Lol.. did not know this platform could be used for soliciting beauty enhancing tips.

System Engineer

Any tips  . Never really had a skin care routine

Wast your face and just moisturise before bed and wear sunscreen before you head out in the sun. Start with this!

Product Designer

Earn 1000cr and voila everyone starts looking at you including girls. If you don’t believe me, look at Anant Ambani 😜

Product Owner

Go to Turkey/ Korea. Go under the knife. Ensure to defo get Bambi Eyelid Surgery

Brand Marketing Manager

Product Manager

How does that matter? Anyway I am a developer

Founder

I am fairly decent looking. 6ft tall and light skinned but lately I am getting complex regarding my appearance. I have gotten lot more fat during these months (thanks to my sedentary lifestyle+ wit...

I am fairly decent looking. 6ft tall and light skinned but lately I am getting complex regarding my appearance. I have gotten lot more fat during these months (thanks to my sedentary lifestyle+ with little to no time for gym) and don't get much attention from girls as i earlier got.

Need some solid tips(other than gymming ofc)

How to improve my looks

How to improve my looks- Grapevine

0. Try to have a call/video call before the first date. Always take their phone number/insta id before agreeing to meet, plenty of ghosters and shady folks these days.

1. Always try to meet outside for the first date. Don't go for drives. Those kinda dates almost never end up going well in the long run. Ask to meet halfway, don't go out of your way just to meet someone.

2. Don't meet someone with the expectation to start dating or getting married right away. Get to know them as friends first. Everything else later. 

3. Date for 2-3 months at least before committing to be exclusive, don't rush into things and keep your options open. 

4. Do not go for dates when you're feeling down or depressed. Meeting a stranger most likely won't help, it'll only distract temporarily.

5. Draw up a list of things you want and don't want in a partner. Should have at least 5-6 points on both sides. Pointless to date without knowing that much, but the list will also change with time. 

6. Keep an open mind, try to be empathetic, and have fun. Don't compromise just to please the other. Learn to take a stand and draw boundaries from the start.

7. Use protection always, no matter what. And also have some self defense prepared just in case (for all genders).

Having met hundreds of people through dating apps in the last decade, these are a few rules I formed for myself over time. Hope they help :)

Dating rules 101

Generalist

Hello, fellow men reading this. I have tried my best to include all my learning and those of my friends. I’ve written this as informally as possible.

Let’s get right into it.

Functionality matters as much as features; your personality will matter as much as your looks.

Your looks or pictures on the app will act as a hook, something that will stop girls from swiping left on the spot.

Looks

- Try going to the gym after work or college, and aim for a lean body. This will bring about the most significant change in you over time and will also encourage a good diet and discipline. Everyone likes a fit and athletic person.
- Experiment as much as possible with your appearance. Look up different hairstyles according to your face shape and A/B test with your barber.
- Consider getting a frame of specs suited to your face shape. For example, a square frame can really bring out your jawline compared to an oval frame.
- Wash your face twice a day, use sunscreen, and drink a lot of water. Your face is how everyone judges you, and if you are glowing and smiling, people will be more positive towards you.
- Maintain proper personal hygiene.

Pictures

- Please don’t fall into the trap of generic guitar/dog pictures. You want your pictures to represent who you are as a person. If you are into scuba diving, include a picture of it. If you like books, get a picture from a bookstore.
- Experiment with different poses and locations. Iterate and iterate to see what works.
- Don’t forget to smile. The last thing you want is for girls to assume you are too serious.
- Your pictures need to be a mirror of you. For example, I smile and laugh 24/7, so all my images are goofy.

Dating Wiki for Men

Growth Manager

I turned 25 a few months back. I am balding from my college days. During the lockdown, it was somehow accelerated and lost most of the hair line. Now i look like a person with male pattern baldness who has lost his almost all hair. 

Baldness is hereditary in my family. My head almost looks like my fathers head, who is also bald. 

I always knew that I would go bald someday but never imagined that it would be at 25. 

