GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

Married folks, what’s your average monthly expenses?

This should include everything from home bills, entertainment, medical expenses, trips etc. When I was single (back in 2016), my expenses were around 20k per month.

Now I easily go above 1L every month (without rent, we live in our own house). My wife also works and she has her expenses too.

Not sure what’s the reason for it though. We live frugally and don’t spend lavishly (atleast I don’t think we do). I barely buy anything for myself (I use 1k earphones and buy clothes from decathalon). My wife is the same.

Is this common when you get married? That your expenses permanently increase? Or is there something I should be worried about? TIA

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BouncyCupcake
BouncyCupcake

20 K + 20 K in 2016 -> approx 35 K + 35 K = 70 K (assuming 7% inflation over 8 years).

Extra 30 K can be attributed to your lifestyle increase, going out more often , more food ordering , better furniture, gym, medicines, insurance premiums , vehicle purchase, and maintenance if not included etc.

GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

So I spend 1L per month and my wife spends another 30-50k per month. So it’s around 1.3-1.5 per month for us now. We don’t have any kids.

BouncyCupcake
BouncyCupcake

What has changed from 2016 then ?
Any pets ? Vehicles ? Subscriptions to apps ?
Food ordering to definitely 😂

BubblyCupcake
BubblyCupcake

I found myself in a similar situation. I was hardly able to figure out whats going on. So this is what I did.

  1. Track all our expenses across three months. And differentiate into categories. I have like 12 categories I think.

  2. Then I revisited these categories into essentials and unnecessary/wants.

  3. Revisited the numbers I can spare and have to spare for each category.

  4. Created a joint Account for me and my wife. Setup SI to transfer our monthly budget calculated from above.

  5. All expenses will come from that.

After following this it has hardly crossed the limit and then if for some reason it crosses we are clearly aware what might have caused it. Like one time purchases like phone or some vacation. We have separate funds for these so we know that we are not crossing our budgets.

BubblyCupcake
BubblyCupcake

Only thing that we need to be aware of is what are wants and what are needs. how much I am willing to spend on my wants and am I spending too much in the name of needs.

GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

Oh wow, this is fantastic! Curious to know your 12 categories and rough budgets for it. If you can, pls share. I’ll create my spreadsheet too then

MagicalPancake
MagicalPancake
Swiggy10mo

Create an excel and make a habit of entering pareto expenses every month (The count would be at best 20 items).
For us Rent- 60k Travel- 30k (Due to a lot of weddings or travel to meet parents) Grocery - 10k Househelps- 10k Weekend outings- 10k
Misc- 30k
We too barely spend on shopping but when you live in a tier 1 city 1L per month would be minimum expense per month. However your expense seems to be on the higher end given you don't pay rent.

GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

Thanks, this is a good benchmark. I appreciate it!

WobblyBurrito
WobblyBurrito

Damn bro. Pareto in expenses. This is some wonderful perspective. 👏

PrancingPotato
PrancingPotato

Rent - 50 Utilities - 2.5 Maid - 7 Petrol - 15 Subscriptions - 4 Petcare - 3 Grocery, food, hangout - 54 Parents - 80 Annual - 15


Total - 230 Earnings - 345

Savings - 115

GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

Very helpful! Thank you for sharing.

JazzyBoba
JazzyBoba
Zomato10mo

How much experience? And company?

JumpyRaccoon
JumpyRaccoon

How closely do you keep track of your spends? Do you budget at the start of every month?

If you alone are spending about 1L and your wife has her expenses over an above that then I feel something's amiss. Do you spend more on experiences instead? The number looks fine if you are having kids though, or even a home loan EMI. Else this doesn't look frugal IMO.

GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

It’s hard to track it month over month. I mean I just see spends summary on cred and it’s mainly travel, Amazon home shopping or medical expenses. How do you track your spends month over month with your wife? (across CC, UPI etc)

BubblyCupcake
BubblyCupcake

If it’s am android phone, there are bunch of apps. If it’s ios then it’s tough.

I ended up creating a shortcut for it which basically breaks it down and updates an excel.

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