Everything comes with a cost in this world. We should be extra careful what we ask for 😂

Software Engineer

Consultant

How can I. Look at the poster she made after the fight.  Yeh kaisa pyar hai jisme ladai bhi tum hi karo breakup suggest bhi tum h karo aur cute posters bhi tum h banao

Senior software engineer

Bhai agye badho life me sabkuch milega tmhe 🐈🐾

Strategy & operations

Ps before this she fought with me over how I dare not to call her back during office hours and busy schedule. And she suggested we should break up

Is she real or what ?

Is she real or what ?- Grapevine

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

I recently applied to Indian Fintech, first round went well. Got no response from HR for 3-4 days. Once I called her on 5th day, she told me that I had cleared first round and they will assignment next day. Assignment didn’t arrive for 2 more days. HR stopped picking my calls. After this I reached out to third party recruiter (who started the process initially). She contacted this company HR and they sent me assignment next day. 

I had to complete it in 48 hour strict timeline. Spent entire 2 days on it and barely slept. I submitted it on time. 

After this no reply from HR for 4 days. Finally I reached out to my interviewer from first round for help. He said he will remind HR. 

Next day I got call from HR that all open positions are closed and we will consider u in future. No feedback on assignment was given. Not even sorry for making u wait. 

Isn’t the only thing HRs need to be good at is people handling & professional communication?

What’s the worst interview process experience you had so far?

Product Designer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I had a big argument with my girlfriend yesterday evening. We were at a club with our friend group. I got super drunk because of work pressure. I only did it to relax.

I went to the washroom to pee and when I came back I saw my gf standing with her back towards me. I was super drunk and I cuddled her from behind.

Big mistake. It was not my girlfriend but her friend. I got confused because both were wearing similar dresses and it was a little dark. Also they have similar physique. 

My girlfriend threw her drink on me and started walking out of the club.

I tried to explain that they had similar outfits but she said that she is wearing mauve while her friend was wearing purple. It was so dark and I couldn't understand the colour difference, both looked purple to me.

She left after fighting. I apologized to her friend and she is okay with it.

but my gf is saying that she hates me and has blocked me on whatsapp. What should i do?

Girlfriend left me after fighting. what to do?

Software Developer

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Product Manager

I have been talking to this woman lately at work since the past 2 months (I KNOW dating at workplace isnt a great idea but pasand aagai kya karu) . Currently, we are mere workplace buddies and not in a relationship. 

On somedays she is like really friendly with me and starts talking about her life and I love listening to her. 

On certain days she is extremely unapproachable and feels like a stranger. 

I know mood swings hote etc but why would she ignore me completely on some days while try to engage in meaningful conversations on other days.

It keeps alternating and its very annoying. 

I feel like supporting her on bad days but she doesn lt want that it seems.

Yeh odd even kar kar ke mai thakk gaya hu
I just want her. Every single fckin day of my life. 
She makes my day a little more worthy every time we talk, and I feel when you find such people, you shouldnt let them go !

Mixed signals from my crush

Data engineer

What's your most embarrassing moment in your office

What all did you not see, and now years later come at you like "How could you be so dumb?"

What's your story of "I was blind in love"?

When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. 

So I told her how I felt. She was angry at me for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months( she went to Delhi for some work) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.

So she left and we remained in touch via Whatsapp. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise.

Finally, I actually visited Delhi because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.

I'm going to a friends birthday soon and she's gonna be there. 

Would it be bad for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.

Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
I don't wanna be a douche but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can call me whenever and I'll come running.

Please help Grapevine! 🙏🏻

Girl Trouble - Am I Bad?