Though i don't hide it by anything. I go in public openly and try to be as confident as much as possible, but sometimes I feel very sad as people generally stare and don't usually talk normally. Some relatives even tell it on my face that who is going to marry you. This generally brings down my confidence.

Career wise, i am doing pretty good. Earning good money. 

Some people say go for hair transplant, but to be very honest, I don't feel it is worth spending money on the hair, which at the end going to vanish only due to hereditary reasons.

I have almost accepted the way I look now, but  become very anxious when I think about getting married. I'm not sure if somebody is going to accept me the way I look. 

What would be your advice for me? How should I deal with it so that it does bother me again and again.

Going complete bald at 25!

Stay bald. Own that mf look. Be like Kratos from God of war.

Software Engineer

A final year student

I made a lot of mistakes in my life
Never ever worked hard to my fullest potential
Didn't studied well even though I had potential during JEE
Keep getting attracted to girls(very few times), even though I am training myself not to.

Becoming emotionally down often
Feeling guilty of not being able to have someone to talk to.

What I simply want is to work to my fullest potential without getting attracted to the other gender so that there are no distractions and becoming mentally strong to the point that I don't need anyone else continuously present in my life for me.

There has to be a way
Almost everyone around me are so strong
My gut believes I don't have that much time left
I just want to fix everything for my parents and my brother
And leaving with a pride and honor of a MAN.

How to Forgive OneSelf?

Here’s some context. I have been hitting the gym on and off for like a year now. My body weight is 65kgs. I can bench press 60 kgs, can deadlift 120kgs. I can jog 5kms in roughly 30 mins. I am 21 years old. Though I know these are decent numbers from a health perspective, I feel inferior when looking at people lift significantly more on social media. I feel like my body is not at all in a good shape. I see people posting insane transformations in 3 or 6 months, and here I am stagnant with my progress inspite of hitting the gym for a year now. Do anyone of you guys feel the same way? On top of this, when I share my progress with friends who don’t know much about fitness, they ain’t impressed at all. They see influencers lifting insane numbers and consider that too be the norm. 
FYI I don’t take any supplements, hence hitting my protein target has been pretty much not possible most days.

Is Social media setting unrealistic beauty standards?

Have you seen the before and after people got money, celebrities and others too.

Money does get you a lot. better skin, groomed, polished look
But how?

Facials, procedures aren’t the trick (because tried all)
What is it?

How to get Glow up

Consultant

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

Gym peeps, what made y'all started working out?

Software Developer

I was actively gymming for the last 4-5 months, following diet (no sugar, oily, junk food initially and easing the restrictions subsequently) and managed to lose approximately 10 kg.
Before starting weight loss I used to eat junk food almost daily with no exercise. However, recently I have been unable to go to the gym for the past 15-20 days, however, I try to bicycle at least an hour on holidays to cover up.
I was recently out for a short work trip and gained some weight as I ate outside. This feels very bad and at times feels like my efforts to lose weight went in vain.
Can anyone suggest what to do? Even if I eat outside for a few days, I end up gaining visibly (fat cheeks, fat on my belly etc.)
Is there any solution to this?

Gained Weight

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.

So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.

I realised that,
Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)

My current daily routine is like this:
Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.

School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.

Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.

I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
1. I’m the only son of my parents.
2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.

That’s it
🙏🏼

This week’s introspection

Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. 
 Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho

General Manager

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I look decent (or so my mirror makes me believe)
But during office calls (we have mandatory camera on policy), I look 🤮

I mean if I had to be on a call with myself, I would cut the call!

What's the way out here

How to look good on online meetings

Hi fellow viners. 
This post might sound funny, but some real advice would be quite appreciated.
Lately of all things I'm insecure about, me not having a beard at this age of 28 is bothering me the most. 
My peers say I look like a college kid. In fact once at my office party at a bar, one guy from the staff specifically asked for my Aadhar in front of my manager and team(They all were laughing like crazy 😑)
Similar incidents happen to me every once in a while.
Putting this post out to seek suggestions on practical ways to have a beard at this age and how to go about this situation holistically.

Thanks.

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