Dating App Handic-app
I've seen a bunch of posts over the last month asking for tips on optimising profiles on Tinder / Bumble / Hinge to get to date / casual relationships / serious engagements. Have people completely stopped relying on just walking up to people / meeting someone in person, asking them out and taking it from there? It's slow and requires effort but works better. Zero chance of being catfished. You can control the narrative and pace. Whats with being handicapped by the app?
90% of the guys have their heads deep in their asses when it comes to the thought of just approaching to a girl and saying a simple hi, how are you with a smile
The anxiety levels in them are off the roof. Even if you're holding their hands and helping me their wingman. Basic conversational and inter personal skills are lacking these days, and it shows.
It doesn't work even if you ask them not think so much, and just cross the hurdle to get over the fear of rejection. Every wants instant affirmation or immediate validation nowadays.
Wingman as a Service (WaaS) seems like a great startup idea for Bangalore.
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TheOatmeal
Stealth
8 months ago
Patience khatam hai ab is zamane me. Ye hona hi hai. Zero efforts on love part.
Love is maybe a bit of a stretch. Thats more Stage 4 type commitment.
My question was even more basic - Stage 1 - Introductions.
Don't people (guys) just go over and talk to women they've never spoken to before l, in a social setting - cafe, club, bar, party.
What about women? Are they comfortable shopping for boyfriends on Dating apps or they actually prefer in-person?
P.S. A girl on a dating app actually admitted about having options. And the fact that it's like shopping for boyfriends and fun!
I think part of the appeal (regardless of gender) is the multiple connects that can happen on the app. Lulls you into a false sense of being wanted.
It's probably satisfying in the moment. You think you're doing great because there are 17 "connections" and parallel conversations that are loaded with possibilities. In reality you just need the one thats 'real'. The 17 are ephemeral.
As much as it's true and very honest from her, it did hurt a little. That's what it's come down to. You're just an option
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