When to Stop giving a F**k at Work?

Our team has hired a new PM who is a huge micro manager. We don't really have a sprint planning so all the tasks are decided based on availability. Tasks that do come from him are of unrealistic deadline and most of them need to be done by EOD even if the task comes in at 7pm. Dude just mentally skips the time needed for testing and other processes. Also constant pings regarding the status updates is really frustrating. This is one of those bad PM/Managers meme cone true. I would have quit if I was not in a bond until next year July. Need some tips on how to survive this asswipe for the next 9-10 months without being under constant stress and going into severe depression.

Just got some flak at work. It sucks. The world doesn't make sense. How do you deal with it?

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how. Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I am working as SDE 1 in a good Indian startup. It's getting toxic day by day. Late night workings like 3AM and working on weekends is normalised like anything. Since I am new to IT ( no sort of politics never) and have almost 2.5 Years of experience, I am facing issues in getting credits. Last appraisal cycle in January, I was nominated for promotion but wasn't given to me, reason: you have not worked with architect and he was making decisions. In that case, architect should have been distributed tasks to us. one SDE3 is leading one of the projects ( not a big one ) and manager/architect is not much interested and never join any standup or retro, I have contributed immensely to that. Now since it is completely driven by sde 3 , he takes updates from us and show his work infront of seniors and director + announces like his work and seldom we get thank you in threads. Like if you did one function or wrote complete flow, for both thank you. Because of all these reasons, my work is not getting recognised. There is no one in team to help in this. Whenever a manager or Architect show cases some features or release, it's pretty evident that his team has done it but when a sde 3 does it, it is not the same. It conveys the message all or 90% work is done by him. I would like to take some suggestions from my seniors and fellow mates here. Hierarchy - sde 1-2-3-4-EM I can't leave or switch right now due to some critical persona reasons.

My story - So I switched to a startup last year. I was initially super excited in solving problems. Asking questions and just being curious about everything in general. Then, some incidents of my manager's behavior and team folks has turned me into a person who is so fucking afraid of now asking questions, doing tasks. My stakeholder communication sometimes I miss on, some things that seem to be pretty obvious had I been my competent self of previous organization, I am missing out on. I don't communicate well simply because I don't want to face my current manager and team. There's huge disconnect as well. I am not at all excited to work everyday. My friend was miserable in my previous org but now after switch he's damn happy and doing good! I want to know if this is something that happens with you all? Or are you all like you fit in everywhere? Or is it just My problem and my incompetence? Because I am always reminiscing my past org and my performance there was exceptional!

Have you ever noticed that holding onto anger or resentment only causes you more pain, while the person who wronged you remains unaffected? Research shows that most of our negative thoughts are repetitive and automatic. It turns out, we're naturally inclined to accumulate emotional baggage. Our ego often plays a significant role in whether we master the art of letting go or not. Here are 5 simple shortcuts to help: Avoid engaging in meaningless arguments (especially about politics). Let's be honest: you're unlikely to change anyone's mind. At best, you might end up polarized, clashing with family and friends over issues that have minimal impact on your life. Be a spectator of your emotions. You don't have to dive into them unless you choose to. This takes daily practice, but it's worth the effort. Identity is an illusion. Try not to identify with your knowledge but instead be a user of it. This way, you won't feel constantly defensive when someone challenges your beliefs. Like everything, this takes practice, but it's worth it. Not giving a damn is a lifestyle. We're biologically driven to push back against things that don't align with our worldview, whether it's family conflicts or disagreements with strangers online. But what if we stopped caring about trivial matters and focused on what truly matters to us? Justice is often elusive or not worth the effort. Many times, we harm ourselves in pursuit of justice. Recognize when the urge for justice is a battle you can't win right now.

Feeling worried all the time I am 28 year old, unmarried and staying at Bangalore working at Cognizant Problems in my life 1. I am fighting with my own parents because I love a guy from different religion. He is my school mate and very good person. We both are at IT firm. He earns 38LPA and I earn 16LPA. Financially we are good and we both have very good understanding of each other. 2. I have health issues like pcod , thyroid, gas trouble and digestion issues. Constantly taking tablets and feeling exhausted all the time. 3. I have very toxic work culture at office. My manager literally forces us to work like hell. She doesn't concern about our health issues and treats like robots. I am always thinking about work and getting anxiety issues. Currently I feel like taking break from everything and focus on myself but money is also important because i want to financially independent. My brain is constantly worried thinking about future like work, health and money. Nothing really helps me and I feel worried all the time.

They have no life They have nowhere to go They have no one to be with They have no passions outside work either And they make your life hell as they become the baseline for comparison for all sorts of management from appraisal to work distribution. Feel free to disagree with me, but I’m genuinely pissed today. How do you deal with them? I have a decent life outside work but lose most of it while trying to catchup to such people so that I don’t get fired. Sorry for the title.

I am seriously asking this question, how do you work less In office, when you know you can do your work sorta easily, but you also know that whatever work you are doing is senior level work, ie not your pay scale? 🤡 I it just me or am I making sense??