Approach a girl
How frequently do you guys just approach a girl at random? On the streets, in bars, at gyms, etc. P.S. If you have any communication starters, please share.
VioletCabin
Stealth
a year ago
I was approached by a guy on the street we were just passing by against each other. he noticed me and stopped me to give a compliment. I felt strange and wierd because it was all of sudden. I never saw that guy before.
It looks creepy actually in general.
Seems I was not a random person we live near to each other (saw him again after few weeks passing by at night without making any eye contact but I felt it was him) so he has seen me quite a few times.
For showing guts to approach and tried to initiate conversation, I will say 10/10 for making efforts.
But I will say should not do it.
If u made an eye contact and she also made it and u both smiled at each other u can say hi.
Take it slowly. Start with waving hi then gradually approach and talk to her.
VioletCabin
Stealth
a year ago
* Passing by each other
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
understood
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God knows what "special skills" these fbois possess,
just came back from friend's flat, there was a jobless, no hardskills, mba coaching goer flatmate, b*nging a girl he picked up from a shopping mall this evening.
mind you this in Ahmedabad, no clubs/bars/pubs.
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
boy got skills
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Get off your phone, go outside and hope an extrovert adopts you, you’ll slowly get accepted back in social society and get the confidence to talk to a girl.
Or do what most people do, have a couple of drinks and say bye bye(temporarily) to your social anxiety
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
got it...
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samosa
Stealth
a year ago
unless you are absolutely gorgeous or have a lot of money or something to show off for (it's reality, let's accept that) it won't work in India.
I believe girls in India look for safety hence they need to know something about you before you approach them, so in my opinion the best way is to meet via mutuals.
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
agree with you... and especially the safety point
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
a year ago
That sounds creepy
LordPuneet
Stealth
a year ago
Know any better way?
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SabChangaSi
Stealth
a year ago
Say: You look much more beautiful now than you do through my binoculars.
She'll be very very flattered
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
good one...
LooseGoose
Stealth
a year ago
I rarely approach anyone IRL, don't want to come off as creepy+rejection fears. Dating apps worked out for me but takes time to understand how they really work.
I have been approached IRL sometimes though, and such situations require a decent understanding of body language. It basically starts with eye contact. Someone who's interested and available will frequently look at you and try to make eye contact. That's a sign to try talking to them.
But the problem in such scenarios is there will likely also be some competition from other people around. And it's possible they lose interest once you actually approach.
Winning strategy is to become approachable so you don't have to actually make a lot of effort. Polish yourself, be it appearance, hygiene or conversation skills.
Conversation starters -
Easy (boring) mode: ask them their name, hometown, what they do etc. Compliment them.
Hard (exciting) mode: try to guess the person's attributes and make conversation focused on the present and not the past. Ask them random, funny and unpredictable questions. Humour works well.
Don't show too much interest, and be prepared to actually walk away too (in case it's a bad vibe). Some will prefer the easy mode approach vs the hard one because it's more familiar to them. Upto you to figure which one they like on the fly.
Tl;Dr - direct IRL approach is complicated and requires some prep.
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
would you throw some light on how dating apps worked put for you.
LooseGoose
Stealth
a year ago
Bunch of factors at play tbh. Too much to explain in text but I'd be happy to consult/coach for a fee if you're open to it. Standalone advice doesn't really apply to all situations and people.
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Gonedalf
Stealth
a year ago
Why not use dating apps if you really want to meet someone? Real life isn’t a RomCom. Don’t be creepy.
Keep it simple. Find a café-type club where you can dance. Check if girls are dancing. Now, slowly show some decent moves and try to engage with one of them gently. Then, mimic her moves and share some laughs. The stage is set. Ask for a glass of beer, strike up a conversation, and then head to her place.
TheLazyFounder
Stealth
a year ago
All the comments still no one could figure out the answer
BoogieMan
Stealth
a year ago
It's not what you say, but *how* you say it.
Nevertheless, since you asked for convo starters, if you want to hook up with a random girl outside, you could just keep it simple and direct, and open her with "Hey! I saw you doing *insert whatever it is she was doing when she caught your eye*, and I thought you were interesting/cute/had a great vibe/etc., so I came here to call out a 'Hi'".
If you feel this is too direct, you could also use indirect openers, enquiring about cool places to go to or talking about usually some situationally relatable topic.
However, it is not just the opening, but also the rest of the conversation that matters. Ideally, if you are confident, and come across as a man who gets what he wants, chances of you landing her number is quite good. From thereon, it is about how you set up those dates.
If you want to approach hot chicks, I would say there has never been a more suitable time. I go out, and all I see are extremely horny women totally unsatisfied with either their partners or singlehood, waiting for a cool, confident hunk of a man to sweep them off their feet and phook them seredipitously.
Good luck!
sashi
Stealth
a year ago
thanks... will try this...🫡
BoogieMan
Stealth
a year ago
No worries. If you want it, then we could connect elsewhere in order to help you give this thing a solid shot.
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