GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda

The older I get, the lesser my excitement becomes for festivals

Holi hai? Diwali hai? So what, nothing to enjoy. Lets spend the day laying on the bed, watching stuff over phone. Feeling less and less disconnected with friends, to the point where I feel I don't even have friends. College friends are based in another city. Didn't even try to make friends at workplace. Stuck alone in my homecity as past 6 years I was based somewhere else completing my grad and preparing for jee. Prior to that focused a lot on studies. So had little to no interaction with people during academics. And now when I have time and money to spend, there is noone with whom I can have fun with.

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CosmicLlama
CosmicLlama

Moved to a city from a Village. I felt the same. The reason is that cities are culturally and morally bankrupt. Except mindless consumerism and inflated egos , cities teach you nothing. The longer one lives in cities, people just become animals in fine clothes.

SillyJellybean
SillyJellybean

Really depends on the city too. Delhi Kolkata Pune still have decent culture and good people. Mumbai Bangalore not so much.

WigglyMochi
WigglyMochi
Oracle12mo

@Majora Dude, you trying to start a war?😂😂

SquishyBanana
SquishyBanana

My man it's time for marriage

DancingTaco
DancingTaco

Lol. Every relation has its own value. Friends are also important in life, partner can’t fill that gap. Partner has its own value in different sense.

PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus
CARS2412mo

When you feel void, marriage is never the solution in long term

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka

I am still excited for the food on festivals. So that's one good thing left (till now)

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka

I don't appreciate being called names. We don't know each other well enough for that kind of language.

BouncyDonut
BouncyDonut

I apologise. Got carried away. My bad.

ZippyBoba
ZippyBoba
Toddle12mo

Bhai jitna ho sake dosto se milo, touch mein raho.

Bohot panga hai bhai.

SleepyBanana
SleepyBanana

College ke dost ab bache hi kahan hai, naam ke dost reh gae hain sadly

SleepyTaco
SleepyTaco

ditto, uhne ab acquantices kehte hai

BouncyDonut
BouncyDonut

Seems as if all the things we heard as children from elders, films etc. about life are coming true.

Life is stressful. 2/10. Wouldn't recommend.

(P.S. Fresh bhai yha logo ko ping krdete. Koi na shi mai to milne aa jaata)

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda

Life is indeed stressful

(Definitely will do it next time!)

GigglyPancake
GigglyPancake
EY12mo

You are stuck in a rut my friend. One thing I will advise you before you get married is: go travel solo! You have the time and the money, and most importantly probably the health. Solo travelling will inspire confidence in you like no other, and will lead you to rediscover yourself (as in what actually you want in life). The answer always lies within us: we just need to tap within ourselves and that doesn't happen when you are trapped in a rut, you just need to keep moviny and discover new things and in the process, yourself!

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda

Surely will follow your advice

GigglyPancake
GigglyPancake
EY12mo

Feel free to reach out for any queries/ guidance on solo travelling ✌️

SwirlyUnicorn
SwirlyUnicorn

I moved to BLR and I miss my home badly

In my hometown (state) Goa we celebrate shigmo before holi, where I am very much involved to the event and miss hearing to sound of dhol tasha and the chants of "Shabai... ", "Hargayo..."

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda

Why am I getting teary eyes 🤧

SwirlyUnicorn
SwirlyUnicorn

Sharing some of the few events, so you'll can also know about what shigmo is and how is it celebrate across Goa.

Sheni uzo (this happens in my hometown) - https://youtu.be/NhSjuAIxyGU?si=fB0cGB76Kq9sHUOY

Chorotsav - https://youtu.be/TsSzjv-JHS4?si=xAyTXYyWlRyWmf52

Konarpant Ancho shigmo - https://youtu.be/1d6vn-WXwGs?si=5XYXxXCcr--BXaZs

Mainstream shigmotsav - https://www.youtube.com/live/UCNPkSKA5QU?si=UgUGPeqJ3aGcaZWL

GigglyBoba
GigglyBoba

1.Old movies dekhna start Karo 2. Leave IT job and start murgi firm.

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda
  1. Binging hollywood movies or wholesome webseries
  2. No kidding, I am planning to have my side hustle as murgi farm
SleepyKoala
SleepyKoala
TCS12mo

We all have this #2 plan in our head ? Because same.

ZestyPretzel
ZestyPretzel
Swiggy12mo

Try ritualizing festivals. Ritualizing makes you feel fuller. Every time you hit a target, your dopamine also gets a hit. A ritual is a target associated with a reward, punya/paap for festivals. Try satsangs or something like art of living where you will find a younger crowd.

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda

I am more of a believer in "work is workship" thing. I do have fate in god but refrain myself from religious gatherings

ZestyPretzel
ZestyPretzel
Swiggy12mo

Work is worship is fine for most part. But diversify your interests. Work can get frustrating and you will need something to fall back on.

WigglyBanana
WigglyBanana

Very true. Was my first holi in Bangalore and there was absolutely nothing to do. I think the best we can do is have a circle of friends, meet them as is traditional on festivals. That's the best you can do.

I think constantly changing jobs and cities has this negative impact - you miss on building meaningful long term relationships.

CosmicWaffle
CosmicWaffle

Agree. Ujdi hui zindagi hai, aaj kahin kal kahin aur. You start making good relationships and a new job in a different city comes along. Back to square one :)

GroovyPanda
GroovyPanda

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