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by StanleyHudson

Stealth

6 months ago

Mixed signals from my crush

I have been talking to this woman lately at work since the past 2 months (I KNOW dating at workplace isnt a great idea but pasand aagai kya karu) . Currently, we are mere workplace buddies and not in a relationship. On somedays she is like really friendly with me and starts talking about her life and I love listening to her. On certain days she is extremely unapproachable and feels like a stranger. I know mood swings hote etc but why would she ignore me completely on some days while try to engage in meaningful conversations on other days. It keeps alternating and its very annoying. I feel like supporting her on bad days but she doesn lt want that it seems. Yeh odd even kar kar ke mai thakk gaya hu I just want her. Every single fckin day of my life. She makes my day a little more worthy every time we talk, and I feel when you find such people, you shouldnt let them go !

BiryaniEnthu

Stealth

6 months ago

You know what Pasand tmhe aayi hai aur usko pata nahi These aren't signals, these are regular days for her. But please keep this slow (esp coz POSH ka darr), also try talking/going out outside work. This should help! Also, men in love 🤌

StanleyHudson

Stealth

6 months ago

@BiryaniEnthu makes sense. Regarding POSH ka darr, I dont think I am gonna do anything frisky anyway even if the relationship kicks off well. It takes me a while to open up, atleast 7-8 months. I never understood why people keep worrying about Posh at all if they are taking things slowly 🤷🏼‍♂️

BiryaniEnthu

Stealth

6 months ago

Because people can accuse falsely too. Just keep caution

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tenxengineer

PhonePe

6 months ago

My suggestion is to keep listening. Bring up topics like movie of her favourite star or such. Maybe it'll lead to a go together. It takes a long long while for it to work out to start a relationship, so don't rush things.

StanleyHudson

Stealth

6 months ago

I am taking it super slow even though I have so much to show. I literally wake up with a thumping sensation everyday and have written pages after pages about her in my journal. At times even descriptive poetry. But I conceal all of this and maintain my manly image so that I dont look like a desperate teen.

tenxengineer

PhonePe

6 months ago

Who am I was yesterday's question Who am I to you is today's question First one bugged me until yesterday Second's bugging me since yesterday First one is what I learnt by myself Second's for you to teach yourself First one took me all this time Second'll take you how much time? I wrote this after our first date. But never shared, because I do know these things take time. Both sides need time to think clearly. Take it slow and all the best!

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Rhombus

CARS24

6 months ago

Self note

StanleyHudson

Stealth

6 months ago

@Rhombus tears of joy? Tears of pain? Tears of sadness? Tears of oniond? Which one

Rhombus

CARS24

6 months ago

All except 🧅

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Green_goblin

Optum

5 months ago

Bro what a coincidence. The same thing happening to me. I was also interested in her. And still i am. She wants attention, when I don't talk in office she'll ping asking why are you silent, what happened etc etc, i dont understand if she was interested in me or if she was caring since i was her colleague. I was messaging when i get bored and the replies were not dry, they were good enough which felt like positive signals for me. I was confused. Yesterday we had a party, in that hee friend said that she had a boyfriend, im so pissed off right now. I wasn't expecting this. I understood some things in this process. 1. I have given her key for my emotions, so every act of her was either making me happy or sad. Thats why when she talks i was happy and when she talks to other boys the same way i was sad. 2. We might be an option to them, so we also have to treat them as option, if we treat her as the only choice, we will end up in depression when she leaves. 3. If she really likes you she will explain reasons for why she is/was in that mood etc etc. if she explains then she doesn't want to loose relationship either friendship or love ( we dont know whats in her mind). 4. Another amazing fact is - She would have never even thought about you liking her. And this fact is better to be realised earlier. Try getting to know if she has a boyfriend. If not keep talking, but keep her as option in your mind. Else you are giving key for your emotions. Im fuckdup right now. But yeah i will make a comeback this time with all these learnings.

StanleyHudson

Stealth

5 months ago

@GreenFennel Being emotional to the wrong person is a curse

Green_goblin

Optum

5 months ago

Yes. Keep this thread updated about your relation. Just want to see if thats the pattern.

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BlindPit8

Swiggy

4 months ago

No offence to anyone but Wtf is this taking slow BS that people do... You like her, you tell her... If it's a yes, good..if it's a no, better.. now your life can move ahead in either case.. matlab latke rehne me kya maja aata hai ?

StanleyHudson

Stealth

4 months ago

Desperation is the worst form of first impression

DecimalBrand

Apple

6 months ago

"Zindagi ek rangin khel hai, dost. Kabhi khushi, kabhi gham. But in the game of love, patience is your trump card. So hold on!"