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by Sherlock007

10 months ago

Rural Life Experience.

I was suffering from 2-3 mild health issues in metro. (prolonged cold n cough, regular sneezing etc) Came home 🏡 in diwali and now extended wfh due to health gain. Living with parents and consuming clean air + food is helping improve my sleep quality as well ❤️‍🩹 (2h+ deep sleep) 8h continuous sleep. I did cost benifit analysis and have decided to work on a plan which will eventually help me settle down at my birthplace within 2-5y. synopsis -- Children's play under sun 🌞 and have group of 10 kids. They ain't worried about anything. Their happiness index > ceos. They don't know about masturbation till 10th or age 14 if they don't have a smartphone. My workplace is open and aqi is below 10. Strong peepal and banyan trees 🌴 even 100y old. When I feel stressed due to any reason I just go to see sunset near my place hardly 2km away. It's a stress buster with earbuds in and watching migrant birds crossing river. Ain't those birds more free and independent than us? Like they don't give a damn 🕊️ about future and enjoy the present. Very less car and almost 0 traffic ⛔. People still use bicycles and cycle repair shop>garages. Life is slow and peaceful. People go to sleep at 9-10pm and wake up at 5-6am. Life is too easy. Cost of a family with 2acre land is hardly 25k/m here. Sometimes I wonder why chase 2 lac/month sacrificing so much in a so called developed city. Society is ambivert. Pizza 🍕 🍔 burger biryani is trying to enter these areas. But I don't miss swiggy. Zeptonis redundant here. My 💳 credit card is lying there thinking why am not swiping it... यहाँ कोई मित्र नहीं है, कोई आश्वस्त चरित्न नहीं है, सब अर्धनिर्मित है। अर्धनिर्मित इमारतें हैं, अर्धनिर्मित बच्चों कि शरारतें हैं, अर्धनिर्मित ज़िन्दगी कि शर्ते हैं, अर्धनिर्मित जीवन पाने के लिए लोग रोज़ यहाँ मरते हैं। अर्धनिर्मित है यहाँ के प्रेमियों का प्यार, अर्धनिर्मित है यहाँ मनुष्यों के जीवन के आधार आज का दिन अर्धनिर्मित

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Toughest part is to find better half with same mindset. I travel frequently and have covered whole india except 3-4 places like Andaman, lakshadweep and NE. What I have noticed is gen z is very high on drugs and manyatimes they have 4-5 digit savings even after working for 4-5y. I am not generalising or against it, they can live their life the way they want but it's the harsh reality. Can anyone live without malls, clubs, multiplex and junk food nowadays? Anyone on same boat or think like this or have any other perspective? Am all ears ...

sak8

Stealth

10 months ago

That is true what you have said. But life gets tougher for a female in smaller towns. I didn't had that perspective before getting married.May be it depends upon which part of India you are staying, but that is a big factor.

GallonMusk

Software engineer

10 months ago

Yup, I can bruh I still wear clothing from local shops. I don't usually eat junk foods until someone wants to eat . Last movie which I watched in mall was Civil war xdd. Life is good bruh without these things. Just chilling/ enjoying working

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CharSoBees

Tekion

10 months ago

I truly appreciate your perspective and the way you perceive life, valuing connections with people. However, I also sense that residing in villages might be viewed as an escape from reality. It may not be suitable for those who thrive in a fast-paced lifestyle. While I find peace when visiting my hometown or village, there's also a sense of pity as they seem somewhat disconnected from the current world, lagging behind by about a decade. Though fast internet has bridged some gaps, there's still a noticeable delay. From my experiences, people in villages can sometimes exhibit cunning traits and maintain a non-progressive mindset. Personally, I lean towards the preference of raising my children in cities due to the easier access to high-quality education and a more conducive environment for their overall growth.

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Thanks for this comment Charsobees. I love mmt and it's Wednesday axis offers. Coming back to ur comment, i beg to defer. Everyone don't want fast-paced life. Like wakeup, sit in washroom with ur phone, check mails and teams/slack, watch random reels to get out of anxiety. Then eat some junk or fast cooked food which is mostly chemical. Then be Ranbir of tamasha in front of mirror and zoom out to get stuck into traffic ⛔ with poor aqi or dust everywhere. Then reach ofc and sip sugar to again reduce ur BP and caffeine will kick in to head u 4 work. Formal chit chat with friends over lunch and show off like I got a 2bhk, someone 3bhk, anyone planning villa? Again come back home with mindset of raising CTC to chase dogma 🐶 (Google it if u don't know) 💤 Have a poor sleep after watching bigboss and sipping alcohol with chemicals. I hate this fast life. Kids go to school at age 3 and real study starts after age 7-8 They can be homeschooled. My 2 cent. Sorry if I hurt u but my intention was to put truth as it is.

