I am a female and call my female friends bro/dude. Which is not gender neutral but they know it isn't demeaning

Inclusivity is much more than that, restricting to such words doesn't make them woke

Consultant

It's not about correcting others, it's about virtue signaling. My friends call each other, bro or dude. That's completely normal.

Software Engineer

These lgtv hd+ guys, I don’t have any problem with them until and unless they want me to participate in their stupid game. 
  
 Whenever they say I’m being transphobic or something, my only weapon is that I’m super straight. This is my sexuality now; you can’t say I’m any more phobic. 
  
 Plus I’m gonna use guys…..even harder!

Why hate the community? That correction was most probably made by a woman, doesn't mean we're going to spit hate on them.

Machine Learning Engineer

sorry man, if this offended you! its way too old comment from me.

Security Analyst

just your avg T1 rebel, fighting their way against patriarchy.

Backend Engineer

There’s a guy who’s made his twitter personality out of this joke 😂

Account Manager

https://x.com/pragdua/status/1690243027523211264 
  
 He’s posted this like 15 times

Growth Manager

Guys is not a gender neutral.  
  
 People don't have any problem with it, They are building their environment inclusive. It doesn't need to be folks, you can also use everyone.  
  
 And yes, I've met people who were not comfortable when people were addressed as guys. It's hard.

Product Designer

UX/UI Designer

Brand Marketing Manager

Product Manager

he should have replied: "I'm only talking to the guys, not girls" 🙊

Senior Software Engineer

Product Head

As a female myself I never really had a problem. Guys is kind of a gender neutral word now. People who are non binary/female, do yall really have a problem w someone saying "guys" and not "folks" o...

As a female myself I never really had a problem. Guys is kind of a gender neutral word now. People who are non binary/female, do yall really have a problem w someone saying "guys" and not "folks" or "people"

Is saying "guys" really this bad?

Is saying "guys" really this bad?- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Why do people on this platform assume a generic username to be a man? (if the username doesn't give the gender away)

Assumption

Customer Success

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

My company is only hiring females for most of the positions. Now I dont really care about the gender/race/religion of the people getting hired but they must have right skillset and attitude.

But most of the candidates who have been hired have none of these two. My team has almost 50 percent female candidates but they have been into the team for almost 6 months but still don't perform upto the mark. In some cases, college freshers are able to get the job done faster than these folks. Availability is also a big challenge and it's difficult to approach them to work beyond working hours even for small things that would take 30 mins or 1 hour. They just reply by saying I have logged ofr for the day. And manager would ask a guy to do the job. And let me confirm that the management expect us to be available 24/7 as its a business and operationally driven company.  The manager dont ask females to work after working hours in most of the cases. They only work after working when the entire team is working. If its the individual owner who has to act, tgen it surely goes to any male guy. and everyone is super pissed of because despite working and giving more than 100 percent, the teams productivity doesn't justify the head counts. 

In my experience, diversity hiring should be done with caution. Candidates hired should have almost same level of knowledge and skillset as of the team and they should be told about the work culture, expectations at the time of hiring. Also people who don't need a job should avoid joining such culture as they aren't not sincere about their job and will be hated by everyone in the team due to these differences.

Recently When I raised this concern to my manager, he said that I should avoid saying all this as it or else if this goes to HR, cases of posh may be slaaped onto me. I am really pissed off, planning to change the job asap. Not sure what kind of work culture have we created....

Diversity Hiring

Why can't I find a single decent guy in Hyderabad? Every guy I have met in-person has either a "ZERO personality techie" or is a "KTM driving influencer"

No nice decent men in this city or what? Delhi had great guys but after moving here, it is just sad.

Why is dating in Hyderabad so dead? ☠️

Software Developer

Was speaking to two of my friends (from GV) on this topic. One was supporting, and one against.

As a fellow female on Grapevine, I think it is not necessary. 
If only we stop treating women as second gender, and just see them as basic humans, a lot of things will change.

