I am 28 F working from home since past few years. I've recently gotten promoted and my in hand TC has increased to 1.2 cr/year. I have been looking for arranged marriage prospects but unable to find. I am very worried that I will become undesirable because of my high salary! People who approach me are only approaching because of my TC and not real connections. They have desires of purchasing house, etc. How can I find a real connection and what is to happen if I'm unable to find someone. If there is someone in this boat, please share your thoughts.
Introduction :
Please don't mind but I think almost 60% men are in same boat. They worry if the girl really likes them, is comfortable with them OR is with them just for status and comfort from money.
Further:
If you think deeper, most women are also in the same boat. They are always confused about whether the guy loves their soul or their body. Right?
Hence everyone has the same problem - to find if the person with them is with them for themselves, and not the added benefits.
Solution :
@BlackGate Firstly it is to relax and start evaluating. Have an abundant mindset and leave this scarcity mindset - "what if I am not able to find someone". Leave this mindset.
Now prepare a list of 10 important non negotiable points/qualities you want in your partner.
Secondly, after your mindset is - "there are plenty of people who can actually love you for yourself and not your money*. Then you can start to know multiple people at same time - Don't go into relationship, or physical closeness. Don't even go for emotional closeness. But just get to know people. Get to know people around you. Don't judge based on face or first impression if he can be your life partner or not. But just, talk to people. Also, be honest and straight forward to them by telling you are just getting to know other people along with them.
During this phase make sure to tell people that you work as an entry level job in Google. Which pays 15 lacks per annum.
Third and last step :
After you have seen how people are, some are creep, some shallow, some narrow minded, some even after being good are not soo attractive. You willl finally find someone who tick marks atleast 6 out of your 10 qualities which you were looking for.
If you can find atleast 6 out of 10 then consider yourself lucky.
All the best lady 👋
I don't want a house. Happy to be a house husband while you go and conquer the world.
And I won't ever ask for expensive gifts.
I will put my time identifying the next big microcap 100x or Bitcoin. So, you don't have to be worried about me running away. Because I will always be dependent on you.
If you think people are only approaching you for your TC, stop telling them your real TC. Initially tell people you earn 25-30 LPA. If they are still interested, you know it's not for your TC. Good luck 👍
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