Behavioural Changes

Well, if I look at my last 5 years, it sure has been a journey of more understanding myself.

1. No expectations from anyone. Doesn't matter if they are your best friends, colleagues or anyone. There was a time when I used to expect at least a bit of their time but have been disappointed on so many occasions. I learned this the hard way, to prioritise myself first than to look after what anyone else wants.

2. Living with your thoughts alone and critically see myself for the behaviour and actions I am taking. But with that criticality also put an element of understanding as to why you took the action you took and what could be done better, so as to improve yourself in the long run. The motive here is not to dwell on your past but to learn and see where you could have done better, while dissociating yourself and looking at it as a third person.
   This thing also made me realise how I was different in thinking about things and made me unique in my own way.

3. Observing other people's intentions and actions more rather than what they say. It's difficult to judge anyone for this but your gut feeling tells you a lot when you regularly interact with certain people. Trusting on that feeling made me better and I started to say NO a lot more to the people and situations where I would have said Yes.

4. Not sharing my thinking process and thoughts with anyone other than my family. I really had a hard time learning this but people don't care about what you feel and think. As soon as their motive is over or if you are not in line with their thought process, then it's useless. So, I had to learn to keep things to myself.

5. Learning to spend money wisely. It doesn't matter how much you are earning, you should know how to spend your money and where your penny is going. Maintaining a habit of covering all my expenses by myself including my higher education, courses, upskilling and all that comes while living away once I got a full time job.

6. Patience, patience and patience. Regular prayers and chanting has helped me severely in being patient with things and especially with people. I cannot stress enough about this quality in today's fast paced life. It really sets your mood upright.

7. Not taking everything personally. Listen to them carefully but not overwhelming myself with their opinions and views and not forcing my views on anyone. To each their own.

8. Being silent more often than speaking. I feel more at comfort now in being silent and listening to people rather than saying my things.

9. Being upfront with my colleagues and leaders at work and setting expectations accordingly. I have seen the worst of situations in the corporate world and how people save themselves first and would easily blame others. Giving credit where it is due, but pointing out the worst outcomes with leaders in a Frank manner. Definitely, it helped.

10. Not chasing people. If someone wants to connect with you, they will. No one in this world is that busy not to reply to your messages or call. Try once or twice. If ignored, move on. If you feel you want to cut them out, then do so. Everyone is looking out for themselves and I don't know why if they get something or someone, they try to look for better rather than nurturing the thing or people they have. So, block them if you have to.

There is a lot more on my end to say and there is a lot to improve for me. Right now, I mess up sometimes with my routine and have not been able to exercise enough. At times, procrastination occurs. But the thing is, I am more aware, focusing and improving myself rather than focusing on someone else.

Cheers !! 🥂