SillyMochi

What would you do?

A female colleague of mine caught multiple times staring at me at randomly, and starts conversation at night using WhatsApp.

She also comes to my desk randomly for trivial suggestions and help. She knows I am married and have kids. Her behaviour doesn’t look appropriate to me.

She even sent her picture once asking if she looking cute. Normally I wouldn’t have minded all these but she kept sending messages at night and it causes some issues with my family.

What would you do in this case?

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PrancingCupcake

Accenture5mo

This answer is not satire but serious:

Depends. Do you love your wife? If yes, talk to her about this. She should not hear of this surprisingly. If she is open to hearing, she will understand and help you through it.

Also, if she is understanding she may also be open to an open-marriage arrangement, if you are into this young girl.

If you don't love her, then go ahead and make some midnight memories.

ZestyQuokka

Stealth5mo

The fuck!

PerkyWalrus

Deloitte5mo

Stop making such things normal. It's a big bad deed to even think of any other woman than your wife even in the worst dreams.

DizzyLlama

Atlys5mo

If I was in your position, where I have no idea what her intentions are, I'd make it a point to not reply to her texts at night (probably see them in morning). If she's close to me at work, touching my hand etc, if it happens more than once, intentionally, would just talk it out politely 1v1 and without assuming anything on her part, just say that it's making me uncomfortable

Tldr - basically do things to not show you are not interested in talking at night and set up boundaries on what makes you uncomfortable at work

SillyMochi

Stealth5mo

Mature response and act! Thanks

PrancingMuffin

WS Atkins5mo

I would avoid any 1 on 1 convo. It can be easily misused against you. And take your wife into confidence about this. It will only strengthen your marriage...

PerkyWalrus

Deloitte5mo

The heading is "what would you do". So, I will answer for that. I will help her get a bf. Ask my wife if she knows anyone suitable. Then we 4 will go on double date after she gets married to him💪

DizzyLlama

Atlys5mo

That seems like a huge red flag, especially for your wife

SillyUnicorn

LTIMindtree5mo

Tell her politely that you are not interested and if that doesn't work, block her on WA. Let any close colleague know. Also let your wife know.

SwirlyPenguin

Stealth5mo

I’ll tell my wife first, so there’s transparency amongst you guys

SillyUnicorn

Stealth5mo

If I were you I would’ve blocked her from WhatsApp as she is just a colleague.

GroovyUnicorn

Mastercard5mo

Quickest suggestion to this is talk to your wife about this and you can be a gentle man and talk the girl as well . Trust me you are not 18 year old doesn’t know what to do in this situation can you please dont ask randos on social media. You will get stupid answers.