WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

Am I overthinking?

I work in remote based startup of Bangalore. And I live with my wife and infant in some tier 2 City. And my parents live in my hometown. I don't want to shift to my hometown as it doesn't have basic facilities available and I don't like being there as I get bored. My parents didn't want to leave hometown. And they continuously tells me yaha kyu nhi rehte. What should I do?

6mo ago
JumpyPancake
JumpyPancake

You can stay with parents when your Kids have vacations. Have your parents visit you for a month once or twice a year. There’s no need to stay with parents all the time, will lead to more kalesh.
Everything is good in moderation.

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

Yeah that's why yar, there are small small things which led to kalesh. Plus my wife is working and my mom will expect her to cook also and take care of baby it will be too much for her. Here atleast we have Cook and maid. Parents don't even want to hire them.

PeppyMarshmallow
PeppyMarshmallow

It’s difficult for parents to leave their social circle and move to a city. My parents also get bored when they visit me in Mumbai.

It’s best to spend some time with family in the hometown (1-2 months during festivals). At the same time they can visit and stay with you for 2-3 months. That way they will get used to city life. Help them make friends in the city, convince them to try new experiences; am sure they will start liking it.

All the best.

WobblyWaffle
WobblyWaffle
Student6mo

Those 2 3 months itself will create enough tension for living in upcoming years..somehow it is not working out

SparklyNoodle
SparklyNoodle

Shuffle between two places few months of year

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

Yeah I do this every 3-4 months we go to hometown on festivals also. And when any emergency comes I reach there in 4-5 hours.

FluffyQuokka
FluffyQuokka

They will keep pressuring u, it won't change. You have to be mentally strong enough to ignore it and focus on ur personal goals

SqueakyDumpling
SqueakyDumpling
SAP6mo

Is it even possible sometimes parents say things that hurts, and more importantly when they are the one you are looking upto

FluffyQuokka
FluffyQuokka

If u look upto them, that means u feel they give u proper advice. But in the post they arnt doing that

FuzzyRaccoon
FuzzyRaccoon

Tell them you have to go to office thrice a week. Who's checking?

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

My office is in Bangalore and I am working remotely from some tier 2 City because I like living nearby mountains.

GoofyBanana
GoofyBanana
Student6mo

Live in city and make your own roots. Parents can live till 90, how long can you keep sacrificing. You have to move ahead, parents can take care of themselves.

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

🙏🏾

FloatingRaccoon
FloatingRaccoon
TCS6mo

Where is your hometown

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

Some tier 4 City you can assume

JumpyRaccoon
JumpyRaccoon

If your hometown is not far from any city may be 1 hr), then go and enjoy on weekends in city and stay with your parents at hometown. Jo tumhe mil rha hai, pta nhi kitne ladko ka Sapna hai woh...baki Jo Maan ho

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

When they will get married and have kids than let me know is this their dream to live with parents. I know bachelor can live with their parents but after marriage so many things we have to consider.

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

What basic facilities are missing from your hometown?

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

It's a simple village type City. No medical facility, bad roads, no restaurants nearby, no movie theatre. It's a boring City.

DerpyQuokka
DerpyQuokka

Convince them for living with you, as together you can have more with each others like exploring new things, creating adventures with all, playing with your cute lil one,it will be better care for them etc..

WigglyMuffin
WigglyMuffin

I told them bro. But they don't want to leave their home. They tell me to shift there which I don't want

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