Harassment at work

There has been scenarios in which a hard working smart employee doesn't get promotion or hike. Whereas few who are ready to share beds, go to pubs and do quid quo pro are getting every benefit out of it. This highly demotivates the hard working female emps. So have u faced any such? Or do you know the full story of someone doing it ? Bcoz at startups there is no time restrictions. Sometimes late night work happens and so many things are linked with it. I hope I don't need to elaborate.

I want to share my experience as a fresher at Accenture, my first company from a college placement. The first six months were fine, but then I faced severe mental harassment from my supervisor and manager. She constantly criticized my work and gave negative feedback, causing me immense stress. I often skipped meals and worked weekends to improve, but nothing helped. Despite reporting the issue and requesting a supervisor change or a different track, my requests were ignored. The harassment worsened, affecting my physical health, and I couldn't eat or sleep properly. My manager controlled trivial aspects like where to sit and whom to talk to, making the situation unbearable. I was even forced to switch from a developer role to a tester, despite being trained as a developer. The final straw was being placed on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) without a clear reason, with the same harassing individuals assessing me. I only had 1.9 years of experience then. I reported the mental harassment to HR and resigned due to deteriorating health, panic attacks, and weight loss. Despite having no other job offer, I couldn't continue. Even during my notice period, I was forced to complete PIP assignments, which led to suicidal thoughts and further health issues. Now, I am jobless, feeling helpless and frustrated. With less than 2 of experience, I struggle to find offers in a down IT market and don't know what to do next.

Have been hearing a lot that females in a lot of startups are being inappropriately touched by their managers. They are not raising just as their appraisal might get impacted. Is it the case that victims are not raising the cases while the ones who are filing are actual not the victim

My heart is filled with nothing but disgust if these allegations are genuine. I hope this reaches its natural conclusion and justice prevails.

I understand that most of the tech community is men, and probably in this community as well. But some of y'all just make me lose hope, in seeing how pathetic your thought processes are. Women don't need to work cause India's GDP doesn't demand so? Excuse me? Have you heard of financial independence. Some of us want that. The next thing is diversity hiring. Diversity hiring is needed because of regressive thought processes like these that discourage and inhibit the progress of women in the workplace. Women in general, have to go through a lot more in comparison to men in life. Consider an example: You are a guy going to university, you mom does everything for you, you have enough time to study and do everything you want, go out with friends. Now another girl in your class might be expected to do housework, along with studies. If she doesn't score well she is threatened to be married off. As a result she only has so much time to study and not do extra curricular activities, while the guy can do all of that just because of the privilege of being male. This is why the bar of entry is lowered, so that women who are struggling in life, fighting their way through these odds can progess in life. Even if women who don't have these situations benefit, even if it benefits one person, makes their life better. How does it even bother you? Instead you want to make thier lives hell by shitting on them as diversity hire. Please learn empathy. Learn to respect and understand the struggles of others, regardless of their gender. Also acknowledge that as a male you have more privileges than women, because we are in a patriarchal society, which is why women need a helping hand sometimes.

Context: I had put out a message seeking newer projects, and a certain person reached out. They have over 20+ yrs of exp and run their own boutique consultancy. The role they had envisioned fit perfectly that I was looking for. Interview: We spoke over an hour, discussing the role, my top skills that would be beneficial, future prospects, where I see myself beyond work. Genuinely good conversation. The person concludes the Interview and I quote "Now that I have met you, I can definitely say the pictures you have over your social media and website do not do justice to how you look. You have many photogenic angles that you should explore" Shock was understatement I steered the conversation towards how it is essential for my personal brand building and I have it in my consideration. (I believe I handled it well) P.S. Anyone who supports this because it was just appreciating beauty - wrong place wrong time and also wrong person. P.P.S. Time to get a photoshoot done!

Guys - do you think women aren’t as smart/hardworking/motivated OR that the women working around you have been hired for the wrong reasons? Girls - have you experienced sexism at workplace? How do you tell that someone’s behaviour toward you is BECAUSE you’re female?