Software Developer

Well not bashing HR folks but a lot of them do that.  Find it really baffling being a professional myself 😂

Recruiter

HR people will act all “we are only a huddle/call away” in townhalls but don’t reply to the dms for days.

Software Engineer

But but juniors bhi to cute ho sakte hai na

Toh? Should people talk to them nicely only if they are cute?

Consultant

Are you not cute enough @Legend_WaitFrIt_Dary ?

I have experienced this very closely 👍🥲 OP thanks for this post it will act like a checklist for me henceforth.

Product Marketing Manager

Data engineer

Digital Accessibility Technologist

Experienced this while I was in a Private Bank. Private Banks in India are a different hell altogether.

Business Analyst

Have noticed over the course of time, one of the clearest marks that somebody might be an asshole:  1) In front of seniors: Extremely nice, subservient, "How are you doing", "How was your weekend...

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Have noticed over the course of time, one of the clearest marks that somebody might be an asshole:

1) In front of seniors: Extremely nice, subservient, "How are you doing", "How was your weekend hehehe", They'll aggressively try to match lunch times, so on and so forth

2) When only juniors are around (absence of a senior): Clearly moody, won't talk properly, might even be aggressive in their asks, miss greeting them when crossing paths, avoid them during lunches, generally low energy around juniors 

We all know them, but it's an interesting way to gauge the people around you I feel. 
Anyone else noticed this/some version of this?

People who treat juniors and seniors differently

Corporate Strategist

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Hey everyone,
Hope it's going well. 

What this post is: a place to hang around and chat just about anything - without having a specific topic to discuss.  
Think of it like the watercooler at your office.  
 
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Daily Watercooler (5th July)

It’s just an interesting thing I’ve seen since I’ve been here many months. Something about maturity makes people humbler and nicer.

Consistently noticed on Gv: working people are nice here, while students are often rude/arrogant

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Ask me anything except my company name, or things that can reveal my identity. I may respectfully choose not to respond to your question based on my own judgement.

Here’s a brief intro about me: I’ve worked as both software engineering manager & software technical architect over the last 18+ years on various tech stacks managing backend, frontend and a little bit of cloud. I have seen ups and downs in the software industry. Currently I’m working as a senior architect in one of the product based companies in India.

I’ve been an Engineering Manager before. Ask me anything.

Software Architect

How do I deal with a teammate who treats every feedback as criticism and the goes on to defend his actions to the point that it’s impossible to have a civil discussion. 
Any pointers will help as I have tried almost everything I can think of. Talked to manager and manager doesn’t want to say anything coz he is one of the best in our team🤷

Teammate problem

So, recently, I interviewed for an Ed-tech firm. The questions asked were standard & i answered them pretty well.

The instant feedback I received was good as well. But i got a rejection mail 2 days later.

The guy who took the interview was a 2024 grad, an APM with only 3 months of full-time experience & 7 months of internship experience at the same company.

Now, I am used to rejections without feedback but this one felt a bit different. Somehow, I felt weird about being judged by someone who has much less experience than me. I thought to myself "was this a fair assessment?", "would a senior interviewer analyze my skillsets differently?"

Just wondering, has anyone ever felt the same? If so, have you dealt with it any differently other than just moving on?

Would love to know your perspectives

Would you feel any different getting rejected by a senior person vs a junior person?

Product Manager

You know those type of people? The ones who believe they know everything, everyone else is beneath them, but in reality are extremely stupid?

The ones who will never admit they are wrong even if you show them why? The ones who will try to demean you at every step of the way cause it gives them pleasure? The ones who you just want to punch as soon as you see them in office?

Yeah, I know you’re thinking about atleast one person while reading this. My question is what has your strategy been in dealing with these people? 

So far in my journey, I haven’t faced any sadistic manager, so that has been great, but the people, my god, some of the tech guys in my teams have been absolutely the most frustrating human beings I’ve encountered.

