Families are now in talking stage and it is brutal

My GFs and my family are now soon to be in talking stage and it's already fucking up our mind.

My parents want to do it ASAP and her's want to have sometime. Every single day we're just balancing and cursing our decision.

For context: it's typical interstate, inter caste one and we have know each other for 8 years.

Why does it need to be so hard? Both the families are in opposite directions. 🥲