Hello Viners,
I graduated in 2019,(27 male) most of my life I have worked from home. I am an introvert,Recently I got a new job offer and I am finally moving to Bangalore.
My mom is asking me to get married. The main concern of my mom : As I get older, getting good rishta is difficult.
My situation:
As of now I don't have any loans to pay.
Throughout my life,I have spent a significant amount of my money to take care of my older brother's education and family responsibilities.
Now,my dad says I am still young to get married.
I am torn between my mom and dad.Of course,at the end of the day it will be my decision I won't make decisions due to my mom's pressure.
But I have seen my colleagues in 29-30s struggling to get married.is it same across whole india?
Just wanted to ask fellow viners,when did you think you were ready to get married?
@SecondNarrative Are you married to give this shit advice?? @Welt_yang bro get married as soon as possible. You grow up emotionally and mentally once you are with someone. And yes there are many benefits of early marriage. Let me tell you :
You finally stop worrying about the marriage issue, which might come after 30s, if I will get any girl or not now and all.
( if married now) you know ur partner very well before 30. Which is very important for creating bond.
Life is very less. Office colleagues and parties are shit things believe me, nothing is bond like thing there, everyone is with you for a reason there,so after a while it's all boring. But with your partner soon u will have a very cool bond and it takes time to create that bond.
Don't think of marrying any papa ki pari types girl, marry a girl which ur parents like, belive me they might not be that educated like you, but they will kow a good character girls and bad once with just a glance.
And finally don't listen to this shit people who advice not to get married soon, watch some interviews of anshuman Khurana (article 13 movie actor), he got married when he was 24, then they got kids soon then her wife got cancer but they fought hard and all is ok now, if you don't like my advice, listen his interview then you might feel something.
Yes thank you taking your time to write this ,I will surely have a look at that podcast.
Yes I am married. The thing is you think its your way or highway. Doesn’t happen like that. Early marriage worked for you doesn’t mean it will work for everyone and the so is the vis-versa. Also I have seen many marriages fixed by parents which have gone haywire. Marriage is not a elastic band that will fit everyone
Dont get married because you are asked to. 27 is still young enough to be married. But then again there is no age for that. Since you are moving to Bangalore, try new experiences which you might have ever wanted to do. May be in 1-2 years you will be interested to marry. After marriage you cant back out
Thanks for the advice
The funda is very simple, the longer you wait for marriage, the selection pool keeps getting smaller. Similar to the saying early bird gets the worm. This is true in this setting as well. Do what you have to with this information.
Looking at the current scenario there's definitely a demand-supply mismatch in the marriage industry. Considering all these factors, mid 20s would be the ideal time to marry IMO.
Absolutely, true .I will have a talk with my parents.
Bud I'm from the best UG and MBA colleges in India.
I have multiple friends who are 32-34 and from the same pedigree, earning in the top 0.25%ile, who have been looking out for >4 years for a suitable match, but they're so far unsuccessful.
What we have collectively realised is that the kind of women we want as our partners - from equally great edu pedigree, ambitious, great careers, from the same value systems as us - they are off the market by their late twenties only (more than 80% get committed during MBA itself 🙈)
Plus these kind of women view men who are unmarried and single well into their 30s as a red flag- and honestly can't blame them for thinking so.
Those are my two cents from the other side of the thirties, do what you will with it 👴🏽
That's scary,tbh.Thanks for letting me know about this ,I thought If i make more money,I will get good matches regardless of age
At any age, finally it boils down to your expectations and your rishtas expectations... And at times expectations grows as you age and starts to drop down after 35
I didn't know about this.Thank you
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