I added the last one, I wouldn’t know because working remote 🫠

Or recall “Ben stokes with love ❤️ “ once out of room? 😊

Private Equity

Consultant

Guilty as charged. So how to get better at it?

Software Engineer

they think they are best the world could produce  they don't see themselves making a mistake  they don't wanna listen  will ask redundant questions to irritate you  will make faces once you’re out ...

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- they think they are best the world could produce
- they don't see themselves making a mistake
- they don't wanna listen
- will ask redundant questions to irritate you
- will make faces once you’re out of the room

Managing people is like reasoning with a 5 yo

Managing people is like reasoning with a 5 yo- Grapevine

The one who
- Keeps nagging with status updates
- Pushes you to achieve a goal which is merely quantitative & not qualitative
- Appreciates employees that show ‘first-benchers’ trait
- Junks your ideas to satisfy his own ego
- Pretends busy all the time

Comment your experience dealing with such Managers.

Narrate your story dealing with Micromanagers

Software Architect

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Has anyone come across this situation and how would you have tackled them to have a peace of mind. 

A guy is frustrated with some colleagues who resist better suggestions, acting like we're challenging their way of doing things. They waste days on tasks that could be solved quickly with a little help. When asked, they respond defensively, questioning our capabilities and dismissing ideas as unnecessary. It's irritating how some take everything personally and seem to think they're superior. Instead of being open to collaboration, they insist on overcomplicating things. Sure, they have four years of experience, but that doesn't mean they know everything. We should be able to ask for help without being judged. It's important to stay humble and learn from those who have very good hands on/grip on certain tech or taught processes.

These are good engineers as well but they have the above issues

How to tackle Kiddos mentality

Senior Engineer

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What is the most underrated skill to be a great product manager? 

Mine has always been the ability to make friends with people at the office. SWEs, other PMs etc

Underrated skills to have for Product Management

Product Marketing Manager

Welcome to Get Motivated's Private Community

My manager in the appraisal said that he has established a view that I am not serious about my job and though he hears everyone give me praise. He just can’t shake his view and it is established now.

A) Why will you say something like this?
B) Is there any point of staying at such organizations where basically you have to continue to fight to show your ability?

Making sense of these words

Product Manager

There's this coworker who comes off as extremely aggressive during discussions and individual interactions. This is causing a shift in entire team's environment in the wrong direction. Personally this is causing me to avoid getting into discussions with them. I'm looking for ways to deal with this person and keep the work environment peaceful.

Here are some of the observations about their behaviour:

1. Highly opinionated and treat others who have a different opinion as hostile. 

2. When someone else is trying to explain something which needs to be explained serially A -> B -> C, and they are interested in C, they get restless and start badgerring with questions about C while the other person is still on A.

3. In discussions, which require a deep understanding of the product, which they do not have yet, instead of admitting that they have doubts and asking questions, they try to act as if they understood it when clearly they didn't because their senior was present. For instance, they paid attention in the beginning and then got busy on their phone during the meeting and when asked if they understood, they just told the agenda of the meeting instead of what was discussed.

4. This is what tipped me off the edge. During a meeting which didn't involve their senior, they got easily frustrated when others were giving an opinion different from theirs and pointing out the issues with their opinion. After a couple of minutes, it turned into a heated argument and they started raising their voice and started making illogical sarcastic remarks. And after a bit of that they changed their tone into rude frustrated disinterest and rudely remarked "do whatever you want to do".

So far we have tried to use humor to deescalate the situation. But this is clearly not gonna work in the long run, and their behaviour is getting worse day by day. 

I am trying to avoid a confrontation with them because it is not my place and I don't want it to get ugly.

Need advice on how to deal with an aggresive coworker

Same as title.
As a product manager, what to do when your EM is not supportive and passes the buck to you always, doesn't accept mistakes, instead waits for the chance to blame you instead.
You can't even escalate, because of course you have only one EM. Of course, your team's EM will not change.

How to cope with bad EM?

There has been a huge influx of posts dissing roles like Product, Marketing, HR etc. by Techies.

Every other post, or comment is made by them undermining the value of other depts and these cuties think business runs just by their sub-par code.

I understand that their delusion stems from the fact they get paid huge salaries by loss making companies. Which is bound to crash sooner or later. 

Rant over.

Why are Techies so delusional?

Interesting POV. 
  
 Nassim Nicholas Taleb mentions an interesting advice. If you don’t know what to do, follow what the smartest people in your generation are doing. 
  
 These are almost exclusively fulfilling and financially attractive opportunities 
  
 According to him, in the 1990s Lebanon, the smartest kids in undergrad went and became Economists. In the 2010s, the smartest kids became Software Engineers. 
  
 Perhaps, their ego does not stem from the money but from competence.  
  
 However, true charisma is merging that competence with warmth. And for that, you must eliminate the ego.

Founder

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Hello all in my project whatever I'm doing I'm getting huge criticism from my lead everytime , everyone except him is very good with me. To be Frank , I am understanding and doing a lot's of stuff to impress him too. I have only 1.5 yrs of  experience he is having 15+ yrs of experience but the way I'm pushing myself I'm happy , sometimes working 12-14 hrs a day. But whatever even small project related doubts also he is not bearing with me. Daily I'm going deep down mentally but cann't express this with anyone to my family nor with my colleagues. 

