WanRocker
WanRocker
Student

College life

Is it okay to be alone rather than being with guys I don't like.

College friends are the worst I have ever had.

8mo ago
GamerZozo
GamerZozo
Oracle8mo

[Genuine Advice] You should really have someone you can lean on to, some friend or family you can share stuff with, someone to support you. I personally didn't have a stable family to fall on to.

But if you have your parents, siblings who can support you, be your friend, it's completely okay to not have college friends or any friends for that matter.

You need some people to cheer you up, to move on with life, to share happiness with, to have fun and most importantly to have support. If you're not having that in some or the other way, you might fall into depression.

LetsGetLaidOff
LetsGetLaidOff
Paytm8mo

OP, I would recommend you to stick to this advice. While it's easy at first to stay in your own company, it becomes challenging in the long run.

Your current opinion may be biased by some recent falling that you had with your friends. But please don't let that misguide you. Be around people. Though it's hard to find new and good people

Yui
Yui
Student8mo

I dont know if you guys will read this I don't know what I am feeling

Kabhi dimaag ko bandi chahiye Kabhi dost chahiye

The anxiety I am feeling these months is so top of the line that feels I am dying

I have no one to talk to I don't have a great family to talk to Not everytime.my childhood best Friend is free I am ugly so I can't get a girlfriend

I am in final.year I want to feel normal I am .... dying

Tony_Montana
Tony_Montana
Stealth8mo

Have been in a similar situation during my college days. I also found that my being in my own company was more conducive to my growth. Since you are the average of the 5 people around you, staying in bad company would obviously hamper your growth.

But now what I have learnt is that if I would have surrounded myself with people having similar interests and goals, my growth rate would have been 10x. Try to find people that share your interests. If you like technology then try to find people that talk as deeply about tech as you do. Being on GV is a good step. Meetups are also cool.

The more (diverse) people you meet, the more confident you become socially and the more things you learn (about your own domain). Your character is also refined.

If you want anyone to talk, hit me up here.

ChotaBheem
ChotaBheem
Oracle8mo

Absolutely. I would rather have one good friend than a bunch of friends.

You should enjoy your company.

WanRocker
WanRocker
Student8mo

Well I am introverted and making good frnds is very tough. And being alone sucks when you want to go out like to the mess, class

GamerZozo
GamerZozo
Oracle8mo

Being an extrovert, I can assure you some nice extrovert with good intentions, is on their way to adopt you. I've personally adopted a few introverts 😂

A personal suggestion would be, to seek out a community with likelihood of interests. Say you like gaming: seek out a gaming community, you like reading manga or watching anime: seek out the anime community, you like reading books: seek out the readers' community.

You don't need to be in depth friends with any of these people, just someone you can discuss/talk about the stuff you enjoy.

GrapeGodfather
GrapeGodfather
Stealth8mo

It is okay feeling sad. It is only natural.

Cummerbund
Cummerbund
EY8mo

Absolutely, solitude trumps bad company. College is about finding your tribe, not tolerating nonsense. Are you exploring new circles, friend?

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