Smoking, I see everyone, especially in corporates, smoking almost a pack in a couple days. I hate the smell itself so no matter what, its a no no

Lawyer

Software Engineer

Not joining swiggy again, even in next life

No consumption of alcohol, drugs or non vegetarian food no matter what.. Come from a Jain family.

Decision Analyst

Always being an individual contributor. NEVER EVER joining an Indian startup.

System Engineer

Corporate Strategist

Wont be marrying someone who hates movies. No matter looks, behaviour, education, etc. If she hates movies then its a big NO. :P

Giving in to any bullshit startup that wants “hustlers” or “rockstars” or believes in “work life integration”. Learnt my lesson with Blinkit.

Marketing Creative

1. Smoking and drinking. Don't want to pay money to spoil health.  
 2. No compromise on health insurance.

basically I'm curious to know your decisions which you won't change no matter what. It might be okay for other people to go via that path, but you would never do that.  for example, not doing arran...

basically I'm curious to know your decisions which you won't change no matter what. It might be okay for other people to go via that path, but you would never do that.

for example, not doing arranged marriage,  not doing drugs etc. 

feel free to provide reasoning.

What are your "no matter whatever" decisions ?

Senior Software Engineer

What are your "no matter whatever" decisions ?- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

We all saw the recent post of FAANG employee earning a lot but not happy. I am sure that must be the case with so many of us. Why do we still talk about money? Speaking for myself, I can say, more money doesn't bring happiness as much as having fun with friends does!

Is there anyone here who has explored lot of things in life and then decided on what they love and want to do? You didn't take the job because it pays you well but because it's fun for you?

What do you want in your life as a North Star Metric? Money or something else? 

Anyone wants to share their take?

I look forward to meaningful relationships and figuring out whats fun for me

Why are majority of the posts about salary/money?

Consultant

Like for example -
Engineering in CSE but not working as software engineer
Left normal corporate jobs,  started freelancing
Found out entirely new profession to do?
Farming? 

Curious on what made you take that decision! What the world convinced you about the decision? Did your friends and family treated you differently when you didn't walk the conventional path?

Anyone here done something that isn't normal path?

Those who are working for themselves are already sorted.

Are you working for yourself or your next generation ? Explain please.

What is a belief you held strongly in your youth that you have since changed your mind about?

assuming you are inclined towards changing but not doing it

What are your reasons for not changing your job right now ? What's stopping you?

What do you think guys is it always the best idea 😜 ?

" Go with the flow "

Cloud Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

If you ask me, the purpose of life has to be more than climbing a self-constructed ladder. 

Like, it has to be more than a 3BHK in a metro, with two kids, a car and a prestigious job at a faceless corporation, 2 weeks of vacation and a movie on the weekend.

Isn’t this weird that, we all continue to fool ourselves? 

When you know nothing matters the universe is yours, and I've never met a universe that was into it. The universe is an animal, it grazes on the ordinary. It creates infinite idiots just to eat them. 

You know? Smart people get a chance to climb on top and take reality for a ride but it'll never stop trying to throw you. And eventually it will, there's no other way off

- Rick, Rick and Morty.

[Thread] What is according to you makes life worth living?

Remember when you were a kid and had a school trip the next day?    
    
 You sleep all excited, over preparing your bag, snacks, your pocket money and sleep fantasizing the day forward.   
    
 You wake up on the morning. You are excited as hell. Although it's no different than any other day but everything feels colorful. You can't wait to hop into your school bus and meet your friends who are just as excited as you.   
    
 I think what makes life is worth living are these experiences. When you sleep, you have something to look forward to. Someone to do, something to achieve, something you truly enjoy or be passionate about.   
    
 If you are just going through days fixated on the coming weekend or planned holiday. That is when things get a little messy.   
    
 I'm in that zone right now. I try to seek the satisfaction and happiness inside of me. So I don't depend on materialistic or emotional to feel lively. It must come from within and its damn hard to cultivate.   
    
 When I'll have that I'll be off from this corporate for good. .

Product Manager

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I got a decent hike and better job/brand. My current role is wfh until they call, but new role is in Mumbai. 

Initially I was not sure had a convo with parents whether to take it or not. After discussing all this, finally when I said I'm gonna accept my mom broke and started crying. (Cause I'll leave for mum then) 

In dilemma what to do? 
Not sure if right forum to ask 

She had her bypass surgery last year

Mom cried

Story of my life. Had an offer from Mumbai. Good enough hike and a profitable company. 
 Resigned from my previous job. Last day passed by.  
 My father had passed away due to covid and she would be alone when i left.  A day before i was going to leave, mom went into shock.  
 Had to reject the Mum offer and so I am now jobless, looking for opportunities near hometown.

Analyst

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

We are a DINK couple (live-in, will get married soon) and absolutely no plans to have kids. Maybe be a DINKWAD someday by adopting an indie. Also no plans to buy a home or spend on our marriage. This is not a financial decision (both of us are doing decently well in our careers) but we don't want to have a child knowing how nothing around is improving and we don't want to sacrifice the best years of our lives by doing this. We are building a large corpus to be financially independent and travel without any financial restrictions.

Growth Manager

I have been pursuing some aspirational products like Apple Watch SE, Airpods Pro 2, PS5 etc. since a long time. I go to the Amazon page and add it to cart but then my conscience questions me as to is it worth spending so much on it? I earn decently and live in BLR but still I dont fully understand to give my mind a valid reason for purchasing a 40k Watch that shows time, some metrics and some automation. Also 20k for listening music, 50k for playing games.

