Waking up with a lower level of energy than I used to few years bank

Software Engineer

Product Manager

1. Body ache. 
 2. Can't eat anything any time without fear of acidity or bad stomach. 
 3. Need to think twice before planning any vacation( kids school, spouse office schedule) 
 4. Weekends for house chorus or spending time with family. No time for yourself. 
 5. Tend to spend more  money on parents/spouse/kids than yourself.

Tech Lead

Consultant

Founder

Receding hairline
Harder hangovers 
Don't feel like taking bullshit from people anymore

Corporate Strategist

Actuarial Associate

Weakness that doesn’t looks from outside but can be felt like back in days in school colg our coaches used to make us run 5-6 laps of that big grounds and we did that pretty well knowing that it sucks but now just returning back from work by walking 2kms makes me feel like gasping, headache and need to rest and all. 
 In morning cannot see clearly all the farther things look blurry specially written letters. 
 Used to lift so much in gym now can’t lift and walk father with that thing, how im gonna protect the family in needs. 
 The “cannot wakup early” and “couldn’t go to sleep early” hits every now and then. 
 I know most of these can be fixed by consistency and will power to do it and some belief.  
 Cannot play a sport on a daily basis. Cannot talk to everyone that we want but resist ourselves as others might be busy.

Software Test - QA

What are the things that make people realize they’re not young anymore?

What are the things that make people realize they’re not young anymore?- Grapevine

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

Based on comments Jo career pe focus Kiya use chahiye ladki, aur Jo ladki pe focus Kiya use chahiye career. Grass is always greener on other side.

Product Owner

What are your thoughts when people say "Enjoy your 20's" ? do you agree?

Share something that changed as you aged in life

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Sometimes I usually think, Why do I lose our school and college friends one by one? Is this a sign of maturity, reality, or something else?

I am just 25 years old, and within 3 years I have lost 90 percent of my circle and the few who left, with whom I usually get time to chat, call, or plan to get out.
 
And I feel that some day I will also lose them.

Can you guys make some comments that I have became  matured or that this is the actual reality of damn life?

Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Reality of life. 
  
 Some genuine relations will still be there even if you guys aren't meeting regularly or in touch regularly. 
  
 However you can consider other relations as gone. 
  
 With time only you will know which ones are going to fall in which category.

Application Engineer

What really messes you up as you grow older?

genz

And at work 
  
 + the endless chase for the mirage that is wlb 
 + if anything isn't per their expectation, its toxic

Sales Manager

Age is a very controversial topic (which I find surprising, though I kinda understand why).

Many people crib about growing up, and often remain too deep in the nostalgia of their youth - forever wishing to go back.

Personally, I like growing older. I can see myself having improved significantly from how naïve I used to be.

I’m not looking forward to creaky bones, degrading brain capacity and the eventual downfall of human civilisation (just speculating).
But I feel that aging - and eventually dying - is what gives any sense of progression and conclusion to life.

Would appreciate perspectives from others on Grapevine. What do you guys think? :)

(Also, sorry if I ruined your day by randomly reminding you that you’re ageing. 🥲)

Thoughts on Ageing…

Product Designer

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Data engineer

Is it just me who feels the life has become boring?

30s is such a scary age, people around hype it as youth death. But I believe it has its own benefits and positives

What's that your life has given you?

[Thread] What good things happen after 30+ age

Can't understand if hairfall is because of stress or stress is because of hairfall

Investment Banking Associate

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

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I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? 

I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get.
To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. 
I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished.
I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.

Can anyone explain me what’s the point

Backend Engineer

You haven't even seen 33% of your life, what are you tired of? Trigonometric questions?

Oldie POV but what's up with 25yo tired of life, giving up

What’s something you do that really shows your age?

Fellow Grapeviners, can you please knock some sense into me?
For context, I've got a good-ish job that I think pays me easy money. i started working 5 months ago. lately, I'm feeling worthless and really thinking about quitting my job and do something impactful or crazy or financially irresponsible.

Help

Turned 21 today, feeling really, really old

Account Manager

You are 35. What have you stopped believing in that you totally believed in when you were 25?

Life lessons

Business Analyst

I used to be a creative guy in my mid 20s. I learned to play a guitar, could sketch pretty well and also used to work out pretty regularly.
Lift has changed drastically in the last 2 years and I now find myself no time to spend on my hobbies. I tuned 30 recently and have been under slight shock that my responsibilities are bound to increase due to family and work.
I had no responsibility till now and had lived a care free life.
Now that I am engaged, I've realized that I need to dedicate my time for my family, my well being, my upskilling and also some to to evaluate my finances. This has also made me realize that I won't have enough time for my hobbies/interests. I badly want to learn to play an electric guitar and the fact that I won't have much time terrifies me as I need to make a choice of doing something that I love (learn to play a guitar) or doing something that helps me to live a life and pay off my bills which basically is my full time job.
I might have a child in another 4-5 years and the responsibility of having a child terrifies me even more. 
I don't want to make a choice between being there for my child and being there for my work.
I'm not sure if I'm over thinking or just being realistic but not having enough time for yourself due to work and family has been bothering me lately. 
I'm 30 and the fact that responsibilities are bound to increase in my life terrifies me.
Is this a common and a normal feeling or is this unnatural?

Folks who are working in your 30s, do you still find time to work on your hobbies? If yes, how are you able to manage your family life, work life, upskilling, working out and making time for your hobbies?

Folks in the age group of 32 and above. What significant change you saw in your life post 30 both in terms of health and work? 

What do you wish you had done better or a piece of advice for the ones in 20’s. I understand good workouts, healthy eating and financial discipline are top of the list. Would love to get some perspectives beyond that.

How should one be prepared for life post 30?

This causes a serious meltdown in an instant. Just sharing here so that if anyone reads this.. reach out to your folks and love them with all. 🙂

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