Change a thought

See, there are 8 billion people in this world. Now, it's up to you whether you want to be known by these 8 billion people or your 8-10 relatives.

The only time you’ll meet your relatives or log is during marriages or social occasions where they’ll praise in front of your face and bitch behind your bags. It really isnt worth it. Just own whatever you want to do. Be Selfish, that would help :)

🥱 aise yaad rakho ki tumahare struggles mein woh log sath nhi the na hi fees bhare the toh 4 logo ke opinion matter nhi karte

Aisa kar kya raha hai?

Unless you are involved some truly deviant / abhorrent behaviour, what others think doesn't matter.

Also, are people asking you questions or its just you in your mind? If its the former, push them back with - Tu Tera Dekh.

To paraphrase a great thinker - You are the sculptor of your life.

You meet your relatives hardly 3-4 times in a year. And those folks are solely there only to either judge you or be jealous of you. Very few well wishers exist, and I'm not denying it.

Now think whether is it really worth to do things/change your life for these people whom you see like 3/365 days? They owe you nothing and you owe them nothing. You spend 365/365 days with yourself and that is what matters the most. Be true to yourself. You will be called selfish by people who won't move a needle for you. It doesn't matter anyway.

In a world where two people in a relationship want their individuality to be retained, relatives or outsiders are the LAST bunch of people you should even consider.

"log kya sochenge" is a prejudice towards people. We think people won't like what we are trying to do. Without knowing their opinion, we often think others will not accept it. So best way to overcome this is to just ask.

Don't think about "log kya sochenge", think about "person X kya sochega". Then go talk with that person about what you are trying to achieve. Take their opinion. If it's positive, you will gain confidence to do what you are trying to do, if not you should question them more on why they think it would be bad.

For example, if you wanna stay in live in relationship (not good for many), go to the person you think will think of you wrong. For example your neighbours. Ask them indirectly what they think about a live-in relationship. If they are open, it's fine if not ask them what makes them so insecure.

I was once told that as long as what you're doing is within the social norms and doesn't particularly hurt anybody(knowingly), you do it. Only the ones that are good for nothing will pass judgements. Game recognises game. Changing your environment, the people you stay with the most can do wonders!