It feels as if is it sane to spend much on these personal material stuff? How do you folks look at this while making purchases?

How do you justify expensive purchases to yourself?

For some ps5 is not about price, it's about their dream to buy since college days (many ppl I know bought it) and same goes for other stuff as well.

Digital Marketer

Software Developer

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues.

Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families.

Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices.

Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps.

In the US,
This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides

P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Dating has failed Americans, now it will fail Indians too

Your description of arranged marriages is incorrect. You are given the option that if they liked each other get got married - which was not the case in the last generation. Often times the meetings was just formality, and my own mother met father on the day of their engagement. So nope, they didn’t have the choice to see if they liked each other, their parents made that decision for them. 
  
 Now take that into today’s scenario, how many people in this generation will willingly marry someone their parents has chosen, without any say in it? None. Doesn’t matter what their income is. You yourself are dating.. why? You can ask your parents to find someone for you, if you believe their judgment. The issue is that we don’t, and people avoid admitting that cos they don’t wanna be seen as someone who disagrees with their parents. 
  
 People are free to do what they like, arrange, love, dating, single, unmarried, adoption with marriage. Literally their choice. Nothing is ruining anything, in fact the recent situation in our country, where there are no laws upheld for rich, unemployed where 40% IITians aren’t placed, religious division - are more of a concern than a person’s personal choice. My 2 cents 🙌🏻

Senior Designer

genz

And at work 
  
 + the endless chase for the mirage that is wlb 
 + if anything isn't per their expectation, its toxic

Sales Manager

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Your opinion matters, I want you(Yes, You!) to tell us about your view.

Would you choose to work at the top companies for the rest of your life in the same domain and continue to climb up the ranks? Maybe, you switch every 3-4 years to other top companies and have the perfect resume.

It looks something like: 
Google ➡️ Meta ➡️ Amazon ➡️ Microsoft ➡️ Uber ➡️ Netflix etc.

Or,

Do you go for the unconventional path which shows a life well lived and an interesting story?

Maybe, you worked for a few years as an SDE and then  joined a smaller company as an MLE. 

Then, maybe a few years down the line you decided to start your own company in the AI/ML space. You fail but it’s okay.

You decide to use this experience to become a consultant at a BigCo. to gather capital. Then, you exit and go run an entire vertical at a Series B+ Tech Company.

It may look something like this, but can have any variation: 
Niche#1(big co.) ➡️ Niche#1(small co.) ➡️ Experimental Bet(running a co.) ➡️ Leverage Experimental bet(if fails) ➡️ Senior Leadership

Here’s my question to you, the reader:
What do you think? 
Which approach would you prefer?
Do you think it sounds good here but real life is different?

What would you choose for your career: The Perfect Resume👩🏻‍💻 or An Amazing Story🚀?

I guess I am against most of people who live in Bangalore, Mumbai, Chennai or any tier 1 2 cities. Why is there so much addiction to smoke, party culture and losing our own moral values? I guess a pack of cigar cause anywhere between 100 to 200 and weekend party anywhere perhead to 2000. If you sum up I see that it goes to 10k overhead. Dont you think that money can go into useful way of either personal development or contributing giving back to the society? What are we losing here and where are the moral values that are taught to us going? To add on so much hookups and adult life. There is nothing to gain but so much to lose I guess. Please add your opinions...

Unpopular opinion

Check what my friend sent me on Instagram. 😂

Have you ever seen an "Intern Rocks, Boss shocked" moment at work?

People who don't drink, not even occasional, What's your reason?

I never drink alcohol. So, anytime I go out with my corporate friends. I always listen this argument that you should atleast try once. It’s just for experience. 

I want to know that am I really missing anything? I want to remain pure as long as I can (however I have took some sip due to peer pressure).

Social Drinking ?

It is like a pleasure or achievement to convince someone to have their first drink, for some people. 
  
  
 No, you are not missing. I started drinking in college but left after that. There is not much change in my life. Just I have to lie that I don't drink.

Your parents are growing old and you want to spend time with them (they are already retired). At the same time you want to move abroad and get a master's degree, make a career out of nothing. Make money, find love probably. 
How do you decide what to choose?

How to decide

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

What today to you feels like a sin but is actually not? 

I’ll start: Taking a sabbatical from work to recoup and rejuvenate feels like a sin as I’ll miss out on growth but should not be so if it's for my wellbeing.

Is slowing down a sin?

Social Media Lead

Do you know the reason for getting up everyday and working? Have you found why you wanna do what you wanna do?

Examples from TV series -
Naruto wanted to be Hokage because he wanted everyone to see him, acknowledge that he exists and he is someone important.

Mike Ross in Suits wanted to be lawyer to help people because of what happened with his parents

Patrick Jane in Mentalist was a CBI consultant because he wanted to find killer of his wife and Daughter

Sheldon cooper pursued physics bcoz it made sense to him and he wanted to win a Nobel

I can only quote such examples as I haven't found real life people who have any reasons for why they do what they do apart from the reason of making money.
Even here, I find most posts about making money/salary discussions. I have rarely found any post which talks about something meaningful other than money.

Disclaimer- I am not saying money isn't a good enough reason. I am trying to figure out if someone has reasons other than money. 

Would like to hear why they chose the field they chose!

What are your "no matter whatever" decisions ?

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