Why don't you convey in advance that it will be contribution? Most of them treat dating as free luch / dinner so if you expect them to pay then tell it upfront.
Date someone who is happy to split or spend 🧘
Easier said than done
😀 because I have one, who loves to spend on me and never hesitate to share in between.
Yes It's tough, but you need to go above and beyond for someone who is really a queen inside... rather than someone who lives for instant validation.