People of grapevine, do you hide your income from your immediate family and friends?

I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🤧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking. Help me guys 🫡.

Hi Grapeviners, I don’t think I’m a bad person but I do consider myself superior to some friends from same background who I earn a lot more than. Do you also feel this superiority, or are you indifferent?

Whenever there is money involved or the thought of making money or comparing it, it becomes depressing for the one who is earning less at the same age and validation for one who is earning more. LinkedIn is the biggest cringe inducing platform, no doubt why corporates even make pages there. It’s simply a dick measuring app. Don’t turn this into another, where people compare it behind close doors. Life has more to than what you earn.

why do people feel uncomfortable or bad about sharing salaries with peers of the same level? if you share it then only you will get to know how much you are getting paid comparatively and next time you ask what you deserve in appraisals. why are we not helping ourselves?

I guess similar to blind everyone posting here should mention there year of experienc and TC and only then others should reply

Personally, I don't have irresponsible spending habits. But I feel that because of that I spend too little even if I can spend more. You can say I am a MISER. I want to change it for myself. I want to make myself a sensible spender, without having the guilt of over-spending. I mean, you understand that sweet spot. I want to hit that, but face a lot of difficulties. People who know me say, I am frugal and not a miser. And those who don't know or don't understand the thought behind this spending habit tell me I am a miser. Fellow Grapeviners. Can you help me with this out? P.S - My opinion is that since I was a single child of lower middle class parents who could not even afford school fees (took admission under EWS quota) to become a family who is financially strong. I feel extreme guilt, when I think of spending money and analysing the value vs money graph.

I see a lot of folks opening their calendar and offering resume review and career guidance and other things via Topmate. Some are charging like 6000 per hour. And posting that as if they are making some contribution to the community. They are keeping posts as that is their way of giving back to the community as if it's some sort of charity. How the hell is giving back to the community when you are charging 6000 per hour ?? I dont have a problem with people who keep it openly as its a way to earn some money. You are giving your time so asking money for it is not at all wrong in my book But please dont label it as charity for god sake 🙏🙏

In your friend group what's the highest Salary, if you are highest you are in wrong group 🙃