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Stresssed very much

I don't have a good family harmony and father is not supportive . My sister has health issues she has done 1 year btech when covid was there now she doesn't wants to join college she Has a 2year back now .she is not understanding importance of education. I am depressed

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GrimBoudoir

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by LazyNinja

Stealth

My parents hate me

I am 33M, started working at 20. Earned 87LPA when I was dropped off in June 23. I am a very responsible person who had taken care of everything in the family for quite some time. My parents and relatives and everyone else who know me well, know this and kost have appreciated this at some point. My sister separated from her husband 6 months after my marriage and had been living with me and my wife since then till COVID hit. My mother has anger issues and my father is very obedient to her. I love my parents and they loved me I think. Post COVID I moved to my hometown (because family) and things started going downhill. My mother will almost entire day find every faults in my wife and share it with everyone with an angry tone. I just listened to her initially for 2 years but at times I told her that it's enough. Now she has started fighting me. After the fight I would go and apologize to her knowing that it's not my fault just to make things right. This time when my mother fought with me she taunted me that you will come back and apologize. This hurted me even more than the fight. Now I am not going back to apologize and she's escalating it every day. Convinced my father and my eldest sister(happily married) that I am a bad son. Shares messages like "maa bap ko pareshan krne vale bachho ko kya fal milta hai" in WhatsApp groups. She has even asked me to vacate home. I am unemployed at the moment and I told her I will when I have a job. I don't know how to deal with it. I can't convince people in the family that she has anger issues.

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by arvind_hajriwal

Meesho

Suggestion needed about future

In relationship with her for almost 4 years. Although relationship is kind of toxic but there're lot of emotional memories. She's bit of abusive when in anger and on the other hand I also made lot of mistake by giving hope & all. It becomes kind of hard for me to handle her anger. Now I trying to fix things up for our future. I tried connecting with lot of my friends & psychologist, but didn't get balanced solution. By balanced solution, I mean both of us should not suffer unfairly and live life peacefully. Both of us come from lower middle class family and both approaching 30. she's not working. 1. I have few responsibility for my family as well. So, one of my friend suggested "to do breakup and not continue because of these family responsibility. If I go with her, then in the end I have to sacrifice one thing in my life (sacrifice means not good future), either my family, her or my career. and not being true to my family responsibilities in future will give me more guilt than breaking up with her. and they told It'll become hard for me with family guilt. In chess, sometime you have to sacrifice queen to win. Also, they asked me to read geeta that duty comes first than anything else. and family didn't make any wrong and deserve the best in future." 2. My judgement around this is kind of messedup right now. Although i understand the logic part of it and completely agree with this. but Emotional part of this is kind of making me feel guilt. that i did very wrong to someone. and Even i understand that it'll be hard/impossible for me carry all these burden in future, still I think lets go with her just that I dont want her to suffer things. 3. Above 2 solution feels very biased to me. In both solution, one of us have to suffer badly. Posting here to get your solution. I know both type of people exist here. Someone will feel more for her and other will prefer family. for more context - https://grapevine.in/post/98de98e6-d9fb-48ea-90ce-b05c82214362

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by RizzTae_JKV5

Stealth

Guide me to kickstart my career

It will be a long and messy one. sorry please.. I am a 2016 BE-ECE graduate . No work experience due to some personal reasons.I was needed by my mom and niece.I did prepared for bank and govt exams ..but failed after giving exams numerous times..After that in mind 2018 my bad karma followed me unfortunately me n my sister fell into MLM shithole..Gladly escaped from it in 2019 dec..then in 2020 my family crisis and COVID starts...my job hunt is not so gud..In 2021 had leg fracture and in bed soar for 6 months..2022 learned about my life scenario and started to go for an unpaid internship..where i experienced the worst and left the place within a month and my parents got my marriage fixed.But the real shit happened after marriage.I lost my dad within a week after marriage.Tht son of bitch and his mom turned upside down and i choose to stand for myself by ended up the 32 days of my marriage life..now preparing for IELTS exam and planning to pursue masters though not sure of the course to take ..I know it depends on my interest..but i really don't know what to choose as I am afraid of coding..I am having basic knowledge of python,HTML and CSS..but stopped learning JS...should I be able to start my career in IT?will I be able to start my career now? please help... studying masters is a right thing or idk where I am going to end up? i am really open to any kind of suggestions ... totally blank about my like.. If I have no work experience..will I be accepted in public universities? if I get into one..am i able to finish my MS ? Will I get a job after MS? If I do MS ...what course do i choose? computer science or data Science..but I am not gud at maths?