I’m 23, and while people here on grapevine talk about how expensive houses are and switching from one big tech company to another, I still haven’t even reached a point where I can say, “At least I made it to a decent position with decent money.”
I graduated in July 2024, initially planning for a master’s abroad but had to postpone it due to the job market. Coming from a tier-3 college, I always dreamed of making it to a strong position someday. In November, I moved to Gurugram and joined a company in a customer support role, hoping i would get something better while preparing parallelly. But now, after applying to multiple APM roles, I feel stuck in a loop— thinking that getting rejected due to lack of experience, my college tag, job market or if I am not trying enough making me question if I even deserve something better.
My cousin often tells me, "You're so worried about your future that you're ruining your present." Maybe he’s right. While I struggle with career doubts, people around me are getting into relationships, settling into their lives. My friends tell me how great things are going in their love lives, and I just listen, smile, and say, “Stay happy, bhai.” I’ve never really expressed my feelings to anyone after college, let go and never asked out after college because my mind always says bhai inke liye waqt nhi hai.
Guys anyone out their who are doing great in their lives in both ways , your advices are appreciated...
Bhai nothing worry, I am also from tier 3, started from a small company. Sab ho jaega keeep trying. One thing i have observed is people get comfortable in jobs, if you keep trying it you will.get where you want to be 😄. All the best💪
Its not you. Its most of us who thinks in this way.
Only suggestion would be to be better in one thing. Lets say you are targeting PM roles, try hands on in no code tools and build something on your own. This might teach you end to end.
You are just 23. Trust yourself. Your career is not ending soon. GV community is anyway here to help. Thoda troll karenge but in the end everyone helps each other.
Have faith in yourself
Thanks a lot , yep I am open to that trolling :) because I know guys here will mostly try to give the best possible advices at the end
Look, most of the people starts small. I started with 10k internship and 3.2 lpa package and was just having 5.99 lpa after 5 years. It shouldn’t define who you are. The crux to it is ‘Don’t compare yourself with others’. If you do it, you will not be satisfied with 30-40 lpa job.
Focus on cross skilling/certifications and try to make a switch to a better role/company.
You have just graduated last year!!! Give a break son.
My life story :
Took 2 years drop after 12th to prepare for jee , still got mediocre rank . Took admission in tier 3 college (btech) . Had atleast 1 back in each semester . Was not eligible to sit for placement in most of good companies . Cheated a bit in coding test in coding test of a startup . Some how got the job ( because I was top 10 in coding test due to cheating a bit 🙂 ) . Got package of 5.5 lpa . Hopped 3-4 times over 6 years to reach 50+ lpa .
I feel I got lucky . But I did good at job .
No plans for higher study , but I feel will take up some online ai certification at some point .
I found my breakthrough at the age of 28 . Only thing is that you should keep trying . Don’t give up so soon being desperate and seeing others post . If I post about my success you would think “that guy is successful but not me”, but in reality It took me 6 years after passing out to find a decent job and settle down . You’re only 23 and it’s normal if you are still figuring out things . And don’t forget to enjoy life as well . I cannot go back and do crazy stuffs now but you’ve still got that timeline with you . Work hard play hard .
What I’ve noticed is - grapevine has a lot of people who are …umm… “successful” (for the lack of a better word).And even the ones who are less successful, don’t speak out loud as much as the successful people here .
What’s happening with you is - you’re seeing all these posts where people are talking about how much they earned , invested , what they bought , stuff like that… It makes you feel less. When in fact , the people who are…less privileged don’t speak up.
So just because you don't see them doesn't mean they don't exist. You're not alone in this
So true
3 idiots dialogue yaad aa gaya
"Life is a race . Tez nahin bhagoge to piche rahe jaoge"
Apun ko tumhari race mein bhagna hi nahin hain . Tum race mein jake manzil tak 5 saal pehle pahuch jao.
Apun is safar ko enjoy karte huye manzil tak pahuchega.
Difference is just of fucking choice!
There will always be people happier than you; and others who are miserable but seem happy!
Truth is.. it shouldn’t bother you!
What race are you even running in? And what destination are you even chasing?
Keep it simple. Cherish the small moments of happiness. Work hard. Give time to your friends. Get into relationships, if you want to.
Nothing is settled in life, my friend. We are all going to end one day, so make sure that your journey is pleasurable to the best of your capability.
I know me speaking will not change your mind, but when I was younger, I learnt this thing that -
whatever situation you’re in right now.. can always get worse; so don’t fret.. Just Smile!!
Be grateful. Do your best.
And, if anxiety is getting the better of you; introspect, analyse and choose what would actually help you in long run and in short term and right now.
Is it friends? Experiences? Sex? Companionship? Better Pay? Or a combination of those?
Then work towards that.. it needn’t happen overnight!
No shame in seeking professional help; if it is too much to take. And, always take care of your health!
Once you find your everchanging self, things fall into place..
Great to have people like you at this platform , will surely follow this
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