CharSoBees

Tekion

10 months ago

Its what I said ki if someone like fast placed then it is not for them. Also, coming to your other points whatever habits you mentioned is individual's choice. If you take care of what goes inside your body and mind then you can easily manage your body. Apart from traffic and aqi everything else I feel can be improved by improving habits. Also, life is about solving problems and being easy is boring for me atleast. Lol. I find your comment funny not hurtful. You are agressive with your thoughts but I don't mind.

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Jack3d

Unicorn

10 months ago

How do you socialize? Hard to find like minded Friends no?

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Many school friends are here only... doing agriculture, small business, own showroom, brokers etc. I socialize with them occasionally but don't have an urge to do so. I am kinda family man and less of party animal

Ajmonk96

Stealth

10 months ago

All this rural glorification only works for people who have a big pay Chek, mostly IT folks.The fact of the matter is rural India is not aspirational , it's regressive, it's irony think about it all people in rural especially young genz want to move out to urban think y this happens , purely because of opportunities. When u jave 1 lack monthly income and wfh , you can blabbering all this bullshit, because u have money to dispose, invest, spend. That's not the case of 80 percebtage of people in rural India. Sometimes I think IT ,techy have MONOPOLY in narrating life in india and balance ,peaceful life blablah..because majority of the people who come into this platform are top earners on India. India is a third world country , know what that means?it means if ur borne here 80% of ur life decisions u have to take based on you pocket size. You just don't have choice. People who brag there is always a choice don't get it.There is no choice. Always.

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

I beg to differ. I have many friends who didn't migrate and haven't got a btech or mbbs degree still earning in 8d. Don't even pay tax. It's about guts and perseverance. Excuses don't work in real life. Coming to IT guys jealousy, dear ... That 1% or 1cr people are driving 25% of GDP. 1. Real estate 2. Automobile 3. Travel 🧳 4. Health industry 5. Education industry (Maids, ola uber, swiggy and so on 100+ services) All these are growing at 10% cagr due to those 30% tax slab people. 50% of GDP. Learn about cyclical economy and it's impact. There is a reason why government brought lpg in 1991 after bop crisis. You can't blame corporate or its employees. Even csr goes to society development and cess over 30%.

Ajmonk96

Stealth

10 months ago

Iam not jelous of IT I'm a techy my self. What I said is most people don't have a choice india. That's is fact. The jobs are saturated in india to some industries. Peole will have to move if they don't they will live in poverty and die..

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Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

यहाँ कोई मित्र नहीं है, कोई आश्वस्त चरित्न नहीं है, सब अर्धनिर्मित है। अर्धनिर्मित इमारतें हैं, अर्धनिर्मित बच्चों कि शरारतें हैं, अर्धनिर्मित ज़िन्दगी कि शर्ते हैं, अर्धनिर्मित जीवन पाने के लिए लोग रोज़ यहाँ मरते हैं। अर्धनिर्मित है यहाँ के प्रेमियों का प्यार, अर्धनिर्मित है यहाँ मनुष्यों के जीवन के आधार आज का दिन अर्धनिर्मित है, न धूप है, न छाओं है, मंजिल कि डगर से विपरीत चलते पाँव है। अर्धनिर्मित सी सेहत है, न कभी देखा निरोगी काया को, न कभी दिल से कहा अलविदा माया को, हमारी अर्धनिर्मित सी कहानी है, अर्धनिर्मित हमारे युवाओं कि जवानी है। हुम रोज़ एक अर्धनिर्मित शय्या पर लेटे हुए एक अर्धनिर्मित सा सपना देखते हैं, उस सपने में हम अपनी अर्धनिर्मित आकांक्षाओं को आसमानों में फेंकते हैं।

SmugScore54

Zynga

10 months ago

Ayushman Khurrana

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Yup 😊

salt

Gojek

10 months ago

When your life is in the fast lane everything looks the same, one can only appreciate the oneness of life in the serene calm of the slow life. When life gets harder, you just get stronger.

