A few colleagues of mine who got promoted in the mid year cycle had ordered a few snacks yesterday. But I didn't go there due to the fact that I wasn't promoted in this cycle.
I know that this attitude of mine is going to hurt me but I don't know how to handle this.
Any suggestions because frankly speaking this feeling is killing me from inside and I can't stop thinking about this even after my office is over.
First of all, ask yourself are you feeling sad for yourself and/or jealous because your colleagues got promoted? If you cannot be happy for others, then I would suggest you to change your way of thinking because anyways this thought process won’t take you anywhere.
I can see you are very competitive, which is definitely not a very good sign to be honest. I have worked with a few very competitive colleagues myself and I can assure it was not a good experience at all.
My two cents, think big, enjoy the process and never stop believing in yourself. And most importantly, learn to appreciate others, celebrate their achievements and be happy for them. Maybe one day someone will do the same for you. :)
Thanks for reading the post. I don't know if I am more sad or jealous. I believe it's because I have never been promoted in my career of 5.5 years. And when I see my friends who started with me they have gotten their 2nd promotion of theirs.
I know every person's timeline is different and we should not compare ourselves with others but it's just so fucking difficult to do so. My overthinking is another pain in the neck that makes me feel like I am a loser.
Work hard and results will definitely pay off some day if not today. Also don’t let your inferiority complex overpower you.
First of all, this is completely normal to feel and please don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way.
We are all wired to think like this and you are not alone or an outlier in feeling this way. This feeling cannot be avoided, it can just be managed by analysing and tackling, so don’t run away rather embrace this.
Secondly, your promotion is not a measure of your ability or dedication, it is a factor of 100 variables and many of them are not in your control.
One mental model that helps is to think like a sportsman in a very competitive team, even the most talented ones are benched many a times but they still keep at it. There are so many cricketers who kill it at Ranji & nationals level but never get a chance to play for India. But they keep at it because of their love to the sport, so you should find a love/passion/drive in your work and just keep at it.
Also, believe in the fact that samay se pehle aur bhagya se jyada kisi ko kuch nahi mil sakta hai!
Work hard, talk openly with your manager on what to do to go to next level. Speak up
If we wait long enough we’d be dead
If you are giving your full efforts, you can expect your organisation to give you a good increment or hike. If this is the case talk with your manager. Understand what they say
and, if there is no outcome from the manager, you can think about switching. You don't need to be emotionally attached to your org.
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