Ofcourse the first thing to do is to take a step back and reevaluate whether if it is you who has been the actual asshole all along, but after that, if you are still convinced that the other person is nothing but the living embodiment of satan, how do you guys go about dealing with them?

How do you guys deal with annoying assholes at work

There's this coworker who comes off as extremely aggressive during discussions and individual interactions. This is causing a shift in entire team's environment in the wrong direction. Personally this is causing me to avoid getting into discussions with them. I'm looking for ways to deal with this person and keep the work environment peaceful.

Here are some of the observations about their behaviour:

1. Highly opinionated and treat others who have a different opinion as hostile. 

2. When someone else is trying to explain something which needs to be explained serially A -> B -> C, and they are interested in C, they get restless and start badgerring with questions about C while the other person is still on A.

3. In discussions, which require a deep understanding of the product, which they do not have yet, instead of admitting that they have doubts and asking questions, they try to act as if they understood it when clearly they didn't because their senior was present. For instance, they paid attention in the beginning and then got busy on their phone during the meeting and when asked if they understood, they just told the agenda of the meeting instead of what was discussed.

4. This is what tipped me off the edge. During a meeting which didn't involve their senior, they got easily frustrated when others were giving an opinion different from theirs and pointing out the issues with their opinion. After a couple of minutes, it turned into a heated argument and they started raising their voice and started making illogical sarcastic remarks. And after a bit of that they changed their tone into rude frustrated disinterest and rudely remarked "do whatever you want to do".

So far we have tried to use humor to deescalate the situation. But this is clearly not gonna work in the long run, and their behaviour is getting worse day by day. 

I am trying to avoid a confrontation with them because it is not my place and I don't want it to get ugly.

Need advice on how to deal with an aggresive coworker

Writing this while chilling on desk in office.
Office has different sorts of folks.
You get/ create your own tribe in it.
Everyone has different objectives of being in a group.😂
It really seems interesting when you realise the big picture and visualise how one behaves in this interesting drama🤣

Some background, I am in medium scale MNC service based firm where around 30-40 folks come to office for free food, out of 1300-1400. (Yes, WFH exists)
HR was planning to have dance in annual event where CEO will be coming.
Dance duration is max 10 mins.
Choreographer is arranged for dance.
ONLY 12-15 people show interest and had around 1-1.5 weeks for practice.
Dance is set, now it becomes interesting when it comes to practice, every one almost avoids it, except a few.
The reason is clear who is going to look at dance when they are surrounded by food and drinks.
So, there are 2 groups, one who is in a group doesn't want to be in that group because his friend is in another group.
Senior folks are offended as juniors are teaching them how to dance 🤣
Obviously, One abruptly said, I am not going to be part of practice today.
Let's see what happens more often!😂

One more week for the party, will post the next update later!😂

Ego badi gazab ki cheez hai!

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They have no life
They have nowhere to go
They have no one to be with
They have no passions outside work either

And they make your life hell as they become the baseline for comparison for all sorts of management from appraisal to work distribution.

Feel free to disagree with me, but I’m genuinely pissed today. How do you deal with them? I have a decent life outside work but lose most of it while trying to catchup to such people so that I don’t get fired.

Sorry for the title.

How the F do I deal with overworkers?

I'm also like this brother. But why I work like this? 
 I come from a small village in India . Haven't got proper education or exposure. Not born with silver spoon and this is the only way to feed our family. We too have emotions like you, but sacrificing everything for our future and family. I strongly disagree with @Elon_Musk. Usually, only people who don't work hard do like that.

Product Designer

Co workers and colleagues who seem OK to talk and discuss in person turn passive aggressive and boss around on Slack channels.
They use terms like “As discussed multiple times” , “despite mentioning” etc etc and when you talk to them in person everything seems fine and you start wondering why do they push others down in the first place? Is to to show seniors/managers that there’re more superior? 
How do you deal with such people? Any tips ?

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