I think the comment was a compliment really! 😂

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I’ve been thinking if it even makes sense to get married anymore

Very hard to find genuine people these days

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Product Manager

Law Chambers of Amish Agarwal has scared the living shit out of everybody it seems 😂😂😂

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I understand that most of the tech community is men, and probably in this community as well.
But some of y'all just make me lose hope, in seeing how pathetic your thought processes are.

Women don't need to work cause India's GDP doesn't demand so? Excuse me? 
Have you heard of financial independence. Some of us want that.

The next thing is diversity hiring. 
Diversity hiring is needed because of regressive thought processes like these that discourage and inhibit the progress of women in the workplace. 
Women in general, have to go through a lot more in comparison to men in life. 

Consider an example: You are a guy going to university, you mom does everything for you, you have enough time to study and do everything you want, go out with friends.

Now another girl in your class might be expected to do housework, along with studies.
If she doesn't score well she is threatened to be married off. As a result she only has so much time to study and not do extra curricular activities, while the guy can do all of that just because of the privilege of being male.

This is why the bar of entry is lowered, so that women who are struggling in life, fighting their way through these odds can progess in life.

Even if women who don't have these situations benefit, even if it benefits one person, makes their life better. How does it even bother you?

Instead you want to make thier lives hell by shitting on them as diversity hire. 

Please learn empathy. Learn to respect and understand the struggles of others, regardless of their gender.
Also acknowledge that as a male you have more privileges than women, because we are in a patriarchal society, which is why women need a helping hand sometimes.

Rant: Some of ya'll in this community just really hate women

Software Engineer

Fuck , what a waste of weekend.

story -

I am 27 years old and i am not rich enough like grapevine people. I earn 9 LPA and doing remote job. So parents started looking for girl for arrange marriage. So there is program arranged in our caste where boy and girl has to register beforehand. Registration fees is 500 per person and 400 for booklet. So i paid around 1900 and lunch is also included. This program invites all the prospects under one roof and booklet was given. Booklet has all the details of prospects.So registered candidates can have multiple meetings with different people. As you already guessed it this is problem of supply demand. Female candidates are way less and male candidates are way more. We have so many experiences like girl family just outright reject you on the basis where i live. That girl was doing nothing and have done  bcom. Also one girl family rejected us soon as we just sit for a meeting. Reason dad of female earns 4X than my father income. We had some meetings around 5-15 but hardly any positive response. Female family is able to do 20-25 meetings at  minimum and they can have choice whom to reject just on weight factor too. Shitshow out their for arrange marriage. We had a quarrel at home after coming from program that i wore some multicolour tshirt thats why we dont have further meeting. Also my parents are giving me lecture that i should have wore gold chain and bracelet to impress other people. 

another thing in booklet , boys has to mention salary. There is no mandatory thing to mention salary of girl in same booklet. Also girls are given return gift for just attending the function.

fair warning - rant on whole ecosystem of arrange marriage

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Share your list. But Only unmarried women

We did a men survey with huge response rate
: https://grapevine.in/post/808462ef-8ae0-4269-aaa3-c683ba1194bb

Women your turn, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?

I was in depression a few years ago due to unexpected events in my personal life ( I don't want to give too many details, but it is related to family. Nothing happened to me) I have fortunately come out of it, but I still take medication because I don't want to relapse. Not being condescending but I have a good profile, I have studied in top tier institutions (iisc) earning well (30lpa), not beautiful but I know how to groom myself. Every guy I meet be it through friends or parents is initially very interested in me, then I tell them about my diagnosis. They straight up ghost me. Most don't even ask questions to know more. 
 TLDR someone with an open mind and doesn't have a prejudice against mental illnesses.

Data Scientist

Women in startups how do you feel about the 400 member strong tech team with just a few women developers and product and project managers? 

Men just don’t get it- all our lunch hour conversations about which fit girl and mommy they saw in the gym and which HR is cute. They talk about how they are just not able to find qualified and good female developers and how they prefer to not hire them because they cry so easily under pressure. 

While I am at a pretty good positon and work shoulder to shoulder with my all male team, I feel extremely weird about how all men are okay with male bosses being random and rude and somehow associate it with how intimidating and god like these male bosses are. Same for women is bitchy and entitled.

When around them 12 hours a day, I tend to internalise how they view men and women. I am above average smart, joined top consulting firm out of undergrad and work on key projects at a startup at all but 23 years. But I tend to internalise the need to be pretty and slim, and polite or they would talk about me like this behind my back. 

