BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

WFH = 0 Social Life

I have been on a permanent wfh role since covid. Yes, been 2+ years since I stepped into an office. I stay alone and have little expenses but also 0 social life. Friends are all spread out. Not on any dating app because its exhausting. Can someone just talk about any impacts on their personal life from work life? Does anyone here feel a void too? I’d love to connect.

16mo ago
DerpyPancake
DerpyPancake

I have been working remotely and honestly, I don't want to go to office ever (at least that's what I feel right now)

I don't want to become besties with my coworkers, and I stay with family so I'm very happy spending all my time with my favourite people in the world! I also have the option of traveling and have decided to take an out of Delhi trip every 2 months at least

I might be biased, because my parents and immediate family are professionals as well and have home offices, so all my life, I've had the kind of atmosphere where offices don't play a huge role, so I'm happy!

But yes, I suppose I do get the socialising aspect, it becomes harder to make friends as one grows older, especially when all your school/college friends have office jobs 🙃🙃

PerkyNarwhal
PerkyNarwhal

Yes That is what I also think

GroovyPancake
GroovyPancake
Student16mo

Which company

SquishyTaco
SquishyTaco

As an Introvert WFH is all I want. Doing WFH for 3 yrs+, Looking for more.

ZippyMarshmallow
ZippyMarshmallow

Which company?

PrancingPretzel
PrancingPretzel

Stealth

DerpySushi
DerpySushi

I have been in the same boat for more than 3 years now. The only good part is that I'm married now, and I have a supporting partner to share. But professional friends & after life was a key aspect of my personality. Just like you, I feel the void on a daily basis, but I don't see any solution to this. I miss the old me for sure. Let me know if anyone has a solution for such things.

GigglyDonut
GigglyDonut

Is this a joke? There's so many things you can do.
Local events, classes, clubbing with school/college friends. Idk if this exists but online groups for similar people on remote work.

WobblyNugget
WobblyNugget
Swiggy16mo

There is a lack of social interaction in wfh. You need to go over and above to create social interactions which used to happen by design itself in a wfo scenario.

I hope this clarifies the problem statement.

SwirlyBoba
SwirlyBoba

Why do you want work friends ? I don't want to be friends with the same people whom I work 10 hours everyday. Office gossip and work related discussion all the time makes ot so boring.

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

Its not about wanting office friends. Its about humans having social needs.

SwirlyBoba
SwirlyBoba

Yes. I mean the same thing. Office friends are just easy way out than to working hard and finding diverse social interaction. I have had office friends earlier and all it means is extension of office hours in leisure time. Better find a hobby or reconnect with school/college friends or sane relatives.
Also maybe marry, settle down and have kids ?

SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi

WFH all the way.

Screw work from office

DizzyPretzel
DizzyPretzel

I have never been to the office but why hate WFO so much. Bad experience with colleagues?

MagicalBurrito
MagicalBurrito

This was what bugged me about remote work. It becomes so easy to just get in a mode of eat sleep repeat with remote. Its exhausting to try to make new relationships outside of what you are exposed to.. Travel has so meaning because of friends, otherwise you are just paying through nose for some random scene. I tried working remotely, and I felt it would have just been better if I took a vacation instead of bringing my work with me. That being said, I think most of us need to invest more in their hobbies. Its easier said than done. If you are in gurgaon, try these mixers where you can meet new people (look up Aragma), maybe this might help. I found a cycling group. While I could not continue because of the strenuous routine, it was a little social group that was fun while it lasted. So, try to find people who enjoy the same things that you do. It will not be easy, but that will make it all the more worthwhile.

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

Thanks for this

FluffyTaco
FluffyTaco

Off topic but which org is giving WFH even now. I really miss working from home

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

Theres loads of them - so much that there are aggregators now.

FluffyTaco
FluffyTaco

Can you share some of those aggregators. TIA

QuirkyWalrus
QuirkyWalrus

People will advice you to go to meetup, go out on the weekend etc. But they're the ones who read your post to comment, not understand what you're going through. It's not easy to socialize while working WFH.

I've worked 18 months WFH. And after a point, it was mundane and boring. I was looking for a switch then, so WFH came as a boon. But I was happy to get a WFO.

I met some really good people in last 7 months of WFO. Did a ton of amazing activities with them. Sure, I pay rent and I have lesser savings than WFH guys.

But to each their own, right?

I understand your feelings that WFH hampers your social life and I understand you completely. But no one asked you to be friends with your collegues. But it feels nice to be a part of a community. Especially after these lonely covid years.

Sure, I will look for WFH when I'm married or when I have kids. I'm sure a lot of people think this way. Please don't feel disheartened by people doing WFH and wondering why. You don't know their social situation and they don't know about yours.

But yes, make it a habit to go out every weekend. Do something. Anything. But do it.

All the best, mate.

DizzyPretzel
DizzyPretzel

Best reply here. Happy for you that you sorted it out.

DerpyBoba
DerpyBoba

WFH is when you stay with family. WFH is not when you stay in office location and not go to office. You need to get clarity on that. WFH is when you are there for your family. Available to handle any emergency in family and neighbourhood (happened with me) so in short, if you want party life, chilling in cafes then you better start office.

But then you will become Bane for us those who have genuine family concerns to attend to and be available. 😕

BubblyHamster
BubblyHamster

Ah man max relate. I've been wfh for the past one year and this is my first job. I was fairly ambitious coming out of college but now I'm losing my will to work. Don't know if it's just corporates or is it this lack of social life and bonding with colleagues.

DizzyPretzel
DizzyPretzel

Same

DizzyWaffle
DizzyWaffle

+1

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