Complex Relationship with Loving but Angry Dad

I am 33M, started working at 20. Earned 87LPA when I was dropped off in June 23. I am a very responsible person who had taken care of everything in the family for quite some time. My parents and relatives and everyone else who know me well, know this and kost have appreciated this at some point. My sister separated from her husband 6 months after my marriage and had been living with me and my wife since then till COVID hit. My mother has anger issues and my father is very obedient to her. I love my parents and they loved me I think. Post COVID I moved to my hometown (because family) and things started going downhill. My mother will almost entire day find every faults in my wife and share it with everyone with an angry tone. I just listened to her initially for 2 years but at times I told her that it's enough. Now she has started fighting me. After the fight I would go and apologize to her knowing that it's not my fault just to make things right. This time when my mother fought with me she taunted me that you will come back and apologize. This hurted me even more than the fight. Now I am not going back to apologize and she's escalating it every day. Convinced my father and my eldest sister(happily married) that I am a bad son. Shares messages like "maa bap ko pareshan krne vale bachho ko kya fal milta hai" in WhatsApp groups. She has even asked me to vacate home. I am unemployed at the moment and I told her I will when I have a job. I don't know how to deal with it. I can't convince people in the family that she has anger issues.

So bit of context here. I am a 25 year old Male. Moved to bangalore after 2 years of wfh. Stayed there for a year. Got fed up of my job and toxic workplace tendencies so wanted to resign. Dad had been doing a startup for a bit and he felt I was ready to be useful so he asked me to come. I felt it would good for my career so I moved back. 6 months in I feel mentally drained, and all my limited excitement I feel in life are for the small trips I manage to do where I meet some of my college friends/girlfriend. I had read takes online from people that if I had a chance I would leave everything and be at home with parents, but I just dont feel this way. I love my parents a lot but I just dont feel too much anymore. I dont feel like oh I am so lucky I get to spend so much time with my mother. All of my childhood friends from my city have moved to the US. I have 2 friends(not very close but decent) who I meet sometimes, so life is all about waking up, going to office, coming home and calling my long distance girlfriend (who was with me in Bangalore) and falling asleep with 2/3 hours here and there. I rarely have plans. I feel like I am doing something wrong but I cant pinpoint what. How can I passionately want to spend more time with my parents? I just don’t get it from within. Do I really have to work and find new close friends in the city. People at work keep a bit of distance because my dad is the founder. Anyone with any advice?

Does anyone have fights with their father especially boys? How do you deal with it? Are the conflicts usually due to your own mistakes or carelessness? If so, how can they improve? PS: I am 26 M living in a tier 2 city

I know it's not a good platform to share a personal story but wanted to express myself. I am a software engineer with decent earnings working in Accenture and going to join Deloitte! My family environment is getting worse because of my father's drinking habit. We are not able have a normal topic with happy moment. Every-time I tried to have a discussion it gets into bad fight. I already had a pretty hard heart break and only option I have is family where I am not able to make things right. I am feeling as a failed as a child and not having any expectations from future. I am tired of toxic environment not sure till when I can handle this. I don't want to have any partner in my life as they will face things which I am facing. I suppose leaving life alone is good for me. Alone and happy. I know sharing this will not change anything. Just wanted to tell everyone keep your family first priority. Without family high paying job will also not give any satisfaction.🙂

Heya... New to this app... Experiencing a hard life like others (in this era mostly are struggling) been in a serious relationship it's been 5 years all things are going good but family is not convinced for marriage my side family is good with it but other end family is problematic it's like if this marriage happens they all will die n blah blah this is basically drowning me mentally apart from this complicated job not have good terms with my manager somehow he is trying me leave this job by myself..... So my question after stucking in so much things how to live life

Nowadays people are facing lot and lot of mental health issue and this generation is facing more beacuse of social media and other factors. I have my family where everyone is very tough and have their own ego and anger issues. Its like if we meet there is 110% chance that we will end up with argument or fights (verbally). This had made everyone alone in life and far from each other. Evn between siblings we have such bad relationships due to our ego. what's ideal case and what is not i m not able to differentiate since I have not seen such family with 0 faults but mine is extreme I think. Whatever I try my best but our trip or any meet up will end up with fight and thn we don't talk for days and months . This is affecting me mentally and I couldn't do anything about it. Are any one of u facing such family problems.