Join a nightclub or try to learn a skill in your free time .. socializing these days is simply showing your talent.

Clubs, pubs and bars. Be a regular, make friends with other regulars over a few weeks/months.

Can do the same at cafes too if you're into non alcoholic spaces

Generalist

I live near dumdum too. Comment if you are interested in playing football

Software Engineer

Are you in dumdum? If so, join dangal kickboxing

Site Reliability

Am 28 and been working from home since starting of my career. I feel am becoming anti social, I live in Kolkata and my job ends around 9 pm.   I tried joining kick boxing but most of them are kids,...

Am 28 and been working from home since starting of my career. I feel am becoming anti social, I live in Kolkata and my job ends around 9 pm.


I tried joining kick boxing but most of them are kids, no one around my age.

I hate gym...

Any hacks to socialize?

Socializing

Software Developer

Socializing- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Hello folks, 

Back to Monday. Hope y'all have had a nice weekend. Hoping to be more productive this week than I was in the last one 😀

What this post is: a place to hang around and chat just about anything, without having a specific topic to discuss.
Think of it like the watercooler at your office.

Look forward to hearing from you all :)

Daily Watercooler - 9th October

Intern

Most of us on Grapevine, working in corporate sector might make decent chunk of money if we keep grinding for a decade or two but very few of us would have the social capital (or as they say “networking” in our corporate jargon).
Increasingly realising that the society respects the business owners or govt officers more than any senior leader in an IT firm. There is no social recognition for corporate folks. It might not be relevant for young folks as they still have some residual social recognition of the family for now, but what would happen after a decade or two. Most of the corporate “friends” are no longer in touch except for very rare ones. How does one build a social circle after 10-20 yrs in corporate? Would like to hear from folks above 40 yrs if they’ve had similar thoughts and how are they managing?
Also, What are some ways one can start building social circle overtime while doing a corporate job?

PS: I am referring social capital as having a certain level of stature in society alongwith deep connections with some people living around you who can help you in need or can expect something from you. This is different from LinkedIn networking where primary expectation is referrals.

Service Class has no social capital

My father is an officer in a PSU. Not sure what "respect" you are talking about because from what I've seen, PSU workers have a social capital only in their colony/settlement. Apart from that it doesn't really matter for outsiders.  
 Business owners are respected only if he/she is really really successful. Otherwise how often we see someone respecting a normal shop owner?? 
  
 To build your own social capital, participate in tech talks/workshops. Spend time mentoring folks. Participate in society functions/apartments as others have mentioned.

Product Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am bored when writing code, more on WFH days. 
Even if I get a 5-minute break, I look for more work or scroll social media. I don't leave my brain free for a moment. Always doing or consuming something, not in a healthy way. One thing leads to another and post-nut clarity hits. 

I have joined a gym. I am trying to be regular. 

I am trying to learn new technologies but no success.

Bored, while working

I was in a remote job from 2020, until last year where I was laid off in November. Then when I started searching for new companies my priority was to work on site, but again I got a remote job.
My problem is living in the house 24*7 make it dull after sometimes and you forgot the line between personal life and work life. All I did was waking up in the bed and then opening laptop and vice versa in the night. Plus you don't have social interaction. Now I have become an introvert living in my own room and it takes enormous energy to go out and meet people. Is remote job really worth it wasting my 20's sitting in the home ? 
How are you folks coping up with this thing?

Is remote job better than WFO

Frontend Engineer

Welcome to Mental Well-being's Private Community

I moved to Bangalore earlier this year for my work. I am having a decent package as a beginner around 15CTC. Initially I was living in PG for few months then moved to 1BHK alone. I thought it would be easy and more comfortable to live alone. But now after some months reality hit me hard. I am not interested in cooking so skip meals sometime(don't buy food from outside because I am fed up eating outside)
Most of the time I feel lonely or not at all good mentally. To tackle these feelings I go for solo trips with different communities but now I am tired with this to as after coming from trip I feel same. I am not into drinking and smoking so it becomes hard to socialize outside.

So, I am writing down here about my feelings. What should I do to avoid these feelings or minimise it? I need your suggestions. 

Now I am targeting to start preparing for a switch and then try to get a remote job so that I can go to my hometown but I can do this only after 8 months as there are bonuses which I have and to keep it I need to be here for 8 more months.

So, suggest me to tackle loneliness and negativity.

Started feeling lonely and depressed

I am doing work from home from last 2 year and it's pretty good

but my entire friend circle has moved to their office location delhi, blr aur Bombay and my college friends also got split into different cities

Sure, we catch up during occasional visits or hometown hangouts and trips, but most days, it's just me, myself, and my laptop. I've tried moving to Bangalore and stayed couple of months, but traffic take lot of time to just meet  friends and people are mostly into over work and then just drinking and smoking and don't want to talk about flats, transport and other problem

so whoever doing work from home from their hometown, how do you deal with this

my hometown is tier 3 city and routine is kind of wake up, coding, gym, movies or anime or leetcode and sleep

How to deal with wfh

I'm 24 yrs old girl. For the past few months, I have been struggling with anxiety and loneliness in Bangalore.

I have tried everything in my knowledge and reach. 

I tried reaching out to people in the office which is tough because mostly are from either Andhra or WB or Karnataka, which makes it tough to fit in as they have their own groups and communicate in their native languages as they connect more.

I tried bumble bff as well. But had no success girls are unresponsive and guys use it similar to date mode.

