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Manager who is never happy!

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Manager who is never happy!- Grapevine

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I’ve been insufferable at work since 2-3 months now. Total time at my company- 6mo 21 days. Profile - Product Management 
My engineering team seems to be taking no ownership and always have their brahmastra ready that it didn’t come from product’s side. QA again is so great that I have to sit and thoroughly test each release end to end. 
My manager- he’s quite interested in taking my career fwd as a project manager. (I am not) He’s a total asshole and is quite concerned with start dates and end dates of tasks ( mind you, I am not the one actually writing the code but somehow the dates are my responsibility). He totally micromanages and somehow keeps blaming me for each small thing.
Examples:
- My engg team isn’t taking ownership: “you aren’t keeping them motivated enough”
- This isn’t a last minute change : “Do you attend standups? You aren’t communicating well”
- The QA tested and approved it, hence we released it. : “But did you test it? “
- Here are the release notes. : “This looks too jazzy, did you copy from GPT”
- Here are the release notes. : “This looks too basic, did you not copy from GPT”

I could go on forever. 

Gust: I am quite unhappy and is causing me unnecessary stress everyday. Also I don’t feel there’s a solution possible

Should I rage quit?

Product Manager

Managers who have zero value addition to your projects except constantly reminding you of timelines are the worst.


I have had a manager who has been bullish about the timelines of a 12 month long project. And has never contributed in any capacity. When I reach out to her for help, the high level responses are: “lets go deeper”, “lets be user first and figure out”. Is this appropriate?

Managers with 0 value addition

I recently transitioned from an intern to a FTE in a startup. I'm working on a SaaS product as an APM.

I have been taking up a lot of work, interacting with devs, QA, designers but neither do I feel that my manager notices what all I'm working on, nor does he seem satisfied by my work. (All my PRDs need to be refined 3-4 times 😢).

I'm afraid of negative reviews and more about the job itself. I rejected 2 of my campus offers, one of them being at an IB, to join this startup, but things don't seem to be going that great.

Workload is not an issue, I'm willing to take up more things, atleast as of now, but I feel that my manager doesn't let me pick more items as he feels that I'm not performing upto the mark writing the PRDs.

Could you guys please help me with it? I actually need some guidance around the same.

Manager not satisfied with work

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Growth Manager

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For the past few days, my manager isn't involving me in any major work. I send my work, but he doesn't review it and leaves it seen zoned.

He's been giving negative feedback as well. What should I do, I have just graduated this year and am afraid that I might not do well going ahead too. I'm working as an APM.

He even remarked that he wouldn't have hired a candidate, had he solved the problem the way I did.

Could anyone suggest what to do? I'm feeling very tensed.

Give me one quality you hate about your manager?

I'm working as an APM at a startup for about a year now. I work with another guy who happens to be my senior, PM and both of us report to the director.

Of late, my senior, i.e., the PM has been undermining my work when the two of us are working together, subtly taunting me that what I've done is pretty easy and non impactful business wise. He also disregards the decisions made by me, modifies the PRDs discovered and written by me and mails them as his own.

Eventually, he ends up adding me to the walkthrough calls because I had discovered the features but then concludes everything such that he had owned everything end to end.

Recently, both of us were given a documentation to be done by our manager, i.e., the director. I had completed almost 70% of that document, but in our call with the director he presented it saying that he had written that document and I had made a few changes to it.

This undermines my work and visibility of my capabilities. I don't know how to tackle this situation, my manager is usually busy and leaves it upto this PM to allocate work, which he unfairly uses.

How do I talk to my manager about this. I'm fairly new to corporate, just graduated last year and don't know how to handle all this.

But this thing has been bothering me lately, really looking forward to any advise my fellow grapeviners may have.

Senior taking credit for my work

You definitely need to talk to the director and share your concerns . Possibly separate out projects and independently handle them.

Currently working for Foreign Startup, under a Indian Engineering Manager.

Manager is incompetent, doesn't like disagreemets. If you disagree with him, then he goes to length to make your life diffult. Already seen few examples in the team. 

There are red flag all over the place. I'm not sure how upper management is not able to catch him. He does the politics, favoritism, etc...

List goes on and on. Any help would be appreciated.

P.S Don't want to leave the company in this market.

How to Deal with Toxic Manager

The one who
- Keeps nagging with status updates
- Pushes you to achieve a goal which is merely quantitative & not qualitative
- Appreciates employees that show ‘first-benchers’ trait
- Junks your ideas to satisfy his own ego
- Pretends busy all the time

Comment your experience dealing with such Managers.

Narrate your story dealing with Micromanagers

Software Architect

CEO
Status driven, low confident CEO who thinks that a CEO should dress like a movie CEO aka wearing suits all the time and thinks that watching sports makes you cool. Super micro-manager. This idiot gifted a basketball to CPO on CPO's 5th work anniversary. Will make random suggestions to the product team based on absolute random assumptions. This guy has more chances of death by confirmation bias than anything else in the world. Lack of clarity and vision for the company. Low trust in people who he works with.

COO
I saw her only once in the office since I joined the company in my 14 months of tenure, people say she is working from home but all the employees are forced to come to the office and work.