To let people have a safe space to voice opinions, does not need a secluded room.

So many of us are unaware of problems (physical, mental, emotional) others face, this platform does a great job in bringing all at one place.

Do we need separate community for women on Grapevine?

HRs in my company are so woke they've now added gender neutral washrooms. Already have a feeling this will become a new makeout spot for office couples.

Woke HRs

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Women in startups how do you feel about the 400 member strong tech team with just a few women developers and product and project managers? 

Men just don’t get it- all our lunch hour conversations about which fit girl and mommy they saw in the gym and which HR is cute. They talk about how they are just not able to find qualified and good female developers and how they prefer to not hire them because they cry so easily under pressure. 

While I am at a pretty good positon and work shoulder to shoulder with my all male team, I feel extremely weird about how all men are okay with male bosses being random and rude and somehow associate it with how intimidating and god like these male bosses are. Same for women is bitchy and entitled.

When around them 12 hours a day, I tend to internalise how they view men and women. I am above average smart, joined top consulting firm out of undergrad and work on key projects at a startup at all but 23 years. But I tend to internalise the need to be pretty and slim, and polite or they would talk about me like this behind my back. 

What to do

Rant about men in startups

Diversity hiring (bank -mnc) has gotten to a point where I am only dealing with female stakeholders now as opposed to 10 years ago where I was dealing only with male stakeholders. What a fantastic change it has been! (Not sarcasm)

Diversity and inclusion

Senior Program Manager

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

Does gender wage gap exist in the corporate tech world? Or is it purely performance based?

What about biases in appraisals, promotions, who gets a chance to lead and all?

Looking for personal insights and experiences.

Gender-based wage gap

Copywriter

Unpopular opinion: Patriarchy hurts men equally

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

My manager went on a vacation. She came back and had a meeting on some ongoing issue. I asked her "How was your vacation?" ( it was a 9 day vacation). She said: Umm, leave that and let's talk about the issue.I was like okay okay! It would have been nice to atleast say in a short sentence - was a nice trip, lets talk about the issue though. Am I overthinking? Or was that a douche move and ignore my question where I was being nice to her. CTC: 19 LPA

How should I handle this situation?

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I have been working in HSBC GSC HYD for more than a year and as this journey comes to an end now, I would like to share my experience with you all. 
The first thing that comes in our mind while joining any new company is about their workplace environment and their HR policies. 

There have been quite a few incidents that happened during the last one year which I neglected thinking "Isn't this what corporate life feels like?" I neglected everything to the point where it became unbearable for me and made me go through some serious mental health issues and panic attacks. 

The most recent incident that I would like to share with you all is when I was ethnically humiliated by one of my colleague.

The incident happened on 22 April 2024 when I was subjected to ethnically insensitive remarks by my colleague AA. The exacts words which was used by him is 'EK CHAMAAT MAARENGE, BIHAR PAHUCH JAOGI' which exactly means - I will slap you so hard, you will go back to Bihar. 

I did follow the protocol and informed my manager AT about the whole incident but nothing came out of it, except for a team meeting where I was told that my colleague did not physically assault me, it was just a hatred comment which I can let go of. 

I reached out to the concerned HR team and filed a POSH Complaint for the same, after weeks of the incident, on 3 May, I received an email from the HR team to give feedback for the same without any updates on what action was taken. 

I did let go of everything thinking that anyways I will be leaving the office soon as I am currently in my notice period when another incident happened. 

I was on a smoke break when VKR, AMO from the UK CDD team approached me and made objectifying remarks on me. The comment he made was 'Tmhare jaisi ladki hum aaj tk ni dekhe hai, akele pura UK team ka naam kharab kr k rkhi hai.' which means - He has never seen a girl like me, I have ruined the name of their team. I did ask him the reason for saying such things to which he replied 'tmhare alawa kisi UK team ki ladki ko hm ni dkhe hai cigarette pite huye' which means - he has never seen any girl from the UK team smoking cigarettes. Later while going back inside the office, I saw him eating tobacco and spitting on the wall inside the office premises. 

