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When you are reminded of THE heartbreak 💔 😢

When you are reminded of THE heartbreak 💔 😢- Grapevine

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Does this happen with you that when you listen/watch songs and it makes you remember those good times (or harsh times) with your partner or someone you were in relationship with.
This feeling of getting broken again, tears run down from your eyes. (Damn I miss you - waali feeling). But you have already moved on.
Many Anime Films - Your Name, 5 cm per second, I want to eat your pancreas. Makes it even more hard to watch because the feelings come out more strongly then.

But this is what being a human means right. We know we cant be together anymore but those feelings are soo precious and personal.

PS - I love to hurt myself by listening to those songs and movies again and again. Reason being, I never want to forget those feelings ever in my life.

Songs that Makes you remeber the Good Times

Software Developer

Like you genuinely go ahead and love someone seriously and they just leave. How did you come out of it???

Fu** this

Software Engineer

People of grapevine, have you ever been heartbroken? 

Tell us your story and how you dealt with it.

Heartbreak stories?

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My life took a U turn last Saturday when I lost my mother. She hadn't been keeping well for sometime now. But this wasn't something that we expected when we took her to AIIMS. 
1 Week from then, I continue to get visuals of how my mom's heartbeat dropped from 61 to 45 to 32 to 18 and then flat. I screamed for the doctor and then they gave her CPR. The heartbeat resumed but it again started falling. That was when the doctor told me that it was the last night and that I should have everyone from the family around (they were already on their way from Gurgaon).While she remained unconscious on a ventilator, I still knew that she was breathing. I sat there quietly holding maa's hand and chanting the Mahamrityunjay mantra. Post CPR, the heartbeat resumed again but at 10:06 pm, it again became flat. An ECG was done and when I asked for the report, the technician asked me to get in touch with the doctor. At 10:16 , doctor came and checked about my family members' arrival so that maa can be put off from the ventilator. My only question was to know for how long will maa be there once we put off the ventilator. The doctor politely told me that she was already gone. The ECG report was flat at 10:07 pm so my maa had gone away when I felt that slight movement of the hand that I so firmly held. 

My maa was my life, my anchor, my confidante and my constant cheerleader. I found a small note that she had written praying for my success in UPSC exams. I have it laminated to remind me how I didn't leave upto her expectations.

This was the second life that maa lived after her renal transplant back in November 2014. My younger brother donated his kidney and maa learnt to live again. We had some of the most cherished moments in the last 10 years, where we bought our first car, first home and maa saw one of her dreams realised-  what she used to describe as her most decorated achievement- my marriage. 

I am the eldest in the family so when the transplant happened 10 years ago, the doctor had told me that the max life that a transplanted kidney has, in people with pre-existing co- morbidities was 10 years. I never told this to anybody. 2 years ago, when a biopsy was done and the doctor told me that the max time that kidney will last is 2 years, I had thought that we would go for another transplant since I am now fit to donate my kidney. But I didn't know that the side effects of the immunosuppressive medicines would be so extreme that maa's body wouldn't be in a position to bear another surgical procedure. She had lost 24 kgs in the last 1.5 years and we consulted multiple doctors who opined that it's mostly due to loss of appetite. Maa hardly ate 1 roti in each of her meals. The day she ate more than 1 roti was a day we celebrated & joked & laughed. My cute maa used to ask me if she has gained weight after eating 2 chapatis for 2 days continuously and I used to affirm the same. 

She innocently used to ask me to help her with the spelling of a few words that she couldn't type and I used to jokingly add lmnopq at the end of the word. Her belief in me was so strong that she actually asked me what I said after lmn! Then I used to break it to her that I was joking and then she used to hit me with whatever was around, picking things which she knew won't hurt me.

She was the first person to wish me a happy journey when I was travelling and the first person to text if I have boarded/landed. She was a part of everything that I did. She had the first right on my existence and my success. 

Amidst all this, her Tom n Jerry fights with Papa were eternal. Papa used to relish such alterations and mummy loved bitching about it with my wife. My younger brother was never so expressive so he loved maa silently. Taking care of small things that mattered for maa's health. 

I used to plan our family outings and was the one with whom maa felt the safest( One credit that I would not want to share with anyone). 

Maa probably had an intuition that she was destined for sadgati sooner than later. She once told me when I was kissing her forehead , to cut down on the attachment that I have for her because the end was near. I used to scream and annoyingly tell her to spare a thought for me when she says such things. 

But Maa had made up her mind. She chose to go away the same way she lived her life. Without really bothering any of us and taking it all in her stride. 

A part of me has gone away and I haven't cried my heart out because it will impact my father, brother & wife because they expect me to be strong. I'm trying my best but I'm a human too. Hence I chose to post this anonymously here. 

Blessed are those who get to see their parents every morning. Cherish & live that moment everyday.

Maa_ Travel well! I'm here to take care of everything!

Very sad to hear this. Om Shanti.

Ghost of Tsushima has an amazing quote and maybe it will help you in this time.

"You’re never alone, your father is the wind at your back, and your mother the birds in the trees."

Your father's strength is in the wind, and your mother's watchful presence in the birds above.

Customer Experience

2 years ago my mom left me as if I was not needed. She always had in mind that her son is everything. I felt so bad and I used to talk less with her . But I used to always cry about why I am not needed. 

Today my mom is no more and I feel so bad that I couldn't do much 😭.

Help me to come out from this.

I met a guy couple of times and I really liked him. Once on a date, I decided to confess my feelings to him but stopped when he told me that he was moving abroad for higher studies.

It's a great opportunity for him but I am heartbroken. I got attached to him as we used to talk a lot.

People who have done MS from abroad, do they return after completing the course and find a job there only and move out of India?

Heartbreaks!

Experienced folks, pls vent your past/heart out.

Can a broken heart ever love again the way it used to?

Quantitative Research

So much happened 💔

Hi, I’ve been feeling a lot overwhelmed lately and haven’t been able to cry (watching Tamasha on the week didn’t work either). I wanna know when and why the last time you broke down.

When was the last time you broke down?

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I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Stop comparing yourself with the new guy, take a few days off and go on a vacation. Given that she lived with you, it must be a strong connection which would take quite a long time to wear off. You'll learn to live with it in a few months. All the best and take care

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