22 and scared

Guys please give me some tips to become fearless. I alway fear in every work. Whether it's joining new company,taking some tough work, doing something new, you name it and I always have fear. Fear of what will happen next,how will I manage that, is it even possible, what if they don't like me etc etc etc. I am currently in my early 20's and I don't want to spend my life fearing from everything. Please peeps guide me or give some mantras based on your life experiences how not to fear or how not to get that feeling.

After completing engineering I got a full time job opportunity in a logistic company as a business analyst. At the start everything was good but slowly I was pushed in the non technical department. Right now my majority of work consists of people's management. There is no technical aspect left in my job role and neither am I learning anything. After spending 02 years in the company I learned nothing. After realising my mistake I started learning SQL and then I've planned to learn Tableau as I have an inclination towards Data Analytics but due to my toxic job I can't focus on things. Also I can't leave the current job as I am having the responsibilities of my family. Seeing my friends succeeding in their job really makes me anxious. Also I can't apply for jobs in service based companies like TCS, Wipro, Accenture etc. as I'm having 4 years educational gap after class 10 due to financial issues. My father lost his job so I was helping my father who was working in a local groceries shop during that time.

Hi Everyone, I currently Work as a Data Engineer in an MNC. I recently got selected as a IT Officer in a PSB as PLSQL Developer. Should I join the PSB or upskill as a Data Engineer. What would be the wise choice ? Can any one help me with this like the work culture and career progression in both ? Thanks in Advance

I am a fresher doing b.tech in cse, I don't have a job right now, my previous company declined thr joining due to which I was not able to apply for other jobs coming on campus. My friends got job somewhere, I feel very disappointed in myself and I can't see my family lower their expectations in me. Mentally I am not in the state to do anything, I think my life is falling apart although it didn't even start. I am lacking motivation, I cry all the times thinking what will happen now. My father is retired, he's getting old, I want to give him that luxury and things but I can't get success thay easily. I am struck at the lowest point in my life. Even my friends are not helping me. I don't share my feelings with anyone. I don't know what to do should I look for a job or start preparing for MBA or MS in USA. I know this point came in life of many people, please help out I can't see myself going anywhere.

I'm not sure why we find it so difficult to understand ourselves. What we aspire to be yet are unable to pursue our dream or passion. My childhood hope was that before the age of 25, I would be able to hold everything, such as a house and a car. But I have accomplished nothing until now. All of my dreams, which consist of nothing more than seeing myself succeed in the future, demotivate me greatly, causing me to feel miserable. Every day, my failure serves as a reminder that I am useless. I work hard every day, yet I sometimes feel like I'm not doing what I should be doing. Guys, I need your opinions about that is it phobia or fear of something else.

I'm at a turning point in my life, living in a small town. I recently graduated, and my current concentration is on studying for the CAT24 exam. Yet, it is not only academic pressure that is weighing on me, there is also a huge financial weight due to medical expenditures. These bills have piled up over the last few years, adding to the stress and uncertainty I'm already feeling. It's upsetting to be dealing with sadness and feelings of hopelessness at the age of 22. Life appears to have taken a sharp turn for the worst, and I'm fighting to find meaning and purpose in my daily existence. The weight of these issues might be daunting, so I'm asking for strong advice and support from anyone who is ready to help. Please give me some advice on how I should earn some money online?

Current state - I work as a PM intern at a startup. We shipped a major release few months back and since then I barely have any work. It's an ops heavy startup, so the work we do is just supplementary and I'm not making a huge impact anymore. I'm one of the select remote workers here and I've been with the org for the last 2 yrs, working parallelly alongside my college. Initially the work was exciting but now it has died down. The org has a okayish culture. There's no downside but limited upside as well. Pay is pretty good for me (considering I work <2hrs/week) but below average for fulltimers. A little context - I'm pursuing an integrated(5yr) degree from a reputed B-school in Mumbai and I'll be graduating coming July. The placement cycle will start soon but I'm extremely unsure of what I want to go ahead with. I have varied interest. I like to tinker and play around with things. I've built successful social media pages & YT channels in the past. I've freelanced in digital marketing, web development and made decent money out of it. I've built chrome extensions and apps with several thousand users. I feel like I also have interest in web3, strategy, founders office and consulting roles. Few months back, I got an offer from a DeFi company, however they receded it once they realised I still have more than a year left to graduate. The confusion - I feel like I should leave my current org as there's no more learning here. However, I don't know in which direction should I proceed after that. The only thing I'm sure of is I'm not built for big corporates. I enjoy working with high ownership and small sized startups seem like the only option. I have 8 months of college left and I'll have to start looking for jobs within next 1-2months. (continued in comments)

I think I'm losing my mind. I'm a 32-year-old guy in tech, graduated from IIIT Delhi, earning 78L annually, but I feel like I'm fooling everyone, including myself. It's as if I'm constantly waiting for someone to burst into the office and shout, "Hey, fraud! We've finally figured out you're actually useless!" I know it sounds like I'm humble-bragging, but trust me, I'm not. This feeling is eating me alive. Seven years ago, I started as a regular software engineer. Somehow, I kept getting promoted. Now I'm leading a team of 15 people, handling critical projects, and sitting in meetings with the higher-ups. But every time I'm in those meetings, I feel like a kid wearing his dad's oversized suit, pretending to be an adult. I work my ass off - late nights, weekends, you name it. But I always feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water. When my team comes to me with problems, I'm secretly panicking, thinking, "Why are you asking me? I'm as clueless as you!" The worst part? Everyone around me seems to think I'm some kind of wunderkind. My boss is always praising me in front of others. My team looks up to me. Even my parents are bragging about me to all our relatives. But inside, I'm constantly terrified that I'll make one tiny mistake and everyone will realize I'm a fraud. I see my college batchmates on LinkedIn, and they all seem so confident and successful. Meanwhile, I'm here, earning more than I ever thought I would, but feeling like I don't deserve any of it. I can't even enjoy my success. I bought a nice house last year, but instead of feeling proud, I keep thinking, "What if they fire me tomorrow? How will I pay for this?" It's like I'm waiting for everything to come crashing down. I know it's ridiculous to complain about a high-paying job when so many people are struggling. But this constant fear of being "found out" is driving me insane. I can't even talk to my friends about it because they'll probably think I'm just showing off. Has anyone else felt like this? How do you deal with feeling like a fraud when everyone thinks you're successful? Is this just part of adult life that no one talks about? This is what eats me alive during weekends, realised it's Friday and panic typed this here

Hello everyone, I hope you're doing well. I find myself in a challenging situation and could really use your advice and support. **Context:** I graduated in 2021 with a degree in electrical engineering from a decent college, but unfortunately, I didn't secure a placement. Since then, I've been struggling to find my path and ended up taking random jobs, leading to a significant gap in my career of almost 2 to 3 years. Alongside my career struggles, I've been battling with depression and anxiety, which have been exacerbated by the lack of support from family and friends. Despite seeking help from therapists and doctors, I haven't seen much improvement. Additionally, I attempted the GATE exam without success, as I lack passion and feel limited options are available. **Request:** I'm feeling lost and fearful about my future, especially considering my physical and mental health issues. My confidence has taken a hit due to repeated failures, and I find myself fearing everything. I'm reaching out to this community in the hope of finding guidance, support, and perhaps some practical advice on how to regain my confidence and overcome these fears. **Additional Request:** If anyone has faced similar challenges or has insights on how to rebuild confidence after setbacks, I would greatly appreciate your input. Any insights, personal experiences, or suggestions you can offer would be immensely appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read this and for any help you can provide. Warm regards