Can anyone explain me what’s the point
I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get. To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished. I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.
Just to be clear this feeling does not go away as you grow older or even when you get married or have kids.
Then you just have way more pressing problems that existential crisis takes a back seat
Googler667
Stealth
a year ago
Its a loop where the complexity just grows with time
The demand for happiness is making you unhappy, bro! And how come you don't have a life? You're writing, breathing, and working. This means you can function properly. But the matter of the fact is, you consider this elementary and are chasing (mostly subconsciously) some vague thoughts about happiness, friendship, or companionship driven by society, not this body which you're calling (no life).
Ask yourself, are these thoughts/feelings your own or are they being fed by society(think of every possible means)?
The problem is that we, as a society, are programmed to believe that we are here for some grander purpose, but the reality is that we are no different than a dog chasing a car who doesn't know what to do if it chases it down.
Once you realise it, there won't be any crisis left!
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No one can help you! Because there's nothing to help there!
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I have stumbled upon this fact last year when I tried help from everywhere and got nothing.
SceneUnseen
Stealth
a year ago
Yup. The only purpose of life is survival and procreation. Everything else is an illusion.
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Bro i know people will tell you to go hit the gym, find a new hobby to do, go out have fun, do solo trips and all that. It might be easy for all of us to advice you but at the end it’s you. You have the power to change everything bhai, honestly what you’re feeling, most of the early 20s guys are feeling the same. Hence, existential crisis hone ki umar or kamm ho gyi hai. I don’t have the exact solution to it but yup, jo jo upr advice k naam pe cheezein boli gayi hai, they might help a lot. Pet a dog or a cat?! If not, join some social groups. Cycling achi lagti hai to group dhundhlo, Bakchodi achi lagti hai to uska group dhundh lo. At the end, Human is a social animal. Socially active rhoge toh yeh sb dimaag se nikal jayega 😌
Googler667
Stealth
a year ago
What problems will sex solve
Cheese
Stealth
a year ago
It might not solve but will open up a new world 🤔
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For OP - I understand you bro. You are fine and you are enough. Sending you virtual hugs. Take care.
For Rest - I believe that when someone expresses their inner-turmoil or hopeless-ness, they don't always need a solution for it. They've been alone with their thoughts enough that they most likely have solution for all of their problems already. A person can solve any problem they have in their life (even terminal illness sometimes) but one can't solve loneliness. Most of us at the end of the day needs someone to share or day, thoughts, feelings with. Someone, that we feel is our side. A friend or a partner. The OP here is clearly alone and feel isolated. IMO he isn't asking for solutions but just wanted to be heard. This is what therapists do as well. They listen.
So for our brother-hood we must support our brother.
We all know that we all feel these similar voices in back of our heads. We just run on auto-pilot trying to suppress them.
Be compassionate. Be macho. Be honorable.
Googler667
Stealth
a year ago
Thanks brother from one man to another you are good human. Sometimes we don’t need gyan. All we need is just someone to hear us that’s it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
SceneUnseen
Stealth
a year ago
I feel you brother. I'm a bit older than you and still feel this. It never goes away.
All you can do is take care of your health. No matter how you feel, eat healthy, try to get good sleep, get some physical activity everyday.
As you get older, along with this existential dread, health issues can crop up big time. Along with hopelessness, I've suffered through health conditions and pain.
Please take care of your health. Hope you feel better in time.
No life? You are 27 bro how much more do you want to grow up. Make life.
All alone? Every mf here is alone. Some just haven't realized it and are lost in a dream world.
No real friend? Friendship is a broken concept. Genuine friendships are rare. They mostly happen during school years. The rest are transient transactional relationships. Dhoni can't hang out with his Ranchi buddies like he used to. Things change, friends change. You are your own friend. Be a good one.
No love life? Right now you are incapable of loving someone else. First love yourself.
No social life? Are you disabled? Can't walk? Can't talk? Can't write long paragraphs on a social media app? Fingers don't reach youtube to search how to make friends how to engage in conversations?
Since you're working, begin by establishing a consistent morning and night routine. Consume healthy food, and consider taking a break from Instagram for a month while dedicating time to listen to Jordan Peterson.
"To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here."
In this journey, if you find some good people don't go all in to share your emotions with them. You emotions should only stay with you. max to max to your wife and then to your parents.
Can't comment on your employer. Maybe after doing all these you might even enjoy your current work. If you don't then ofcourse change it WHILE YOU CAN.
It's not okay to be weak. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5G8Gwr5JJ6Y
I’m feeling kind of the same way. I would’ve liked to talk about this, but unfortunately we can’t DM people on here
Googler667
Stealth
a year ago
Its alright man you can DM me on fishbowl or other similar platforms if you have any of them i would love to hear another person’s perspective on this as well
James_bond
Stealth
a year ago
Don’t listen to the people calling this a part of life and all bullshit
You are only exhausted from the work you ve done so far
Trust me i ve been there
I ll suggest following few measures
* Take a break, don’t touch your laptop for at-least a week (week of disconnect)
* get engaged in a physical activity that involves a group: yoga, dance classes etc
* develop or chase a hobby that you always wanted to
* dont get lazy but live a chill life for the week of disconnect
* connect with your old buddies either physically or virtually
Hope this would turn things around
Smurfminion
Stealth
a year ago
You'll get all the gyaan in the comments here, but in case you haven't yet, would consider going for it atleast starting therapy. Give much needed clarity and something I feel everyone should go to.
Learn shambhavi mahamudra or Surya Kriya . your life will transform.You will start enjoying everything about life.No theory, it is living experience for me
TrulyRandom
Student
a year ago
Its a 45 m practice how do you stay consistent? With the way my hostel Life goes it's so damm tricky to do it . I've stopped it tbh .
Ask yourself what is it that you did as a kid or teen that made you innately happy. Forget software or money or status. When you were a child you never cared about these three. But you were still happy and life was fun. For eg. For me it was physics and geometry. I chose to pursue this as a profession via engineering. I get paid lesser than my friends who are in software engg. But at the end of the day I feel more energetic than when I started. So start with the basic question and go pursue it.
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