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

I met a Girl last year , when i met her i didn't know I was going to like her. But when i realised that I'm liking her i stopped my self. Avoiding office change my seat this is my personal concern and money I'm earning very low and I spent over. And simple nowadays money matters. Things got bad when our common friend who is her roommate notice me and said to me you like her ah.
Well i told her I'm not into it even I'm like her she goona deserve better. Then what even she knw how much i close to her giving her daily flowers.
Even I'm cooking for her. But sad part her roommate introduced her friends to her and one of boy is rich good looking and with car she roam with them for 2 days and her roommate somehow managed to close both of them even knowing i am in love with her and girl knows..
So now they are in relationship and the girl i like 
I stopped talking to her as she was busy always on phone with new one which is good 
Well i am happy he is good person. After three months in November 2023 thwy broke up.
Mutually. She came to me with suprise after 4 month. We have coffee and then she started crying. I told her to talk to her boyfriend everything will be okay. Next month her bdy came well i text her happy Birthday 
She called me and said " ab tum text kro ge bas"
Then she invited me as no one was to celebrate her bdy i logout early we go to some place and i left her at pg. Then she came to my cubicle daily for lunch ( as I'm not expecting her to here ) well I'm used as a banded i know somewhere 
One day after a party a called her and god know what i said only thing i remember I called her 
In morning i see duration of call 2:45 hr
Call and 2hr vedio call 
Well I'm scared what i have done . After some day we met had a breakfast. I called her to my place we have a dinner my sister cooked for her 
And next morning i dropped her. And she said thanks for everything i know you will be there always 
After few day she called me and taking rudely and it is end

What to do

Software Test- QA

I am a 30 M , got married in 2020 and clearly the marriage was not working out. My wife and her mother was always finding ways to control me from the beginning with all the little things and my wife started this drama like with every fight she used to leave the house and stay at her mother’s and not comeback until all the parents gets involved and me asking sorry, one time she left the house because I cooked the curry and had asked her to do roti this turned into a fight and just for that she left the house. And her mother threatened me that she won’t send her daughter back until I ask sorry. There were LOT of these instances and at one point I really got fed up and started standing up for myself, in the last fight she said she won’t come back again and I said please don’t I am also tired of this. After a month she started reaching out to me asking sorry and apologies and all but I had lost all trust in the relationship and I wanted sometime. Even if I let her in her mother would have ruined the relationship again , so I asked her since I have no trust you have to agree on that in future if we get divorced if we have kids the kids stay with me and I won’t pay any alimony. Following this discussion she lodged a fake domestic violence and dowry case against me and my family. And I filed for divorce after I seeing police station and all. I have all the evidence to prove that I am innocent but the court is taking very very long time and now she is asking for for a huge amount only the she will agree for divorce 😣

Worst times for men! Better to be a monster than a hero

Share yours,

Sharing one of my female friend’s story :

The guy had uploaded backdated pictures (3 yrs) of his on matrimonial site profile, they talked and everything, went to meet the guy along with parents.

Situation : The guy was completely bald when compared to the photos he had uploaded, had also not shared any recent pics on WhatsApp chat (even after asking multiple times) citing reasons that he was very busy with work and all. 
Needless to say my friend was taken aback.

Verdict : Rejected on account of being dishonest (not bald). 

P.S. : My friend has dated bald guys in her past.

I am not a storyteller so had to use clear indications of situation and verdict.

Matrimonial sites awkward stories

Corporate Strategist

Okay, so this happened to me last year. I was approached by a college alumni (got my number from college alumni group) who told me he had a side business going on which was leading him to earn more money than his corporate job and that he was going to leave the corporate for his “business”.

I was initially not interested but he was insistent and also I was looking to explore some options (may be my naïveté) that I asked him more and so he setup a call with his senior to explain more about this “business”.

Now this senior gave all sorts of gyaan regarding how to reach financial independence and picking up on the general mindset of how to make more money. They asked to create a list of 10 things that I desired the most at the point of time which could be solved with more money. I complied thinking it was a good exercise (again, I was a big fool). Now I was connected with another senior who gave all sorts of gyaan regarding how I could make more money and lead to financial independence.

Please note, during all this time I was constantly asking what the business idea was and how it would be achieved but got no response on the details and only white washing regarding how I should be prepared to do anything to achieve my dreams.

Now, it was revealed that I would need to put in 5L as investment to get bigger returns. Since I did not have that money in handy, I was suggested to get a personal loan through their agents. Also not to inform this to parents because they won’t understand this stuff and get “worried”. Luckily I did went with their suggestion and informed my parent about it. Thinking it was a startup idea, I got the investment from my father through an OD in my name.

Now we get onto a call two days later, where they reveal the company QNet and makes me purchase 5L of stuff from their website and explained the business model which was to get other people from your knowing to buy products from this company and get commissions on the sale.

