider my salary negotiation, and does my career break affect the hiring process? Please guide me. Thank you in advance!

So bit of context here. I am a 25 year old Male. Moved to bangalore after 2 years of wfh. Stayed there for a year. Got fed up of my job and toxic workplace tendencies so wanted to resign. Dad had been doing a startup for a bit and he felt I was ready to be useful so he asked me to come. I felt it would good for my career so I moved back. 6 months in I feel mentally drained, and all my limited excitement I feel in life are for the small trips I manage to do where I meet some of my college friends/girlfriend. I had read takes online from people that if I had a chance I would leave everything and be at home with parents, but I just dont feel this way. I love my parents a lot but I just dont feel too much anymore. I dont feel like oh I am so lucky I get to spend so much time with my mother. All of my childhood friends from my city have moved to the US. I have 2 friends(not very close but decent) who I meet sometimes, so life is all about waking up, going to office, coming home and calling my long distance girlfriend (who was with me in Bangalore) and falling asleep with 2/3 hours here and there. I rarely have plans. I feel like I am doing something wrong but I cant pinpoint what. How can I passionately want to spend more time with my parents? I just don’t get it from within. Do I really have to work and find new close friends in the city. People at work keep a bit of distance because my dad is the founder. Anyone with any advice?

Context: So I'm a lawyer currently working with the Big4 as a senior consultant in the Business Consulting vertical. I've been here for the last 2.5yrs. I'm due for a promotion to manager this year. However due to multiple people leaving who I used to gel well with along with the fact that of late since the last 8-9 months the team I work for has become too pro work instead of looking into individual welfare has got me very dissatisfied with my work life here. Mind you that I'm given proper recognition for the work I do in terms of awards, retention bonuses etc. have all happened but since the last 3 months, this dissatisfaction has been brewing in me. Although there has been no negative incident which has happened to me directly, I've been informed of many conversations second hand where seniors have been behaving very rudely and in a rash manner with my other team members. All of this led me to thinking that before the going gets tough, I should venture out and look for better opportunities elsewhere. In the midst of my job search, I have received an offer today with a big Indian MNC in the Retail and e-commerce space to join their legal team as a counsel. Now that I have this offer, I am contemplating whether I should go for it as it would mean shifting cities with my wife. My wife is 50% against me shifting as it would mean leaving the Big4 and she keeps telling me that to tough it out and to see this as an opportunity instead of jumping ship as no indian MNC would be able to provide a better experience and exposure that a Big4 is giving me. Salary wise also, I've kept in mind that I won't be shifting unless it's a 30% hike along with relocation payment. However, i have a feeling that this MNC will provide that also if i ask for it. So there my ask to the forum here, should I shift or stay? Please lend me your wisdom! P.S. This Indian MNC is big like Tata, Adani, Reliance Big (without taking any specific name)

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Hey Folks, I’m in a phase where I have decided to move out from my present company. My present company is very dear to me as it gave me the taste of what success looks like. Honestly, I would have never made it had I not received the support and backing that I got here. I don’t know if I am making the correct decision. Emotions are literally overflowing. One side of mine tells me that I am making the wrong decision whereas the other side is excited to see what future holds for me. Literally anxious of all the thoughts that are crossing my mind. What if , I am not able to perform at my next company ? What if , they decide to hire me and then not honour their offer letter ? What if, the company has a mass layoff and I am impacted ? All these thoughts are literally eating me from inside. Any suggestions on how can I handle the same ?

Hi all, 3 yoe Currently very comfortable in a role but not much learning. Very good manager, not much pressure, know in and out of current task but its stagnant now Not much growth Living a comfortable life TC 15 Now have a new offer will have to relocate to mumbai, and then the whole hustle begins I am having second thoughts on choosing new offer, can people with experience lay down their thoughts