Being a man child at the age of 30

People who are self aware, know there is a problem to begin with, and that's half the battle won! By next year you will be a better person, keep working on the things you identified

Wow, you still feel 20, that's great man! On that note, you still have 10 years or more to feel 30, so take this time to develop I also agree that mindset of yours would be different from others but you'll pass through. Secret: few of us are in late 20's but feel 40ish and wanted to go back to teenage 🥲

You are all over my friend, take a deep breath and work on one thing at a time with tight discipline, first work on what bothers you most. Don't mix up two issues in one, seek professional help wherever you think you need

You know the problem here bro, you are thinking alot but doing nothing. First, take care of your thoughts when you are alone, Second, take of your words and behavior when you are with others. Anxiety or sadness is natural but holding onto them for longer time without taking any action is an issue.

Bro "Jo beet gayi so baat gayi" usse chodo or ab aage kya karna hai uspe focus Karo. We all keep getting distracted but still we have focus on things which matters like projects deadlines ya koi important event kuch bhi. It all about priorities. I also feel guilty when I don't learn or do anything productive in a day but wo din beet gya uska kuch nhi kar sakte so ab Jo next day usko prioritise karke uspe focus karna hai. One thing at a time. You can try taking challenge for 7 days and try to keep your focus on track for just 7 days and baaki kaam secondry kardo just focus ko sudharne pe dhyaan do fir 7 din baad already ek chiz thik ho chuka hoga but you have to keep that doing so that it should be deeply rooted in your subconscious mind. Aise chote chote steps lekar you will gain confidence in everything in life and will be able to upskill. Don't think k ek hi baar mein sab badal Dena hai just one thing at a time one small step at a time. That's it. Fir 7 din baad batao how u feeling. Good luck

To be honest, it seems you are pretty clear on your issues. You have already identified them to an extent, you just have to push for fixing them one at a time. It will take time. If you have someone in your life you can share things easily like a valued friend or person, discussing and taking their suggestions might help. Some of the things you have mentioned like filing taxes, servicing bike can be learnt by simply doing it once. Others may take a few more iterations. So avoid jumping into solving everything at once and try to pick one small task at a time. Not presented ever? Just create a random tech presentation on some of the work you do and try to ask for feedback (Do not keep unnecessarily high expectations at first). Haven't upskilled? Try solving some easy problems and eventually move to difficult ones. The idea is to create a habit pattern first before diving into difficult tasks so that your brain is not trying to steer you away if you are out of your comfort zone. Understand that some things you need to defer for later and focus on just a few things to complete. I am also 30+ and I still dont know how to drive a 4 wheeler, doesnt mean its the end of the world, and I am trying to find some time to do it this year. People have transitioned into tech in their 40s. Some will still do it in the future. Doesn't mean they have lost in life. Just means they want to see themselves at a better position no matter their age and so do you.

Bro , most of us feel the same way what you are feeling about not upgrading skills in time or being lazy or being wasting time and all....first thing you are not alone having these type of issues....it is just that people won’t admit it. Talking about 16LPA at 30....that is really good, you would find people reaching at this package in 10 years of experience in TCS. TCS provide so less when you start with TCS, that it takes lot if time to cross 15LPA. In TCS, ppl who are in tier 2 cities still struggling to cross 15LPA even in their forties. you will not believe this but check with any tier-2 or tier-3 city guy. One thing for sure you can do is - take proper professional help and not any counsellor. Go for psychologist who has proper degree and have studied in these fields. Check their years of experience. In first session itself ask him/her, what will be the path or course of action they are going to follow to help you. It should not be just all gyaan but no action plan and exercises for you to do. What we all need to understand is - Do we really need to be part of this RAT race ? So....2nd thing you need to do- you need to think about what you from your life. What moments you want to cherish once you turn 60. do you really want to do all those things which whole world (including ur peer, relatives, all those successful gyani guru) is running after. OR....you want to have peace and happiness in your life. In either of choice - you have path to choose and then utilize your resources accordingly. So if you want peace and happiness with your family, focus on getting stable and less demanding jobs so that you can spend time with family. If you want money , growth etc...then focus on spending money on getting good training. If you think, sabbatical will help u, take it, do some course and come back with bang. Remember - Life is trade off. You can’t get everything. Choose what you want out of your life ..one day it is going to end, and nothing will come with u

If you can't make an equally long list of good things about yourself, positive work you've done in life or the people that you've helped, then you might have a serious problem. Either ways, it's good to introspect and know where you lack. That's step 1 , step 2 is working on issues one by one.

Be 1% better every day. Slowly it will start to add up. It’s impossible to think so much and get something done. Just do it and slowly you’ll see things changing

Great fact is that you know where you are lacking and you can work upon it, with due time you gonna learn and upskill yourself with all above mentioned things just be positive about yourself and appreciate your each steps...you gonna make it definitely 💯🔥

Are you married?

Damn brother, you either need to go on a solo trip or meet a professional on better suggestions. I would suggest going for a mountain trek (Winter treks maybe). I myself found meaning to my life in one such trip, maybe it will do the same for you too.

Apna business khol leta to lakho kamai kar leta with the same continuous efforts in those years

How about starting addressing one at a time? In a few years time you'll have what you have wanted. What do you think can be improved easily? Target that and complete it. The feeling of accomplishment is enough to motivate you to achieve further. The taste of self improvement is addictive. Once you have it, you will never look back.

One step at a time, gym jao

Pick one thing, nail it and then pick another - this is the way ahead my friend. If you don't know how to do your taxes - learn it. This is not rocket science. In 2 hrs you can master it and file your taxes. In a similar way everything has a soln. Find it and implement it.