Getting Bumble, Hinge dates
Hey folks, So I’ve recently shifted to Bengaluru. I’m looking to meet folks, get into relationship, hence downloaded dating apps. Any tips from experienced folks to understand blr girls xD? 21M here!
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ZippyMochi
Bumble Premium+ post mortem/breakdown +observations
Tl;Dr - 100+ matches in less than a week, but the experience still sucks as a guy.
Hadn't tried using premium+ on bumble, it was them basically copying Tinder in this aspect by tiering the likes and features further.
Seems like most dating apps trend towards 3 or 4 tiers: free, premium and premium+
I used to get matches as a free user with occasional premium subscription (one week max). That changed a while ago, roughly when they introduced premium+. Thought I'd give it a try and share my experience as a user in NCR. Hadn't used bumble in a few years either.
Some numbers : 🔴10-15% of matches expired without any messages exchanged 🔴50-60% of matches did not initiate or put effort in conversation 🔴5-10% looking for sugar daddy and passenger princess treatment 🔴5-10% are absolutely unhinged and desperately need doctors and therapists. 1 psycho blocked. 🔴 Remaining profiles are scammers and fake
The sad part of being an average guy on dating apps is that you don't usually get matches 99% of the time. And when you do, it's often shitty nonetheless. The level of entitlement in women on dating apps is way too high, with very little substance to offer.
On the plus side, did get a few decent contacts (10-15) and some are also interested in attending my dating mixers too. Haven't met any of them yet, will see how it goes.
To those who want more matches on bumble, give premium+ a try with good pics and profile. It could be a very different experience for you in a different metro city. Planning to visit Mumbai and Bangalore soon, might try this there as well. Don't think it's useful for tier 2/3, not enough users there in the first place to need premium. Happy to help you with profile suggestions and consultation if need be.
But please be very careful, don't exchange insta/numbers too soon, and watch for scammers who ask you to come to a specific location/restaurant only. Always decide the place of first date yourself, letting women decide is too risky these days.
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ZestyQuokka
Stealth2mo
Wow, is this subscription available? Are there people who sign up for "taking care of expenses"?
ZippyMochi
Stealth2mo
Sadly, there are. Often married men.
DancingDonut
Stealth2mo
Does the opposite exist?
Are their sugar mommies who'll take care the average joe in late 20s with a dad bod, but who's not a dad, who'll do all the (terrible) cooking and (equally terrible) cleaning for her so that she feels like a power woman and who will invest all her money in scrappy microcaps and crypto coins? Hmm? Asking for a friend, ofc
WigglyPenguin
Stealth2mo
bro got 100+ matches and calls himself average
ZippyMochi
Stealth2mo
Little money, no car or house or gym bod + living with parents . Pretty average for Indian guys lol.
I've been using dating apps for years though, know them and women pretty well by now. Not very hard to get matches even for average guys.
But the point of this post is even if you do, there's no guarantee you'll ever end up meeting anyone. Women are very flaky/moody. Ghosting is common. And there are scammers lurking around.
SqueakyPancake
Swiggy2mo
Guys aren’t any better either 😭 Either they wanna hook up, or they start love bombing on chat on the first day itself (as if we have been dating for months, i mean how can you be in love with me already?), or they are thankfully mature and can hold a good conversation and you decide to meet, and bam it fizzles out because your personalities don’t match.
if i am bringing a lot on the table, i expect to have the energy matched. But men sadly have no game anymore, and the ones who do are fuckbois. There is no in between.
ZippyMochi
Stealth2mo
If you want game, that usually comes with fuckbois. If you want maturity, there won't be much game in those guys.
Fizzling out is common and part of the dating process. Can't really know how a person is unless you meet them.
SqueakyPancake
Swiggy2mo
When I say game, I don’t want 100% out of a guy. The least I ask for is having a personality, and not a dud. Because if I am bringing in my personality to the table (which i swear i am), the least i deserve is the same from the other side. @LooseGoose
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