Continued……

Pyramid scheme scam

Basically some of my work friends and I went to Thailand. We had a gala time there and explored a ton of places. All of us stayed at this really nice hotel which had a beautiful swimming pool. We went swimming there quite a few times. 

So, I have a DailyObjects bag that I got for free on my purchase. I use this primarily for carrying towel, undergarments, swimsuit, sunscreen etc. Another colleague of mine has the same bag with the same colour. 

He accidentally took my bag and I took his. I got to realise this when I opened the bag and saw swimming trunks and a book. I called to tell him about it and it was too late.

His wife picked up the phone and enquired about why I had placed my undergarments in her husband's bag. I clarified that it is just a mistake and that we accidentally swapped our bags but she was not budging. So I hung up after getting scared.

She has called me 5-6 times in the last week but I am too scared. What should I even do? Whenever I try to explain the situation she starts screaming at me again. It was a simple mistake but this woman is overreacting and my colleague also agrees. 

She's completely psycho and thinks that I am trying to steal her husband.

Colleague's wife is screaming at me on call.

Analyst

Lets use this space to describe our managers- 

Mine is so toxic, Has a very sad life though he is married and has one year old baby, jealous to next level,No boundaries! 
My manager is the most stupidest person I have ever come across in my life. Good managers are leaders on whom you can fall back to when you fuck up! 
Mine is so toxic that he only wants to take credit of best things done in the organization and everything otherwise he would just put on me. Keep on assigning tasks at odd hours, will msg why is this not done that not done! 
He has even tried silent treatment with me, as if that would work 😂
I mean he would try to show me that he is so pissed off with me because I choose not to attend his calls in off office hours, or maybe when i choose not to respond to his bullshit. 
Keeps getting deep into the arses of management. Would be first one to attend any parties and also the last one to leave the vicinity. 
Sometimes I feel so pissed off when I see people like him not been held responsible for a toxic culture at the workplace and how simply they just get away in a day by putting everythibg else on others. 
Being on a leadership designation, he is still so much insecure that he would leave no stone unturned to keep me out of the meetings where any achievements or good stuff is being discussed 🤦🏼‍♀️

Describe your manager

Business Development Manager

I always looked at her and felt she is so beautiful, charismatic, and had an infectious smile. Looking at her made me smile broo.

Chapter 1
One day I decided to ask her out. I messaged her and our conversation grew then she spilled out that she also liked me a lot. And she was glad that I asked her out.

Chapter 2
She had studied in an all girls school and she had a stereotype about boys that they are all stupid and bad. And girls and boys should never be together. I was fine because atleast she liked me 😂. One fine day she asked me to break up with my brosss. I asked her why?
She said your friends are all playboys and I don't like the way they look at me. (Disclaimer: My bros are really nicest guys and I have known them since childhood they are the best gentlemen). We had an argument which didn't end on a good note.


Chapter 3
I left to a new state for my Job. After I reached there she messaged me that we can't talk and we have to stop whatever we had. I got anxious and worried and spent my 5 months not being able to contact her. I got into depression. Then me being restless on my birthday I came back to my hometown. At exactly 11:59PM when my bday was going to end she messaged me "Happy Birthday". I was so happy to see her message.

Chapter 4
We started talking and she said that she is leaving to Canada for her higher studies. I was happy for her but at the same time I was sad. I didn't want to see her go. We both cried and stayed on call till morning watching each other sleep.

Chapter 5:
She reached Canada and she completed her formalities and procedures. We talked for few more days but then eventually she started giving me hints that she is not interested. Then one day she abruptly messaged me and said we can't talk and we have to end everything. I cried the whole night, because there was no way for me to contact her and she had blocked me.

Chapter 6:
It has been 1 yr to that day. Somehow I have gone numb. I'm slowly forgetting her.

She left me.

So i’ve been Noticing her for 1.5 months now.. she notices back like hell.. she is Indian from south.. im from NCR ..working in HYD.. she’s kinda cute.. spiritual, all Green flags.. but i don’t want to take risk as she is senior 1 year.. one wrong step can ruin things.. now I’m trying to not think about her.. but she’s stuck in my mind like nothing else.. seeking help.. any suggestions to get out of this !!

Is she real or what ?

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