fair warning - rant on whole ecosystem of arrange marriage

I know I'm not the only one having to go through this. Let's speak our heart out.

The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo

Despite the "modern era" we live in, many of us still find ourselves on the path to arranged marriage—often feeling like it's the only option we have. Speaking from personal experience, I've had my fair share of bizarre encounters. Hearing similar stories from my male and female friends who are also going through this process has provided some comfort, especially knowing that I'm not alone. Let's use this comment section to share our experiences—whether they were bad, weird, gut-wrenching, blood-boiling, or even heartbreakingly disappointing

TLDR; I want help in financial planning for my marriage. I have 3 questions which are written at the end of this post. Hi everyone, I sat with my parents to prepare most basic itinerary for 4 functions of marriage, which also includes upgrading the kitchen, bedroom etc. The total amount for that is 21 lacks. Along with this the bride will also be fully taking care of 3 functions. (2 only for themselves, 1 where people from both sides will come) Since we are not in conversation with any potential family, so I CAN ASSUME that they will do it one their own. When we sister got married we gave dowry but we don't wanna have any gifts in any form. (strictly) So, I am in my mid 20s and earning monthly in the range of 90K. Current Expenses: 1. Car loan of around which has EMI of 23K and it has 30 EMIs pending. 2. 40K contribution to household 3. No rental charges since it is wfh Rest of the 25K I save/invest. Current savings - around 2 lacks which are liquid. My questions - 1. If I plan to marry in next 2 years. Then what should be my approach? I am looking to change company for better salary. Anything apart from this I should do? 2. There is no quick money technique nor I want to fall for that. So, what would "you" have done if you would have been at my place? 3. We do have a bungalow which has evaluation of 60 lacks. I don't want us to sell it. I may have to build few rooms on the first floor to start with rental income. What do you suggest wrt this?

I've been of the opinion that I don't want to marry and will enjoy life single. Turned 28 this year and for some reasons, my thoughts and perceptions changed and decided to give it a shot. Installed a matrimony app and didn't find much things happening there until I found a girl whom I thought I would give a try. I requested a match which got accepted very soon. Fast forward, it's been 2 months since we whastapped each other. The only thing bothering me is that she's working in audit and says that she's too busy for texts, calls etc. And over the course of this 2 months period, we only managed to call each other thrice(including 1 video call). I had asked her to atleast try to call me but she's too busy/ not feeling well/ tired etc. I really had feelings for her initially, but even after multiple attempts, she still keeps me waiting, I feel I'm slowly losing it and have reached a stage where i don't feel anything. What should I do? P.S. we live in different time zones with a difference of 1.5 hours and by the time I'm back from gym, it'll be 11-11:30 pm her side. I try to have food and everything very quickly and make time for her everyday, only to be disappointed most days. And most of her texts are scattered, with time gaps ranging from 10-16 hours at times. She tells me she's too exhausted and has no energy for anything but I am cent percent sure that she is using phone for insta, twitter etc even when my chats are waiting.

To all those guys who have decided to stay unmarried for their whole life.... What's the reason ?????

26M, avg looking introvert, I have worked hard and only focused on my career, so consider 0 pro-dating skills. Shy to open conversation/first move to a girl. but confident that I hold the conversation after building the rapo... looking for genuine advice, that's why I have opened up to the community! tried few dating apps but bad experience mostly fake or i dind freak girls or girls chatting for timepass or scams. but sadly, it looks like arranged marriage might be the default option for me... but I like to have a love marriage

Hey guys, This thread is especially for males. Anyone here who got his match through these apps like jeevansathi/ shaadi ? Was it a tough journey for you and how were you able to convince your better half? 😄

I got huge love and support from Grapeviners on my wedding posts https://share.gvine.app/xmMLoy48oRDNkJ7G7 So me and my beautiful lady got married last week, Friday. Earky morning 14th, I along with my close friends left for wedding destination. All of this was conveyed to my family (Mother & Sister) and on the morning of 14, my mother said, “Do think one last time.” I replied with the same to her. On our way, my Sister called me and said, stleast you should have met me before going. But post this call she called my to be wife and asked for her Mother’s and Brother’s mobile number. In reply my to be wife(now wife) replied that “Why? And I have to ask “me” for this”. She then called me. I called my sister and she started spewing things against her to me. She started convincing that if she is not respecting us today how will she respect us in future. And they also threatened to book a tickets for them to come to the destination. Then my maternal uncle called my friend and told him “Whatever is happening is wrong, and if you can stop it plz stop”. Lot was happening over phone. My mother and sister were continuously asking me to cancel the marriage and come back home. I was getting worried, what if they come tomorrow. They are in process of taking any step to halt the things. We all reached destination, got a warm welcome from my to be wife’s family. Few events started happening and we all started enjoying them. In evening I met my to be wife and she was worried and fearful. What is they(my mom, sister and Maternal uncle) come at the location. They will create a scene and there are lot of family members over there. To escape this, I took a call to tell my family that I ran away from the marriage. I kept them involved in this till the marriage got over. But even till now, I have not told them that I got married. Now I want to tell them this but have to figure out how?