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Philosophical salt

DesignTinker

Stealth

10 months ago

I think you can make changes to your lifestyle by staying in a city. If you stop chasing high CTC and settle for a job which gives you work satisfaction and less stress. Few of my friends have moved to outskirts of mumbai. The air quality is better and they often make trips to Lonavala (and other hill stations). There are decent schools and malls/hospitals are with an hour’s drive. Work is remote and they spend the extra hours going for walks, playing a sport and spending time with kids.

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Yeah...my plan b if a doesn't works. But bringing parents is a task then. How to deal with that?

DesignTinker

Stealth

10 months ago

My parents also stay in a 2 tier city. I am also thinking how to convince them to move with me. They have their own life with friend circle. Don’t feel like uprooting them. Try to visit often and stay foe longer duration. I have been able to convince them to visit me more often. Trying to help them make friends in the city or reconnect with relatives; build a network for them. But i am not in a hurry to move them here. I’ll leave the decision to them.

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Elon_Musk

X.com

10 months ago

I just went to some rural area in Gurgaon extension that had some forested cover a few weeks back and man I saw peacocks after so many years! Sometimes I just wish for the easy life man. What's the point of all these technical wonders if it keeps us sad and stuck in concrete jungles

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

💯

Kamlesh

Stealth

10 months ago

You can still spot peacocks around hauz khas village. Delhi NCR has nice green spots.

VagueElbow

Stealth

10 months ago

Very nice observation, I had crazy cough cold in Mumbai/Bangalore and came to my village for 4 days, 2nd day itself everything gone. I am having the same thoughts as you, I will however still reside in the city only due to high quality healthcare available for parents. Apart from that for a moderately healthy individual doing knowledge work, tier 2 and beyond is the future.

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Happy to hear that. But healthcare is top notch at all state capital and am not more than 1h away from there. Which company u r at?

VagueElbow

Stealth

10 months ago

Well having experienced a heart attack in the family, and getting Indias top doc to operate in <30 minutes with medicated stents (not available even in hospitals in suburbs in Mumbai) is something I can't imagine. My relatives stayed in Mira Road and had a heart attack, couldn't make it. 4 deaths all staying in various places far (1 hour+) from a city centre. So nope, I am not taking that risk.

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igotyou

Student

10 months ago

I feel so jealous rn

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Why saurav?

igotyou

Student

10 months ago

All of us are competing for a high paying job when the real happiness lies in our villages.

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Lemonhusk

Stealth

10 months ago

I'm part of GenZ and my friends and I are already discussing this. I know it sounds like a thing we'll all grow out of, but a couple of us who are responsible around the household just don't want cities anymore. I mean, we enjoy a couple of parties or sleepovers or long drives, but the daily mundane is not something we want to do in the city. We'd be better off taking care of ourselves, not depending on services and corporate after sales teams and traffic and hustle. Growing our own food, sharing, working together on stuff >>> living for paychecks. Obviously this can't be achieved overnight. We still want to tho, else, it's a waste of being aware of that better way of living🤷🏻‍♂️

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

💯

noncorporate

Stealth

10 months ago

Good. Apni Jawani company ko dena ka fayda nhi hai. Kam kma lo lekin jawan shareer family ke kaam ana chahiye . Sundar biwi ko khush rkho, ghar ke kaam kro ganv m chota sa kaam dhndha 10-20k wala set kro , hand to mouth wala jahan sham ko baith sko, 4 bache kro...save kro invest kro...weekend pr shehar jao shopping kro family ghumao, sham ko gym jao, shareer bnao, gaanv m ijjat alag, mandir masjid ki committee join kro...full ijjat ....6 mahine m 1 2 bar dilli jao, rajouri m massage krao, thoda happy ending, internship k liye niche as pdso ganv ki ladkiyan hire kro unhe empower kro thoda sa, thoda sa flirt bc life set.

