Negative Energy at home
Hi guys I am facing some issues with my family members, they are constantly trying to convince me to get married with someone, although my mom is supportive but my dad is not, I am fighting with them almost everyday, i somehow left my job life been on bench since long periods, not able to Focus properly on my health, not able to sleep properly at night time, got infections in my body, I am feeling shattered don't know what should I do
I'm 26F working in an IT service based company, I need your suggestions guys
Thank you
@PAPR whatever you do, just do not start hating the marriage. Infections doesn't last long. You will get better. why you think the time is not right? What difference would it make in a year. What if you are in same state after a year what then? Fix your mind first.
This is the most sensible comment I read.
Hi , I read this and can relate so much. I’m facing same problem and I’m constantly nudging my manager to get me in another proj. I’m thinking of moving out because I feel suffocated at my home. I’m 27F and I’m living each day fighting with my parents that I don’t want to get married now because there’s nobody in my sight yet. The pressure was so much that I tried matrimony but I never wanted to be part of this matrimony thing and it really doesn’t make any sense to me.
Same situation I still tried but i failed there because as of now i don't wanna try it I need to fix my mind atleast I need 1 year or 2 year at most...
Why exactly do you need those 2 years?
I'm really stunned by these comments. The hive mentality of "you'll have to get married later anyways" is the core of all the fucking problems that we face in this age and time. When will these people start realising that marriage is not related to just 2 people. It WILL affect those 2 + the X number of people they'll bring into this world. A fairy tale, happy marriage will surely become the best decision they ever made, but not everyone, i mean less than even 10% of those get it. We've generalised and accepted the marriage issues so openly and easily, that we're scared of talking about the toll it takes on our mental health. Whether you get married or not, it totally depends on your own decision, but just remember that if you're not happy or satisfied with yourself right now, neither you, your SO nor your children will ever be happy in their lives.
I've gone through this shit first hand, so I know this domino effect very well.
And btw I'm 27M. I'm not supporting any feminist ideology or blatantly hating marriage. This is just coming from the amount of children I've seen who have literally suffered from their parents' failed marriages and shitty parenting.
Ahh, happens to everyone (almost) post 25/27..
Try moving out to your own space, if needed.
Tell them straight that you won't budge under pressure.
Due to the pressure right now, I have been on the bench for a very long time and not getting any project opportunity and not able to focus on my career.
Give yourself some time. Move out or travel a bit.
Get some clean air and be away from negative vibes.
It will all get well.
Also, what's your base?
@PAPR It is okay to take time and think about it before doing marriage but when you say the tims is not right how you measuring that what time would be good. If you are earning a decent amount then you should also focus on the other aspects of life like hobbies or caring for family. If you ran like its a career race it will never end. Marriage is on the term of mutual compromises and understanding but every other person is like "Wo mujhe ni smjhta h bhale hi wo khud dusre ko na smjhe" so it should be mutual always. No doubt if two people of different thinking leave together unites clashes will happen but thats the part of life and marriage.
27F here, I recently got married 2 months back, was pressurized at 25, but took my time and grateful that I did! Whoever is telling you here what difference one year will make or get married, please IGNORE them, it does make so much difference if you will work and focus on yourself! Apply for other companies, get a new job, move out, focus on career & Health, travel! This is how your action plan should be. Take your time through things, nothing good will come out if you rush. Once you get a good job offer, parents won't fight if they are career oriented for you. All the best girl!