What to do

Rant about men in startups

Growth Manager

Why do female founders and other budding LinkedIn female influencers post their personal pictures(gym photos, selfies, random photos of themselves) on LinkedIn? It’s a professional platform for fucks sake. 

You don’t post these photos on Leap Club but LinkedIn is okay because validation. 

And nobody calls them out. Men are lost in simp behaviour and others ignore them.

Personal photos on LinkedIn

This might be controversial but i want to know just why so many benefits for women in tech ? , I saw special hackathons only for women and also special trainings from big companies like Amazon only for women and of course diversity hiring.  Is it because men can't work enough and women do more or what ?

Why special place for women in tech ?

Because men forgot that women can also work, and continued to hired only of their kind. Men also went above and beyond to keep women suppressed in all the ways possible.  
  
 It's not a special place for women. It's just making their entry to tech easier. Because, husbands are already making their wives life/work-life miserable, so are the fathers for their daughters. All these programs are to bridge the gap of having an near equal perspectives in everything - the gap which shouldn't have occurred in the first place.  
  
 But yes, there's a big hole in the approach. Those who're already getting equal and ample opportunities/would have succeeded by their own (from tier 1 or some tier 2 cities and colleges) are getting access to most of these program. They will be a part of multiple programs and prevents those who could have made use of it from making use of the opportunity. Most of the profiles that you see come under this category.  
  
 But there are organizations that specifically look beyond them, into the tier 3 colleges where students could be upskilled and hired. So is the case with return to work programs as well.  
  
 Most of the men see women as someone who's not capable of doing anything. If women, by any chance, gets to their level or goes above them, men can't stand that. Why go further, some men even ensures that women are not even getting to their level, and even if they reach, be under them itself rather than considering women equal.  
  
 With all these problems, women don't complain much as well. So yeah, whatever 'special' things are there, that just tried to help a bit. That's it.  
  
 If companies feel that they're not working properly, next steps will be taken accordingly. A business can be run by just women as well, like how men ran it all this time. 
  
 For every type of women (in tech), there will be an equivalent type of men as well. 
  
 So yeah, being men, if we're not helping them, at least don't complain.

Basically some of my work friends and I went to Thailand. We had a gala time there and explored a ton of places. All of us stayed at this really nice hotel which had a beautiful swimming pool. We went swimming there quite a few times. 

So, I have a DailyObjects bag that I got for free on my purchase. I use this primarily for carrying towel, undergarments, swimsuit, sunscreen etc. Another colleague of mine has the same bag with the same colour. 

He accidentally took my bag and I took his. I got to realise this when I opened the bag and saw swimming trunks and a book. I called to tell him about it and it was too late.

His wife picked up the phone and enquired about why I had placed my undergarments in her husband's bag. I clarified that it is just a mistake and that we accidentally swapped our bags but she was not budging. So I hung up after getting scared.

She has called me 5-6 times in the last week but I am too scared. What should I even do? Whenever I try to explain the situation she starts screaming at me again. It was a simple mistake but this woman is overreacting and my colleague also agrees. 

She's completely psycho and thinks that I am trying to steal her husband.

Colleague's wife is screaming at me on call.

What kind of work friends in a male and female group go to Thailand, without their spouse?

Analyst

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Mumbai woman with 4 LPA salary seeks groom who earns 'at least 1 crore, is surgeon or CA'

See nibbas, This is what happens when y'all be out there all horny and super desperate.

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Software Test - QA

So, recently there is a surge of peeps from igdtuw posting about their placement and internship in LinkedIn Twitter(congratulations). And there are a lot of arguments and confrontations going on about diversity hiring, recession proof college, etc.
But what bothers me are people that are frustrated (even tough I understand the frustration) and tweeting shit like girls are getting opportunity only because of diversity hiring and all, bro are you dumb or what, no company would hire a liability, they might hire intern randomly but it's close to impossible to convert it in full time ( if you got no skills or required skills).

Now there are some peeps from igdtuw confronting in a very rude and dumb way of showing how low the bar was for their qualification and test.
One user tweeted something like "some boys crying about diversity hiring but are busy writing just Hello world" like behen at least write busy in reversing linkedlist. 

There is a girl (unnati) working at Zomato, she is giving gyan about how hard it was for her and how hard she worked for it, her GitHub is dry lake and the 1 year she was very active on GitHub( all of them were DSA question solved) that's it, she participated in a hackathon and got podium finish (i think), the only reason she was in the hackathon group was because there is a mandatory rule for one female member. all this is fine as life is unfair but the best you can do is not preach toxic positivity "ki karte karo ho jaayega" behen tu kab Kiya ye to bata?

