I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this?
I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get. To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished. I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.
The demand for happiness is making you unhappy, bro! And how come you don't have a life? You're writing, breathing, and working. This means you can function properly. But the matter of the fact is, you consider this elementary and are chasing (mostly subconsciously) some vague thoughts about happiness, friendship, or companionship driven by society, not this body which you're calling (no life).
Ask yourself, are these thoughts/feelings your own or are they being fed by society(think of every possible means)?
The problem is that we, as a society, are programmed to believe that we are here for some grander purpose, but the reality is that we are no different than a dog chasing a car who doesn't know what to do if it chases it down.
Once you realise it, there won't be any crisis left!
I have stumbled upon this fact last year when I tried help from everywhere and got nothing.
Just to be clear this feeling does not go away as you grow older or even when you get married or have kids. Then you just have way more pressing problems that existential crisis takes a back seat
Its a loop where the complexity just grows with time
Bro i know people will tell you to go hit the gym, find a new hobby to do, go out have fun, do solo trips and all that. It might be easy for all of us to advice you but at the end it’s you. You have the power to change everything bhai, honestly what you’re feeling, most of the early 20s guys are feeling the same. Hence, existential crisis hone ki umar or kamm ho gyi hai. I don’t have the exact solution to it but yup, jo jo upr advice k naam pe cheezein boli gayi hai, they might help a lot. Pet a dog or a cat?! If not, join some social groups. Cycling achi lagti hai to group dhundhlo, Bakchodi achi lagti hai to uska group dhundh lo. At the end, Human is a social animal. Socially active rhoge toh yeh sb dimaag se nikal jayega 😌
For OP - I understand you bro. You are fine and you are enough. Sending you virtual hugs. Take care.
For Rest - I believe that when someone expresses their inner-turmoil or hopeless-ness, they don't always need a solution for it. They've been alone with their thoughts enough that they most likely have solution for all of their problems already. A person can solve any problem they have in their life (even terminal illness sometimes) but one can't solve loneliness. Most of us at the end of the day needs someone to share or day, thoughts, feelings with. Someone, that we feel is our side. A friend or a partner. The OP here is clearly alone and feel isolated. IMO he isn't asking for solutions but just wanted to be heard. This is what therapists do as well. They listen.
So for our brother-hood we must support our brother.
We all know that we all feel these similar voices in back of our heads. We just run on auto-pilot trying to suppress them.
Be compassionate. Be macho. Be honorable.
Thanks brother from one man to another you are good human. Sometimes we don’t need gyan. All we need is just someone to hear us that’s it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
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