Here is my 2 cents on this -
While you are trying to excel in all dimensions, Its a trade off call always. Period!
Understand the concept- unidimensionality is the price you have to pay for excellence.
For example- Hyper functional productive humans (scientists or mathematicians types) spend hours in their laboratories to achieve excellence in their domains, trying to become that 1%… ! Now the price they have to pay is usually compromising on other dimensions such as meaningful relationships (friends, family, partner)
Now by the time we realise it, it’s already too costly.
Thankfully technology is here to save us and here are some action items for you -
Start today, start small -
Make a list of people you know, you feel you have lost touch with… friends, colleagues, people nearby you.
Change the intent -
While you are on your bed, mindlessly scrolling gram as a loser -
Start with an intent of genuinely replying to people’s stories and ask questions with whom you really want to reconnect. Send 10 replies a day. (Start small) This way you’ll be less loser by the day.
While you are already going to gym and have 6-packs, change the intent -
Increase your network density at gym. Build connections. Small talks A simple smile, or “morning” or “what are you training today?” etc can be a good start.
Efforts bro efforts! Do it for a month without liking it and trust me your weekends from mid jan24 would start feeling packed again. You would be invited to get togethers, outings and what not.
