Does a father put his children in trouble?
Here’s a story: A father took on a large amount of debt, putting his family in financial distress. His wife has been struggling since their marriage, while the father doesn’t work and spends his time on his phone. This has left the family, including their two children, to suffer.
The elder daughter, now 24, has a low-paying job and feels conflicted about her future. Should she focus on building her career and live independently? Or should she consider marrying to start a new life? With a younger brother still in intermediate and a home lacking happiness, she’s uncertain about the right path forward.
What would you do in her place? Any advice for her?
Don’t treat marriage as a solution to your troubles. And when you already notice one marriage in deep trouble, why do you want to experiment with another marriage! And one should not try to escape from troubles, it might sound cliché, but if you think of it, doing something in order to escape from something has likelihood of landing you into deeper soup! Good Luck.
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To add to it, marriage needs commitment, adjustments, getting into new roles and new environments, which could be too much to adjust for someone already facing issues.
So unless the husband is really well known and loving, and completely on same page and supportive (love marriage with well known person), it could turn even more worse.
I'm kinda in a similar zone. My father didn't take any responsibility for his father (my grandfather) and left him to die, didn't bother about wife's health(mental/physical) who's traumatized by this marriage arranged by elders and only living considering the future of her two children. He failed to provide for children the support of a father - which I can understand if there's any genuine reason - but him being a psychopath - was only my mistake to expect
Despite several aspirations I had to take up responsibilities early - Father got admitted in ICU twice eroding all savings personally of mine, asking for relatives and friends for support, arranging for grandfather's funeral, and marriage for my elder brother etc.
In this case - with my limited experience, I'd say
Try to enhance skills and grow rapidly - job switch etc. till 26,27,28 years of age
By then brother should likely finish graduation - talk to brother about the responsibilities and life so that he is realistic and plans the future about getting a good paying job etc.
Staying with family till brother finishes his education is what I'd do. But at the same time I'd be enhancing my career as well.
Marriage is not a solution right now and it would add more to one's responsibilities. Let things settle. This too shall pass.
Well said
@CodeBreakr want to write an essay but can't😶