Loneliness - Nothing brings joy anymore
I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless.
Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?
never get married when feeling desperate, try to get a girlfriend instead and stay in relationship with at least one year before thinking of marriage
I wish for that too. :’) What has worked for you here?
@studMax Having a girlfriend won't help you. If you do get one, you'll place the pressure on her to be your social crutch. Instead, you need to find a way to be content with yourself and only after get into a relationship.
Gym join Karo, kuch new hobbies try Karo, plan every weekend to visit a new restaurant, dating apps, puzzle solving, travel. These are the things that helped me
Gym kafi time se kr rha hun bro. I have 6 packs as well. Had joined some martial arts classes. But ab wo bhi boring ho gya.
Somehow, dating app doesn’t work at all for me, even though I look above average. Isliye properly time nhi diya inko use krne pe. Maybe I will need to put in more efforts and time on these.
Have some hobby. Talk to non-work people in your circle - parents , old school friends, siblings. That's what I did when completely lonely and lived away from family