Idk man, i couldn't even watch Kabir Singh past the initial few minutes. Attempted rape has nothing to do with loving or caring, only blind rage. It's pretty toxic 🤷‍♂️

Same with animal. That dialog about alpha in the initial part of the movie is pure cringe

Software Engineer

I didn't even bother trying to watch Animal. Kabir Singh itself made me puke.

Generalist

I love these characters, defines money well. I am jealous of not being able to “burn down an entire capital city” to show my love to my father.

Software Test- QA

When you have money, or future with money 
 All of this gets sidelined 
  
 Try this with brokeness and you have an FIR in your name 👀

Consultant

Project manager

Product Manager

Analyst

Strategy & operations

If everyone was of these kinds then these movies wouldn't be this hit...

I just love animal bro. It so good. Bas woh thoda tripti waala scene thik nhi tha…rest the movie is good.

Software Developer

because they have never been loved/cared about like they did

anyone who calls these characters toxic are just jealous

Senior software engineer

anyone who calls these characters toxic are just jealous- Grapevine

This is the first time I am gonna ask something related to my personal life on grapevine bczz i know my fellow GRAPEVINERS are either went through it , going through it or will gonna experience it . Nowadays the bars for Getting a compatible partner is so high that most of the relationships and marriages aren't even working out .

people who are well settled are even seperating from their partner due to many issues , i am just 22 but it's natural to crave for someone's presence in your life but seeing around the breaks ups and divorces are on a rise due to this busy life , hook up culture , hypergamy etc . It makes me worried that will i actually able to get someone good in my life , i know no one is perfect but what if I'll miss the opportunity to get someone good or what if any toxic person comes who will make life a hell. Many of my friends are in relationship and even those who aren't even sure about their lives and career and the first thing that comes in my mind after watching them is - "Arre iski bhi hai🙂" , 

Right now I am focused on my career but these thoughts strike in my mind from time to time

A compatible partner

If the rumors are true then this is the classic example, not marrying the girl who has past.

Women with past

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

They have no life
They have nowhere to go
They have no one to be with
They have no passions outside work either

And they make your life hell as they become the baseline for comparison for all sorts of management from appraisal to work distribution.

Feel free to disagree with me, but I’m genuinely pissed today. How do you deal with them? I have a decent life outside work but lose most of it while trying to catchup to such people so that I don’t get fired.

Sorry for the title.

How the F do I deal with overworkers?

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Because job is just a part of life, it's not the whole life🥳

Test engineer

So, me and my good friend were casually discussing how crazy the job market is and how we are unable to get into a good job, especially when she has over 3YoE and is really good at frontend web development.

She then casually asked me "Should we be really trying this hard to get into a job that we like, as I feel that AI will take over a big part of the IT workforce in the next 5 years?"

Though we did have a friendly argument, I strongly believe that it still needs more time than that bcz IT jobs, especially we developers, are not just limited to coding. And given the fact that OpenAI is learning off of GitHub repos, which are basically code examples are averagely written code, not well written proficient ones. 

But, in General, what do you think about AI and how it is gradually dominating the IT sector ?

Do you really think AI will take over in the next 5 years ?

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I have spoken & met with plenty of women via dating apps. Want to understand why are women b/w 21-25 so confused about dating and why are they constantly complaining about everything? 
Many a times they say they’re sure & want to get into something serious but after few days they want to end things because they’re feeling unsure.
Why waste other persons time when you are not sure about anything?
They always want sympathy and they always think about themselves.
For Genz it always ME ME ME.

Why are Genz confused

Lawyer

I might sound biased but hear me out.

Therepists are cheapstake businessmen/businesswomen anyway.

We are always questioned for sharing stuff

They pretend that they are listening to us but all they care about is their fees. They keep looking at the clock as to when the session would get concluded. They secreatly 

"But why would you blame all the therapists just because yours was toxic?". Nice question.

The moment you open up, they start drawing a perception. That point on, they only look down upon you as a person and consider you a massive loser. They might say the opposite but they dont really mean any of that.

My therapist, she went out of the way to convince me that I dont deserve to be loved. She pointed out that just because I feel too many things at once, I might have trouble emotionally satisfying a woman and should be okay with lonliness. She suggested me to play a sport, not because she wanted me to stay fit, but simply because "being sporty might increase my masculanity". I have never been good at sports (never interested me).  I have always been into music and poetry. I have been composing music since I was 16. I have no regrets. Why would you berate me just because my hobbies dont fit into a certain mould. I have heard enough from other people about not being sporty. 

Victim blaming must be stopped in the pretext of "only you can help yourself" or "work on those factors which you control".

Men cant reveal their problems to their friends and family as they would start judging them. They cant even share such concerns with their romantic partners because of the fear of losing them or sounding incompatible. And voila !
Medical therapy also turned out to be a sham for men.

Continued in the comments

Reason why therapy doesnt work on men

Data engineer

Sometimes I usually think, Why do I lose our school and college friends one by one? Is this a sign of maturity, reality, or something else?

I am just 25 years old, and within 3 years I have lost 90 percent of my circle and the few who left, with whom I usually get time to chat, call, or plan to get out.
 
And I feel that some day I will also lose them.

Can you guys make some comments that I have became  matured or that this is the actual reality of damn life?

Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Application Engineer

When the recruiter or HM opens up for questions, are you inclined towards asking them tough questions related to the organisation?

Lately I've started asking:
- How were people who were impacted in the latest lay-offs decided?

- Do you believe the team is at risk of lay-offs? In the overall org, where would you place this team in terms of business criticality.

- In case of downsizing how will you ensure that your team is going to be least impacted.

- Questions on talent being fungible, coding practices, knowledge organisation and sharing (hoarding/individual level, team level, org level)

- How does the manager ensure equity in workloads (especially useful for startups).

- Team agreements like stand-up timings, in-out timings, and most importantly, how often were  these changed in the last 6m-1y.


Folks, feel free to add to the list! Would love to hear your thoughts.

Managers are supposed to manage teams and be technically competent. Everyone is a champ when times are easy. The true colors are shown only when the going gets tough.

Most of the answers are gonna be template/standardizations. The key is to read between the lines.
If the manager is clueless or the body language doesn't inspire any confidence, then it's a red flag.

Asking tough questions to Hiring Managers

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DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

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For context: Weekends are off. So just fri WFH. This is a Series B startup. I am not even asking for a leave but WFH for just 1 day. I joined recently. The only thing I did wrong was possibly informing a little too late.

Want to get opinion if I am overthinking or this classifies as toxic culture in startups where you are expected to push limits above and beyond regularly and sometimes weekends.

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Is this toxic work culture or I am overthinking

Growth Manager

I'm a mediocre software engineer in Bangalore who's content with his career and comp, for the time being and is nearing 28 years age. As the title of the post suggests, I've never been in a healthy relationship in my life and I feel so void and insecure when I see couples pda-ing at Church Street, Lalbagh Garden etc.
The situation aggravates during Valentine's week.
This all would sound funny, but I'm tussling with this thought in my mind for quite some time.😞

How to cope up with this situation? Need some practical advice about this.
Thanks.

YOE: 4.5 years
TC: 30-40 lpa

Valentine's Day Crisis

How Do You Realize Your Worth Around Negetive People?

Dual Income and No Kids sounds very attractive but advice from people in their late 20s and 30s is probably too biased to be considered sound advice.

Wanted to understand how couples who took that decision in their 30s feel today.

Do you regret it?
Do you feel purposeless?
Do you feel lonely?
Do you feel the FOMO?

And so on.

Any DINK couples in their 40s? How do you really feel?

She said no, I thought after I will get job (15LPA+) I will ask her out but turned out life doesn't go according to you.

Feeling lost, looks like I don't have the person with whom I used to share my daily life with. 

Suggestion please.

Counting on senior to help out this junior ♥️

Asked my girl best friend out,8 years of friendship from childhood.

Is it just me or is even a job at the best Tech companies just don’t make any sense for women? 

There are always women who have great family support or husbands that are understanding and encouraging. But generally why does it seem like becoming a senior woman in tech even at the best places is sort of unattractive and significantly increases your odds of “failure” outside of work e.g. divorce,having kids late? 

Interested for thoughts from both men and women.

27F Engineer: Software Engineering Not Worth It For Women?

My toxic trait wants RCB to lose the eliminator

Business analyst

I understand that most of the tech community is men, and probably in this community as well.
But some of y'all just make me lose hope, in seeing how pathetic your thought processes are.

Women don't need to work cause India's GDP doesn't demand so? Excuse me? 
Have you heard of financial independence. Some of us want that.

The next thing is diversity hiring. 
Diversity hiring is needed because of regressive thought processes like these that discourage and inhibit the progress of women in the workplace. 
Women in general, have to go through a lot more in comparison to men in life. 

Consider an example: You are a guy going to university, you mom does everything for you, you have enough time to study and do everything you want, go out with friends.

Now another girl in your class might be expected to do housework, along with studies.
If she doesn't score well she is threatened to be married off. As a result she only has so much time to study and not do extra curricular activities, while the guy can do all of that just because of the privilege of being male.

This is why the bar of entry is lowered, so that women who are struggling in life, fighting their way through these odds can progess in life.

Even if women who don't have these situations benefit, even if it benefits one person, makes their life better. How does it even bother you?

Instead you want to make thier lives hell by shitting on them as diversity hire. 

Please learn empathy. Learn to respect and understand the struggles of others, regardless of their gender.
Also acknowledge that as a male you have more privileges than women, because we are in a patriarchal society, which is why women need a helping hand sometimes.

Rant: Some of ya'll in this community just really hate women

Hi I’m an above average looking and average height guy. I’ve been looking out for a serious relationship for years now and it really sucks. I mean career wise, I’m doing great. I’ve a stable career with a good car and my own house. Something that women consider for serious relationships turning into a marriage. 

I’m also very religious, super good at heart, loyal, caring basically too good to be true. I’m so loyal that I stop looking at other women even at talking stage. Send flowers randomly etc etc. 

Now the problem is, apparently if you don’t play mind and manipulation games, or basically be toxic, you won’t get a good partner. 

Every woman out there says she’s looking for 90s love and nice guys who care for her etc etc. Then why are people like me single? Not only me i know many men who are good at heart being played by such women. Why are you lying girls?

anyone who calls these characters toxic are just jealous

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