Arrange marriage first time family meet, feeling nervous
Hi people. I am 29 M, and my family started looking for arrange marriage for myself. And there is a family we are going to meet tomorrow and i am total nervous and freaking out internally.
I am kind of introverted, not very good with talking to new people, especially girls. I had few relations earlier and i am pretty comfortable with people after knowing. This is first time I am going to do this and i don't know what's going to happen. What should i expect, ask or talk about.
Any suggestions from the experienced people is absolutely welcome <3
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Was in a similar situation few months back.
But it turned out better than I expected . Looking back, what worked for me was simply being prepared.
Knowing what to ask and how to ask in front of family and in one on one convo is important.
Easier topics : education, career, daily routine, weekends, hobbies, interests, childhood, etc
Difficult ones : Career aspirations, spiritual inclination, traditions, lifestyle, finances, expectations from married life/partner, family planning,past, etc.
Most of difficult ones can be left for later meetings but can be touched upon superficially.
As others said, go with the flow but do change topics when you feel its appropriate. Keep it natural.
Also be prepared to answer questions on similar topics. Having a clear idea about what you want will make things easier.
Got it
First - nobody is an introvert. What we see on TV is not real life.
Let me share an idea.. use it sustain your conversation.
- Start witha question. Everyone does it.
- Your next point of discussion should always be related to the answer to the first question.
- Never ask more than 2 questions in a row.
- After the answer to the second question, share a related incident from your life. If you don't have one make up one. If you can make up one, just ask her what she wants to know?.
- Answer it like a story. Something from your life, somewhere you read, seen etc like that. Repeat from step 1.
Again, introvert/extrovert is all nonsense. People just lack practice.
just say allll issss wellll
Alllll isss wellll. Huuuuhhhhh!!
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Jokes aside, i went to meet a girl through the setup, she was 4 year senior than me but our family insisted to meet so i went, i asked her what she would like to have, she didn't tell anything specific, i ordered what i liked, she was being diet conscious not eating high calorie stuff, so had her portion as well, it was a good interaction but from the beginning we both knew that it's not gonna work out so we just talked about our experiences in college and job , i cracked few jokes to check if i still had that dawg in me . And we never met again .
Jo hota h acche ki liye hota h. Hope things later worked out well for you.
For me, it went well. It was a family meet. Talked with her personally for few minutes and quite liked her. We both were very nervous though. Let's see how thing goes.
Nemo bhai congrats, baat pakki karke aana
Thank you bhai. Lets see
Avoid feminist. If you are financialy strong please try to go with homemaker girl and remains happy forever. Best of luck.