I tried reaching out to my existing friends who live far away too but it became tough to meet them.

I also tried to get relocated to some other city from my office, but my request got rejected.

I am not a very social person, but I do want to make friends and I'm trying too but it's just not happening for me, organically or otherwise.

Any suggestions or reaching out is appreciated

Struggling with loneliness

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. 
Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. 
I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. 
Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. 
Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. 

Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

Loneliness - Nothing brings joy anymore

Get checked for Vitamin D & B12 levels also ADHD

Product Owner

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

What started as an Instagram-inspired social experiment has turned into a startup idea. (Refer: Men https://grapevine.in/post/808462ef-8ae0-4269-aaa3-c683ba1194bb and women https://grapevine.in/post/6bcaeffa-0cac-44a2-98a5-fc7a14786e85 survey)

Few observations:
1. Our generation has moved on from orthodox thinking (baring few people) to more emotional compatibility
2. Men have more worldly expectations, while women seek spiritual features; none are right/wrong as long as they find each other.
3. Very glad that no one 'expected' the partner to take up gendered roles as dictated by society

So, coming to the matchmaking platform. The idea is to have all aspects of life considered - personality, profession, family, demographics, physical attributes, etc. and have a weighted scale against them.

Though I have my doubts here
1. An Introvert will need an extrovert to seek them but will be drained of social battery later. How do they match?
2. Physical attributes pull down people who aren't confident with their looks; that doesn't relate to how good/bad they are as partners. But without pictures, it will be a risky surprise element.
3. Prevent parents from creating accounts on children's behalf. Probably a social media log-in

Share your thoughts on the compatibility algorithm and the problems we may face.

P.S. I am not a techie, will need someone to actually build this. Will take care of marketing.
Let's help someone find their soulmate ❤️

P.P.S. If this takes off, I will change my username to TimaSaparia

Startup Idea 2: Matrimony Matchmaking

Consultant

Currently working in MAANG abroad. I might get affected in upcoming layoffs however i have no motivation to start looking for new job. 

I have been switching jobs for last 2-3 years and somewhat exhausted now. Only thing i want to do is chill and continue gymming 😂

No motivation to find new job

Analyst

So today I gave my final exam of my engineering and within a blink the journey of 4 amazing years came to an end. It feels like it was just yesterday when I took admission in college. 

Now I am doing an wfh internship and I am feeling like I will be lonely, since I don't have any friends apart from college (which I am pretty sure there are less chances of meeting as I had lot of friend but I was close to none🙂). Earlier I used to go to college and I was kinda a known personality, but now as it is ended so no more going to college and thought of working from home all day is making me anxious and depressed. So want advice from you guys about what should I do, how did you tackled this phase? I know I might sound cringe and sorry for that, but I am writing this just for help and advice.

Gave my final exam and have mix feelings

I work as a data scientist in a remote setting. I meet my team once a quarter. Here in Bangalore all my friends and my wife have work from office so I end up getting too lonely working from home. Also, this has shrinked my network compared to before. How are others in the city handling this? What forums, IRL places do you visit to counter this. Imho, This surely isn't great for long term career prospects.

Remote job folks: how do you network and how do you deal with loneliness

Look on the positive side. You have a job which is remote.

Data Scientist

(27M)I will be moving to Bangalore next month.I am looking for a single room or pg in mahadevapura.Any leads will help.
Ideally I am looking to socialize, throughout my life I have been working remotely staying with my parents (Never had any interaction apart from work)

My communication skills sucks for casual interactions I found this out when I was communicating with hotel staff in nepal during my vacation.

I was startled when they wished me "Good morning","How are you sir" etc 
Didn't know what to say lol.i awkwardly replied accordingly(with a shaky voice)

I am good at communication when it comes to office work.


Office address: 
Trifecta Adatto, Whitefield, Main Rd, Mahadevapura, Bengaluru, Karnataka 560048

Looking for a place to stay in Bangalore.

Machine Learning Engineer

As the title says, I work remotely and do not have friends in the city. I have in a nearby city, but they are busy with their 9-5 and hanging out with their colleagues on weekends.

Living with a loving family helps, but I want to socialise apart from them.

How do you deal with the loneliness that comes with freelancing and async work?

In the Blr since a month, in the Marathalli area.

Not any friends nearby.
First time out of home town.

Not any friends in the company as well, mostly I sit alone just casual hi hellos. Don't drink or party hence just stuck in PG.

I want to network with people and find interesting startups.
Can even start doing something on the side.

Let's connect if you are around ?
What other ways you guys connect to people / make friends after getting into corporate !!

What do you do on weekends ?

Holi hai? Diwali hai? So what, nothing to enjoy. Lets spend the day laying on the bed, watching stuff over phone. Feeling less and less disconnected with friends, to the point where I feel I don't even have friends. College friends are based in another city. Didn't even try to make friends at workplace. Stuck alone in my homecity as past 6 years I was based somewhere else completing my grad and preparing for jee. Prior to that focused a lot on studies. So had little to no interaction with people during academics. And now when I have time and money to spend, there is noone with whom I can have fun with.

The older I get, the lesser my excitement becomes for festivals

Moved to a city from a Village. I felt the same. The reason is that cities are culturally and morally bankrupt.  Except mindless consumerism and inflated egos , cities teach you nothing. 
 The longer one lives in cities, people just become animals in fine clothes.

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