Tiduiqoana

Gojek

10 months ago

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CyN50r2vstH/?igshid=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ== Watch this reel first

noncorporate

Stealth

10 months ago

Get sheelajit and raw honey and magnesium. . The main component for men is testosterone . Testosterone full rkho bc..

tbk

Startup

10 months ago

Bhagvad Gita Chapter 3 Verse 20 roughly says, It is far better to perform one's prescribed duties, even though they may be faulty, than to follow another path. Destruction in the course of performing one's own duty is better than engaging in other duties, to follow another's path is dangerous. To the people reading this don't give up on your life, it's valuable, kids hustle is the way of existence. Sanskrit text of the phrase. कर्मणैव हि संसिद्धिमास्थिता जनकादय: | लोकसंग्रहमेवापि सम्पश्यन्कर्तुमर्हसि ||

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

True that...i do follow Advaita vedanta philosophy!

tbk

Startup

10 months ago

it's a good thing, decent amount of people do not believe in this ideology, otherwise we'd still be hunter gatherers. Someone wants be 'free and independent" like the bird, maybe forgetting next moment could be prey of an Eagle, they're also on watch for survival not having it easy. laidback rural life didn't create the tech thing and infra allowing author to write this post which is being shown to random strangers. even the electricity being used for our rural farmer's borewell is not coming from magic, few humans are toiling day & night in some coal plant not located in village. India will become Rwanda if large rural % population situation increases. beauty of our current times is people are still free to become Himalayan Yogi, attain enlightenment, what not, just do it, don't even exist on internet. Personally I've faith in "mera desh badal raha hai, aage badh raha hai" peace ✌️

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

I agree but... Food doesn't grow on internet. Whenever india puts ban on wheat and rice, fao and UN gets angry. 10y down the line food security will be a large threat than AI. Climate change is the reason which is created by those people whom u mentioned above. Oxygen is due to plants ☘️ and not code. Both are important n we need to find a synergy

tbk

Startup

10 months ago

Climate change will be fixed like ozone was fixed, it's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy, food security won't ever become an issue, there has been hue and cries around drinking water for population increase in middle east, they've found way out through desalination. Technology doesn't equal to software, the human being who worked on developing "shresth aditya" variety of wheat that's currently grown in India at scale was also doing technical work again not out of a laidback mindset. Try asking useable wheat harvest for an acre of land now and 25 years ago, what villagers were getting solely by themselves. There are people working on regrowing broken teeth for humans, got visibly decent results on rats, these folks are also doing intellectual work if not tech. someone wrote the software used to simulate protein synthesis, to help find fixes for the diseases that we call "curable diseases" now, 25 years ago India had abysmal infant mortality, party because all of it was rural populs without the will or know how to improve. Now that 'doers' have done 'wonders' and provided gains to the rest, you want to ignore all that's been done for that "not riverside chilling in village" it couldn't ever improve. Technical innovation and resilience is the only reason human as species have survived for long, else all could've been wiped out by plague/cholera/maleria etc. You can't discount all the work people have done, for the lack of better word by hustling at urban centres. One can't live in a self proclaimed bubble for long, the tribes of rainforests are also going to be extinct. Be it arrogance or lack of world view, the pov of not doing things, just growing & eating food to exist, at scale is a wet dream at best or delusion at worst. The least you could do is stop spreading wrong idealogy/ fake propaganda. Offtopic - Rajasthan had voting, somehow someone sounds like your avg Congress voter, bas roti kapda dedo unko aur kuch ni chaiye.

lonely_integer

TCS

10 months ago

One question.....how did you manage to get WFH in TCS

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Asked mgr, he approved

AdamSmithh

10 months ago

Good writing bro! Just one thing to consider that this is all good for bachelor life. I am sure settling in rural area after marriage will not be easy. Indian women are groomed to go ahead and enjoy life nowadays. That’s because our parents generation and even before that women did not enjoy life and mostly stayed at home in rural areas. Also funny to say but villagers want city lifestyle now. It’s hard to say that rural kids won’t know sexual stuff as internet has penetrated in the remotest corner. Do you think getting access to xxx stuff is hard for rural kids? Anyways, it’s good to stay for sometime in rural life but finally most people move on as it’s hard for techies to live away from city networking and opps, unless you have plans to do farming in future.

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Yeah...i love farming. Not all villagers want rural life and not all city person want fast paced life.

ElonMast

Amazon

10 months ago

Do you have kids? Or plans to marry soon?

Sherlock007

TCS

10 months ago

Planning to marry in 2y

random_tom

Startup

10 months ago

Wait I also suffer from cough-cold and sneezing I live in Delhi 😭

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