And some girls are feeling guilty of their privilege, so the best way to not feel guilt of your privilege is to enjoy your privilege to your max potential. without showing your arrogance maybe.

All these shit are even tolerable because everyone is unique with different minds, different opinions, but those positivity ke dalal are the worst who are still saying karte raho ho jaayega and all.Peeps like unnati

I am practicing to become more articulate, so feedbacks are welcome.

IGDTUW peeps, just enjoy your privilege and stop confronting frustrated peeps

TIL the term “Glass Cliff”

Quite fucked up. They're just setting her up for failure. 
Boeing has done couple of screwed up shit, and the killing of their whistleblower was really the last straw. 

Was watching the documentary recently. The first plane to go down was a Lion Air plane, the pilot was an Indian. They ended up blaming the pilot for the crash and said "A US trained pilot would have known how to handle the situation" 

Turns out, the pilot was actually trained in the US, Boeing was just being racist.

Corporate Strategist

I seriously would like to know how to go about asking someone you like in an office setup? Without it becoming awkward later on if handed with rejection.
Also making sure that the person being asked out does not feel creeped out.

Let's talk about office romance

I am recent college graduate working at a good company with decent salary. 
I have three kind of friends from my college, 
1. Those who got very good ctc, like 15 to 30lpa ( mostly girls are here ) 
2. Those who got decent, like 5 to 7 lpa
3. Still trying to get job, or have one but company is delaying on boarding. 

But the fact is everyone has more or less same level of knowledge, still someone making lakhs and someone is not able to pay bills.

These days I'm getting a feeling of jealousy from these girls, they got the opportunity from programs which was only for womens. And not only this when I talk with them they don't even respect what they're getting, always like it's so less, I'm not able to save anything.

Whenever I talk with them, either I got stressed or  tensed, or felt left out.

Sharing my thoughts

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I feel Linkedin should remove posting pictures option or should allow to report the post if the photo and content has no co-relation.  
  
  
 lots of so called influencers be posting copied content or success stories with a random ass photo.

Staff Engineer

If we open up to girls about our feelings, we either be ridiculed or weak but if girls open up there is a whole community supporting them!!

Even if it's men's mental health month, are there any open talks or girls helping out??? NOPE

WE CAN EITHER SHUT UP AND LOCK IN OUR INTEGRITY OR SHARE OUR THOUGHTS TO THEM....


Convince me! 

Ps: no fights just a post to look out to talk with girls🥴

Is it just me or we Bois are really afraid to talk to girls about our feelings

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Hi I’m an above average looking and average height guy. I’ve been looking out for a serious relationship for years now and it really sucks. I mean career wise, I’m doing great. I’ve a stable career with a good car and my own house. Something that women consider for serious relationships turning into a marriage. 

I’m also very religious, super good at heart, loyal, caring basically too good to be true. I’m so loyal that I stop looking at other women even at talking stage. Send flowers randomly etc etc. 

Now the problem is, apparently if you don’t play mind and manipulation games, or basically be toxic, you won’t get a good partner. 

Every woman out there says she’s looking for 90s love and nice guys who care for her etc etc. Then why are people like me single? Not only me i know many men who are good at heart being played by such women. Why are you lying girls?

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I want to share my experience as a fresher at Accenture, my first company from a college placement. The first six months were fine, but then I faced severe mental harassment from my supervisor and manager. She constantly criticized my work and gave negative feedback, causing me immense stress. I often skipped meals and worked weekends to improve, but nothing helped.

Despite reporting the issue and requesting a supervisor change or a different track, my requests were ignored. The harassment worsened, affecting my physical health, and I couldn't eat or sleep properly. My manager controlled trivial aspects like where to sit and whom to talk to, making the situation unbearable. I was even forced to switch from a developer role to a tester, despite being trained as a developer.

The final straw was being placed on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) without a clear reason, with the same harassing individuals assessing me. I only had 1.9 years of experience then. I reported the mental harassment to HR and resigned due to deteriorating health, panic attacks, and weight loss. Despite having no other job offer, I couldn't continue. Even during my notice period, I was forced to complete PIP assignments, which led to suicidal thoughts and further health issues.

Now, I am jobless, feeling helpless and frustrated. With less than 2 of experience, I struggle to find offers in a down IT market and don't know what to do next.

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