ZestyQuokka

Friendships after an age

You Are The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With or There's also the "show me your friends and I'll show you your future" derivative.

And I don't have friends who share my vision in life. They are great friends, no doubt. Female friends have married, left work or working in one company for stability. Male friends are working but not ambitious on money (nothing wrong, it is just how I view it)

I'm not unhappy, but I would appreciate being surrounded by people who have the zeal to make life bet.ter

15mo ago

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PeppyNarwhal

Swiggy15mo

So true. Can completely relate to it. Very difficult to find someone who has similar vision as yours. Most people are just content with their lives. No ambitions whatsoever. They just don’t want to step out of their comfort zones. Nothing wrong with it, but the only problem is you cannot share your thoughts with them. Or even if you do, hardly anyone understands it, no matter how good the friendship is.
Still searching for someone who has bigger dreams as mine and is willing to go that extra mile to achieve them. Extremely difficult to find such people in the corporate world.

SwirlyTaco

Stealth15mo

The key is to have friends / strong acquaintances across age groups.

Especially when one gets older one realises that you've no idea what's happening around you - and neither do your friends.

This is why you should build relationships that are a decade, two decades younger than you .... and so on.

This helps build evolving perspectives with time. And also infuses energy into you that people of your age just cannot.

As far as intimate friendships go, near impossible to build them post 25. There is just too much you know by then to be vulnerable again.

SwirlyPickle

Google15mo

yeah no. as someone who didn't have real friends who shared my narrative/passion etc, I can't entirely agree with this narrative. you are what you choose to build for yourself, not who you are forced to hangout with. consume good content, talk to varied people who are passionate, filter out all the BS. this is what i aspire to do.

GroovyMarshmallow

Stealth15mo

money buys you access to such people. That’s what happens also you can become part of golf clubs et

QuirkyBoba

Accenture15mo

I understand the need to friends with shared vision. Difficult to keep friends and have fruitful discussion. After a while everyone gets along with their life.

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