(M38-India/F34-Australia) Facing difficulties raising kids.
My wife is from Australia and we met here in Bangalore. We have been living in Koramangala for almost 8 years now. Her entire family, all her uncles, aunties, and cousins, are back in Australia. We visit them once in a blue moon, like every 1-2 years.
Now, we have a little champ, he's two years old. The newborn phase was super tough, man. No support, just me and my wife handling everything. Since the kiddo was born, I've been feeling major FOMO about raising him so far from her family. I begged my folks to come visit us, offered to pay for their flights and all, but no luck. They haven't come even once in all these years. My family did not approve of our marriage so that made it hell.
When our baby was just six months old, we made the epic journey to Australia so that her family could meet him. It was tiring, but worth it. But honestly, I get kinda envious when I see my other friends having their families fly over to help with their newborns. When she tells her family how I feel, they just say, "Dude, you chose to move abroad, deal with it."
I just wish they'd understand how tough it is. Anyways, life goes on.
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
Indian upbringing cannot be compared to theirs.
Is that a good thing?
they are right, it's your decision, so your consequences
Remember, it’s important not to expect too much from family. If your or your wife's parents choose to visit, that’s great, but don’t worry if they can’t, everyone deserves their own life.
If you’re financially sound, consider hiring some help around the house so you can enjoy time with your family.
Try to avoid feelings of envy, jealousy, they can really affect your mood. Keep in touch with loved ones and visit your parents with your child without expecting anything in return.
Also, don’t underestimate the value of friendship, I’ve often found that friends can be just as helpful, if not more so, than relatives. Take care and Good luck friend! 😊
Your other friends either convinced family or listened to them... Can't have it both ways bro