Can anyone suggest what can I do , is this common in IT sector. This is first time I'm experiencing this I had interned at one of faang there i didn't faced like this everyone encourage s my idealogy and will corrects me if I'm wrong?
Can you please give some motivation.

Demotivating by my lead

Software Developer

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How does one pick a good boss to work under as working under a good boss is most important decision for ones career?

What are some visible red flags one should be wary of?

What are traits of a good leader?

How to get them work? They just don’t respond to emails, don’t take any initiatives, it’s frustrating working with such people. Any ideas?

People who are always coming up with excuses not to do work

Security Engineer

There are managers who are paid close to a Crore Rupees a year for doing this.

Scene: Our team is working on it. We’ll get back to you.
Reality: I have no idea about what the issue is. I’m completely dependent on my team.

Scene: I have a hard stop now. Have to drop off.
Reality: I don’t care about the ongoing meeting. My “passive” attendance in some other meeting is more important than the ongoing meeting.

Scene: +team FYI 
Reality: Not my responsibility. Team must take a look.

Scene: Do you have some bandwidth?
Reality: If you say no, I will use this against you during appraisal.

Scene: Feel free to give feedback about leadership. Your opinion is important for continuous improvement.
Reality: Negative feedback should be worded with politically correct statements. Else be ready to face consequences.

Scene: The leadership team expects so-and-so from you.
Reality: I’m not capable of questioning the leadership team. I’m just passing the buck to you.

Scene: Can you prepare a deck by this day?
Reality: I want to show a rosy picture to my leaders. I will ‘use’ you to impress my leaders.

Scene: Who wants to work on this item?
Reality: I’ll judge employees who don’t volunteer.

Scene: I want you to complete this (bullshit work) by this weekend at any cost.
Reality: I want to save my ass in this job.

Scene: Do you have any blockers?
Reality: As if I’m capable of resolving them…lol

Scene: Taking a day off. Reachable on mobile.
Reality: Added the second statement to ‘show’ how important & flexible I am. I know you’ll not call me anyways.

Scene: Manager presenting something. Do you have any questions?
Reality: -silence-

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Have you ever encountered Managers like these?

Inefficient Managers

1. Over estimating the efforts
2.  Office gossips 
3. Moon lighting 
4.  Unrealistic Salary demands
5. Completely under-utilised but still complaining of overwork.

Non- managers are more corrupt than a managers in following ways. Which is the most frequent cause of corruption ?

Ask me anything except my company name, or things that can reveal my identity. I may respectfully choose not to respond to your question based on my own judgement.

Here’s a brief intro about me: I’ve worked as both software engineering manager & software technical architect over the last 18+ years on various tech stacks managing backend, frontend and a little bit of cloud. I have seen ups and downs in the software industry. Currently I’m working as a senior architect in one of the product based companies in India.

I’ve been an Engineering Manager before. Ask me anything.

What’s the most important career advice you’ve ever received? It could be anything, an advice from your colleague, a lesson you learnt the hard way, or a piece of wisdom that changed your perspective! 🌟🌟

Share Your Most Valuable Career Advice🚀

1. Work hard in your job. Don't complain and waste time. We know everyone is replaceable, but work so damn hard that if at all you decide to resign and switch sometime, it should come as a shell shocker to them.  
 Build a program/product/team from scratch, own it end to end so much that they'll never find anyone close to you who can work with the same efficiency. 
 You'll obviously take your learnings and apply them later on in your next job, but 
 You'll also earn the respect of all your colleagues which might be needed in your future corporate journey. 
 2. Don't chase money early on in your career unless you actually**need** it. Focus on building relationships, knowledge, learning to code (it helps) and earning respect of your colleagues wherever you go. 
 3. Don't get into smoking due to peer pressure. AVOID IT.

Strategy & Operations

You know those type of people? The ones who believe they know everything, everyone else is beneath them, but in reality are extremely stupid?

The ones who will never admit they are wrong even if you show them why? The ones who will try to demean you at every step of the way cause it gives them pleasure? The ones who you just want to punch as soon as you see them in office?

Yeah, I know you’re thinking about atleast one person while reading this. My question is what has your strategy been in dealing with these people? 

So far in my journey, I haven’t faced any sadistic manager, so that has been great, but the people, my god, some of the tech guys in my teams have been absolutely the most frustrating human beings I’ve encountered.

Ofcourse the first thing to do is to take a step back and reevaluate whether if it is you who has been the actual asshole all along, but after that, if you are still convinced that the other person is nothing but the living embodiment of satan, how do you guys go about dealing with them?

How do you guys deal with annoying assholes at work

Co workers and colleagues who seem OK to talk and discuss in person turn passive aggressive and boss around on Slack channels.
They use terms like “As discussed multiple times” , “despite mentioning” etc etc and when you talk to them in person everything seems fine and you start wondering why do they push others down in the first place? Is to to show seniors/managers that there’re more superior? 
How do you deal with such people? Any tips ?

How to deal with Slack Warriors

Growth Manager

How do you guys deal with toxic people in tech, especially when they are your seniors or you work with them everyday?
We are a small team and the senior I have is an extremely shit person. We decide something while design discussions, and product discussion but he changes his mind and asks to completely revamp the solution after it's implemented. Extremely close-minded to new or different ideas or different ways of doing things. Also frequently insults people on the call.

I know one solution is to leave the company but that can't always be the case and when the team is small, sometimes these people become unavoidable. So looking for ideas on how other people deal with toxic peers/seniors in their workplace.

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