My LWD is 13 June 2024 and I hope this post reaches to everyone who are currently working in HSBC and to the people who are planning on joining HSBC GSC HYD before I leave. 

Source: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/nitika-kumari-10996b182_workplacewellness-positiveworkculture-employeewellbeing-activity-7202948416249753601-P9mK?

Workplace Toxicity at HSBC

Good that she reported it. Such things are shrugged as usual banter, though people don't understand how deeply they can affect someone's mental health

I'll go first:
Dad's college friend asked why am I not married.
He didn't want the answer anyway

So he goes: You know if women don’t marry, they start developing genetic disorders. 
It is science; the body needs marriage. 

He had the audacity to say this loud, and when I retorted back, my mom was not happy coz I was being 'disrespectful'

Continuing Marriage questions: What's the most unnecessarily Gyan you ever got? By whom?

If we open up to girls about our feelings, we either be ridiculed or weak but if girls open up there is a whole community supporting them!!

Even if it's men's mental health month, are there any open talks or girls helping out??? NOPE

WE CAN EITHER SHUT UP AND LOCK IN OUR INTEGRITY OR SHARE OUR THOUGHTS TO THEM....


Convince me! 

Ps: no fights just a post to look out to talk with girls🥴

Is it just me or we Bois are really afraid to talk to girls about our feelings

Information Security

Adding context as link. 

3-4 months ago I shared my story on Grapevine about the brutally traumatising experience I faced at the hand of my colleague's wife who had accused him of committing adultery with me. This was obviously a bogus claim over a small misunderstanding around a bag which had gotten exchanged with my swimsuit in it.

Here's what happened afterwards.

I was out jogging last week in the morning. I've been trying to get in better shape for this summer as I'm planning on going for a beach vacation in. couple of months. After sustaining Zone 5 consistently I was going through my cooldown regimen for normalising my heart rate. 

Suddenly someone tapped my shoulder from behind and it was none other than that colleague's bitchy wife. She had shaven her head weirdly. This was extremely problematic imo because she is a known deranged person(read the last post to figure out why). I tried walking away but she started blocking my way.

I asked her what happened and she said that she was sorry for what happened and started crying. She said that her husband said that she had humiliated him and that people at work didn't talk to him properly for weeks because of what she did. 

I started walking slowly while acting engaged in her dialogue. As soon as I was about to reach the end of the park I started running towards my car that was parked outside and drove off.

I am very worried. Is she stalking my whereabouts? What should I do? My flatmates are trying to console me but I thought 4 months down the line everything was forgotten. I am extremely paranoid about what is happening.

Background
During a trip to Thailand, me and a colleague accidentally swapped bags. When I called to explain the mistake, his wife accused me of trying to seduce her husband. She harassed me with phone calls, and later threw eggs at my residence. Then, set her husband's bag on fire and got into trouble with the police. She was then arrested.

For full context: https://share.gvine.app/FdwwvTcDLzaK6i2a9

I would also like to address those who said that the story is fake. It isn't. I genuinely posted this here because as a woman it is hard to find spaces online to vent my frustrations. I was genuinely distressed at the moment and my flatmates did take care of me. I also received tons of support from the community here and I am thankful for that.

Here's what happened next:
I decided not to press charges as I am living away from my family and I don't want this to be the reason they start interfering in my personal freedom. Over the weekend, she apologized and invited me for dinner, I obviously declined because she acted all insane before.

But she is literally so dramatic that she lied to everyone that I came to her house and hit her so hard that she puked all over her clothes. Thankfully, their society has CCTV coverage and I didn't even leave my home all weekend. So, no one believed her this time. 

Our group thankfully supported me throughout this and the colleague is no longer in the group. Now, I just want to get over this traumatic experience which when I look back at is too unreal to even think about.

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