CPO
This guy will never say no to any product/feature requirement and commit an optimistic timeline of delivery without thinking or syncing with the team internally. Due to him I lost respect for MBA turned managers who think they can do it all. Will never accept he was wrong or take one for the team. Will shit on others to retain you. Will make team members fight among themselves. Will say that you are the owner of the product/project/task/charter given to you but will make sure to overturn decisions made independently by you. This guy always assumes that he is right without thinking through. He does not even understand what all problems we face at the  layer. Has world class expectations but with peanut salary. This douche bag stole my ideas and presented it to his ideas. Had to forcefully schedule 1-1's with him to get feedback on my performance, that too was very generic and had a few points where I made mistakes but no actionable point of how that area can be improved. At CPO level I expect you to have basic product design sense and when I describe the screen roughly you should be able to imagine it but this A-hole will always stress on a proper product design with all the color and all and not even a wireframe.

Company Rant

I have a senior in my team who considers herself a manager, when she's not. She's just my senior.  She will ping me 100 times in a day and delegate me more tasks before even before the first one is complete. She knows nothing about how work is done as she keeps delegating it to others. If I don't respond she keeps calling and she calls me in the middle of the night too. I have a really cool manager who doesn't ping me daily, will only ask for the deliverables on the deadline. I would have ignored my senior as she's not really the manager but she is the manager's pet. I have seen her delegate tasks to her seniors as well. It's been only a month since I have joined. Any advice on how do I deal with this? It's getting really frustrating.

Micro Manager

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In last 3 years, I have switched 3 companies. I hate my current company especially considering my precious companies. Also, I cannot go back to my organisation because of location constraint. 
Can anyone has any advice? Highly frustrated 😭

Frustrated PM

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Our team has hired a new PM who is a huge micro manager. We don't really have a sprint planning so all the tasks are decided based on availability. Tasks that do come from him are of unrealistic deadline and most of them need to be done by EOD even if the task comes in at 7pm. Dude just mentally skips the time needed for testing and other processes. Also constant pings regarding the status updates is really frustrating. This is one of those bad PM/Managers meme cone true. I would have quit if I was not in a bond until next year July. Need some tips on how to survive this asswipe for the next 9-10 months without being under constant stress and going into severe depression.

Surviving unrealistic expectations

I thought I was the only one frustrated with meetings until my colleagues also mentioned they were not able to get work done because most of the day was spent on meetings

Plus our boss (CEO) loves talking, anyway the meetings are agenda-less. He stretches 30 min calls to 2 hours and then has the audacity to question the productivity.

Cannot tell me this, he gets very touchy when feedback is negative for him. And then writes sarcastic messages.
Also, who wants to take up fights with person who pays your salary

What to do in this case? I'm tired of working 12 hours each day

Too many meetings, and our boss is one yapper

1. Try sending invites with an agenda 
 2. Drop off the call and leave a message that you gotta attend another meeting or you're working on something that's a priority or any personal reasons  
 3. After every meeting send an MOM 
 4. Do everything for you to escape any meaningless meetings except telling your boss. That's the safest option. 
  
 If there's one thing that TCS taught me...it is to PRETEND like every manager is nice and always right. If not you'll definitely lose your mind.

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What to do if after giving your 100%, still there is no appreciation and no good feedbacks?

No Appreciation from Managers

External Audit

If an employee in the team resigns, and stops contributing to work, delays tasks and misses deadlines. What should his/her manager do to resolve this?

Resignation and work

I recently started a new job. I would like to share some of the experiences I have had with my manager. I am wondering if these are red flags or if I am maybe being paranoid or thinking too much.

It was quite difficult for me to get into this company and this job. The company is quite great and I was quite excited but some of the experiences I have had with my immediate manager have made me a bit apprehensive.
I would like to share them and hear opinions about it.

Here are some things which have happened which I have not liked so far - 

1. I speak to a Senior Engineer one day and next day my manager asks me if anyone asked me to speak to him. 
2. I shared an insight about a new tool which we can use on a deployment pipeline on the overall pod (under my skip manager). My manager immediately called me and started asking my status update and replied 'Discussing 1-1' in the group to prevent anyone getting visibility of the idea. 
3. My manager pings me whenever I go offline and recently he asked me in a passive aggressive way, 'Please monitor your Teams status. It was away for most of today.' I now feel kind of paranoid to never get up as I feel my Teams status is being monitored.

Is my manager too much of a micromanaging red flag ? I started a new job and my manager monitors my Teams online status.

Yes this is straight up micromanagement and insecurity. 
  
 Just stand up to him man. The more of such things you allow him to do, the more courage he will get and more he will fuck your life.  
  
 Just stand your ground for a few times and he'll understand that you are not the guy he can do this to.

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Lets use this space to describe our managers- 

Mine is so toxic, Has a very sad life though he is married and has one year old baby, jealous to next level,No boundaries! 
My manager is the most stupidest person I have ever come across in my life. Good managers are leaders on whom you can fall back to when you fuck up! 
Mine is so toxic that he only wants to take credit of best things done in the organization and everything otherwise he would just put on me. Keep on assigning tasks at odd hours, will msg why is this not done that not done! 
He has even tried silent treatment with me, as if that would work 😂
I mean he would try to show me that he is so pissed off with me because I choose not to attend his calls in off office hours, or maybe when i choose not to respond to his bullshit. 
Keeps getting deep into the arses of management. Would be first one to attend any parties and also the last one to leave the vicinity. 
Sometimes I feel so pissed off when I see people like him not been held responsible for a toxic culture at the workplace and how simply they just get away in a day by putting everythibg else on others. 
Being on a leadership designation, he is still so much insecure that he would leave no stone unturned to keep me out of the meetings where any achievements or good stuff is being discussed 🤦🏼‍♀️

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