Software Developer

Generalist

It has time though but wrinkles and ageing

Strategy & Operations

Analyst

What really messes you up as you grow older?

What really messes you up as you grow older?- Grapevine

I have a feeling I have become dumb/dumber as the folks around me grasp things much faster ! I am a 33 year old guy and have been having this feeling since last couple of years. 

Anyone else in the same boat and if yes,what could be the reason behind this and potential solutions ?

Feel ‘dumber’ as you age ?

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

Based on comments Jo career pe focus Kiya use chahiye ladki, aur Jo ladki pe focus Kiya use chahiye career. Grass is always greener on other side.

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Product Manager

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

Consultant

Founder

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Data engineer

I've been trying to actively avoid Social media platforms for the past few years but spending time here feels much more productive and useful compared to most others (bakchodi and comedy is bonus ofc).

Anyone else in the same boat? 😂

Feel like deleting grapevine because I'm spending too much time on it T_T

What are the things that make people realize they’re not young anymore?

Software Engineer

Help your brothers

I'm in late 20's now. 
  
 To my bro's in their early 20's: 
  
 "Please priorities your fitness. Aim to establish a routine and get into a shape you yourself are comfortable with and proud of."

Growth And Strategy

Security Analyst

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Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

This is a very interesting topic. I wonder what the impact will be on so many things. 
- People get married later, have kids much much later 
- Effectively you're getting fewer of your "fitter" years with your kid (although lifetime is elongated too) 
- We've added at least 5 years of working as a single guy/gal to our lifetimes. 

Question to the broader community: I don't see most people between 25 to 30 being super happy. Most people actually seem misguided (me/my friends - in some ways). Is this pattern actually harmful for us?

Which part of adulting were you not ready for?

Seeing parents getting old and inactive 🥲

Category Manager

Age is a very controversial topic (which I find surprising, though I kinda understand why).

Many people crib about growing up, and often remain too deep in the nostalgia of their youth - forever wishing to go back.

Personally, I like growing older. I can see myself having improved significantly from how naïve I used to be.

I’m not looking forward to creaky bones, degrading brain capacity and the eventual downfall of human civilisation (just speculating).
But I feel that aging - and eventually dying - is what gives any sense of progression and conclusion to life.

Would appreciate perspectives from others on Grapevine. What do you guys think? :)

(Also, sorry if I ruined your day by randomly reminding you that you’re ageing. 🥲)

Thoughts on Ageing…

Product Designer

What are your thoughts when people say "Enjoy your 20's" ? do you agree?

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I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? 

I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get.
To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. 
I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished.
I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.

Can anyone explain me what’s the point

Backend Engineer

Share something that changed as you aged in life

Project Manager

I turned 30 last month and I still feel i am a 20 year old. I lost the last 4 years of my life working from home and have started to go to office recently. I never worked together in a team, never been out for team lunches/dinners, never presented my work to the seniors/leadership. I have 4.5 years experience on the paper and my interaction with colleagues in person has been almost zero .

I don’t know how to do my taxes, can’t do basic servicing of my bike, extremely indiscipline’s, rarely track my expenses, can’t say ‘No’, haven’t upskill we and hence stuck in TCS, can’t stick to a hobby or interest, pathetic in managing my time, have no sense of punctuality, socially awakened, overweight with a pot belly and hence have confidence issues, can’t take care of myself in terms of self grooming, couldn’t maintain friendships as I used  to get offended when someone made fun of me or mocked me- my inflated ego is just useless. 

I can’t control my emotions, I sometimes get emotional and have tears in my eyes, I show emotions easily on my face, not smart when it comes to dealing with others, don’t know how much to talk to whom, whom to talk to, how to talk to and when to talk.

I’ve been told I’m pessimistic and highly negative about myself but I’m just saying things the way it is.
I have no responsibilities on life. I’ll be getting married the next year and I know I can take up the responsibility. But I still have the fear of putting my fiancé down. I love her a lot and I never even  would do anything to put her down.

My bad time management skills, inability to focus, getting distracted badly, being a slow learner, not networking, not having idea on making switches regularly, being too lazy and impatient to learn new things, not being updated in terms of on demand skills, tools , technologies, reluctance to learn something new and hence staying in comfort zone has screwed up my career.

I feel stuck and lost in life.
I honestly don’t know what to do.

Being a man child at the age of 30

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

What are you starting to love more as you get older?

This causes a serious meltdown in an instant. Just sharing here so that if anyone reads this.. reach out to your folks and love them with all. 🙂

Sometimes late at night I'm hit with the thought that my parents won't be there with me forever.

Growth Manager

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Will most of the people will lose their job because of age factor? Younger workforce will throw out most of the 40s workers?

Job at the age 40

when we stop singing along to the lyrics of Prateek Kuhad or The Local Train, but just listen, looking either up at the moon and stars or down to the earth and maybe walking around

What does it mean?

“You should get married on time”

To the married folks, would it be different if you would have married later in life? From a personal or objective POV, what’s your take

32+ M here and not yet married.

“SHAADI waqt se ho jaana chahiye”

Got married at  26.  If i get  a time machine, will do it by 24.    There is a quote by ashneer, where he says, 30's are the most important time is building one's career and setting the foundation to make money. Distractions from family life/kids will kill both the careers and family. I think he made perfect sense.  

I think the older one gets, its difficult to have compatibility.  Too many external stimulus corrupts our view of the society. And more over everything has a purpose and we all come with a shelf life.  If chances of starting a family  is slim or nil, whats the point in getting married? one is better of single.

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