GoofyCoconut

Generic concern: Struggle to get fatherhood for second time

This is not related any professional things. It is just my personal struggle I am facing since last 1 year. Need some suggestions from people around here. I have 1 baby boy of 3.9 years old. Last year we had one spontaneous miscarriage. After that did not get success for next 5 months. Then when went to hospital, doctors started some hormonal treatment. In that also we did not able to conceive. But after the treatment, my partner got so many side effects. She got health issues. Then after 2 months of stopping treatment, now her health is back to normal. After that also 3 months passed, but still we are unable to conceive. It is been 1 year we are unable to conceive after last miscarriage. And in past both conceive was happened naturally. Our age is 31+. I am getting fear to take my wife to hospital and started fertility treatment again considering side effect we got in our last treatment. I fear if she gets healthy issues due to this treatment. Also, both time we had conceived naturally without any treatment. People around here could you please suggest on this? Should we wait for some more months before visit hospital ? Or we should start the fertility treatment straight away? Sorry for asking this type question here. Please ignore it if you don’t want answers. Hope you can understand my situation. Thanks.

4mo ago

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SparklyCupcake

Stealth4mo

You are young man, take your time.

GoofyCoconut

Wipro4mo

Thanks for your reply. In your opinion take time means, I should wait for some more months before restarting the treatment? Is my understanding correct?

SparklyCupcake

Stealth4mo

No, take 6 months, don’t do any treatments. Try working out and eating healthy and stop stressing out. See how that goes and then maybe consult a doctor. You are young that you have enough time before you worry about having another kid.

GroovyMuffin

TCS4mo

First thing first. RELAX Don't set the target of next baby, let it happen naturally. You are lucky that you already have 1 kid. Don't run for the 2nd baby. Getting pregnant is the process of calm and healthy body of both man & woman. Just start excercising (yoga, gym, running etc.), eat healthy (1 cheat day a week).

Keep yourself and wife happy and stress free, spend more time together. Thing will happen automatically like the first time.

GoofyCoconut

Wipro4mo

Thanks for putting your precious time to share your suggestion on this. So, in your suggestion, even we are failed to conceive for 2nd kid after trying for last 12 months (8 months naturally + 4 months by treatment), still it is highly advisable to wait for atleast 6 more months before approaching any treatment again? Is my understanding correct?

WobblyBoba

TCS4mo

You need some peace of mind and leave for some time then only you will get positive results.

The thing which you constantly look up and search, you will not get it. Be relaxed and leave it on time. Definitely time and patience will heal.

PrancingPotato

Stealth4mo

Why not go for adoption? Adopt a child. You’ll get a child and she/he will get a home.

GoofyCoconut

Wipro4mo

Since I have baby boy, it is difficult to get a girl child in adoption.

WobblyBoba

TCS3mo

Yes. Wait for some more months, get good diet and keep strong your brain by maintaining very much peace which is the most important thing. By taking good diet and still don’t have peace of mind is again still waste.

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