22 and scared
Hi guys, I like coming here through the notifications once in a while and I thought that since we all are anonymous, I would share something that I've been going through for a while now.
I have a strong fear of not getting a job/not earning money and being dependent on my father financially. It might sound stupid but for me it's such a deep fear that I can't concentrate on my work without feeling like bawling my eyes out. I am 22 and pursuing a second masters. I see people around me having jobs and being independent and I can't help but feel like a failure. I never really had anyone to guide me so I didn't make the best academic choices. I just wanted to hear your guys thoughts about how I can overcome this fear and if any of you had similar fears. I won't expect a lot of replies but it would feel better to have someone reassure me. Thanks!
Don't worry bro, things will turn out fine eventually. My sister gave 4 attempts for NEET just because she wanted to become a doctor. From an outside perspective, any one will say that she is 3 years back and all, her friends and batchmates have started earning and whatnot. But I have seen myself how much dedication she has put in her studies and so have our parents and at the end of the day, that is what matters. You just need to have some confidence in yourself and on the work you are doing. Every effort counts no matter how small. Just keep working hard.
Same as here for long. I took shelter in God, he is guiding me to the destination. Rest are your choice.
Fear of not getting job will go away once you get into job and complete 2-3 years
Fear of not earning money or being financially dependent will go away once you have few lakhs in bank account.
Make your goals into small actionable and focus on them and start hustling such thoughts will take you nowhere
After some years you will laugh at yourself about how silly your thoughts wrere.
Don't think much, give your best and leave the rest. This is the mantra almost all successful people follow, everyone has their own insecurities. Just keep working hard and smart, make sure you don't lie to yourself or fool yourself. Go one day at a time. Good luck!
Don’t worry, things will be fine. Everyone has their own struggles and journey to travel.
Yours maybe different from your friends or known. Don’t compare. Have trust in yourself and keep upskilling. All the best.